Why don't guys like to eat out their lover?

Is it too much of a hassle, or do they generally find it gross?
Like I always return the favour I'm good like lol
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  • Lots of us enjoy going down on our girls, actually. But, yes, some men don't, and for several reasons. I don't AGREE with their reasons, but I can at least understand where SOME of them are coming from, and others I think they are just selfish.

    Some guys think giving a woman oral is unmanly or weak, and threatens their masculinity (I obviously don't agree).

    Some guys have a literal fear of vaginas.

    Some guys have had a bad experience with a girl who wasn't clean/wasn't healthy, and they are scarred for life. LOL.

    Some guys have NO IDEA what the anatomy is down there and KNOW that they have no idea what they're doing, and they're afraid to be exposed as being ignorant. Most guys feel like they're expected to be sex experts from Day 1, and that every "real man" knows what they're doing, and if a guy feels like he can't live up to that expectation, some of them are afraid that the woman will insult him and emasculate him for not knowing what he's doing. (This one I understand - it's also one that can be pretty easily solved.)

    And some guys are just selfish and self-centered, and they're good-looking enough, popular enough, high status-enough, or wealth enough that they know they can get away with being completely selfish... because most women will put up with it in order to try to "keep them." In my lifetime, I've probably ran across around 50 guys - all good-looking, popular "player" types, who have talked openly about sex and it's VERY clear by their descriptions that they're completely selfish in bed and care absolutely NOTHING about the woman's experience - it probably never even occurred to them to think about it.

    To be fair, I've encountered FAR more who loved giving girls oral and some who bragged about their skills, etc. Still, I've definitely known a bunch of guys who were very selfish and self-centered, and knew they could get away with it, because the women would rather have a hot, high-status guy than have a guy who respected her in the bedroom.

  • I think some guys only care about their own needs and others are grossed out by female anatomy. They don't mind getting their dick wet, but when it comes to their mouth, lol.

    If these guys would just take their time and give it a chance. When I first ate a girl out, I was scared to death. I had no idea what I was doing, but I kept moving my tongue to different areas to see what she liked.

    This guy I used to be friends with said he'd never eat a girl out because pussies stink. I told him, "That's only the girls you're with." I've eaten out plenty of girls and I can honestly say I've only eaten out one girl that smelled down there. It smelled like ass! I figured though she was probably having female problems.

    If I was a girl, I wouldn't stay with a guy who wouldn't eat me out. Part of sex in relationships is about exploring each other's bodies and finding out what the other one likes. One of my female friends always says never to get with someone who's afraid to explore your body. because if they're not comfortable with you exploring their body, they're not comfortable with you.

    People that find the human body gross, but are OK with making genitals the exception, shouldn't be having sex.

Most Helpful Girls

  • is it a boyfriend or were u just curious? if it’s boyfriend i’d give him the same treatment and refuse oral and see how he liked it. but not in a toxic way it’s just a lesson of get what you give

    • Judt curious, I have had guys in the past not wanting to but mostly they would do it if I did it in return

    • if they start eating you out first before you even do anything to them that’s a green ass flag.

    • To true 💗

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  • We need to remove that trait from the gene pool.

    • Well, I'd give my girlfriend oral for damn hours and love every minute But as luck would have it, I'm infertile, so I won't be able to carry that trait on. Unless I can get the idiots who won't give their girls oral to start doing it... I'll do just that!

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  • If your guy doesn't want to give you a licking, you're just dating the wrong guy!

  • Because its gross.

  • i was dying for this but no one did it until i was 17

    • @rachel776 I did it to a 16 year old when I was 20 but I did a lousy job.

    • Ummmm, you probably shouldn't admit to engaging in sexual acts with a minor online

    • @Rangers You should probably not make comments about something that you know nothing about. The girl was not a minor child. In Ohio, the AOC is 16. Ask questions, or know the facts before you admonish someone for being a child molester.

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  • If she is a good woman, I prefer to give her more head then she gives me. Keeps her happy and I don't want to be selfish.

  • You just haven't found the right guy.

    Love going down on my lady. Gives a level of control and then knowing when I get her to finish is always just as satisfying.

  • My ex boyfriend said his jaw gets sore... thats why he didn't want to.

    • What’s wrong with taking a break midway?

    • @jjj101010 i can only wish

    • Or just learn to improve so it doesn’t take as long

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  • This is a joke , right?

    • Wish it was sir , some guys don't want to it's kinda weird 😕

    • That is weird to me as well , I could understand if it was with a girl that they barely knew but a girl that is their partner? I would be going down on her all the time and if she does the same to me , I think we would be a pretty damn happy couple, It totally wouldn’t be an issue with me what so ever

  • Maybe it's the taste? 🤷🏽

  • It should never be about returning the favor. One does oral to give pleasure to their partner. Some people haven't learned that. I love pleasuring my partner with my lips and tongue, and she enjoys it.

  • *Some guys are reluctant because they are concerned with hygiene. A gamey girl ruins the game.
    *Some guys have performance anxiety; knowing they don't know what they are doing.
    *Some guys believe that cunnilingus is an act of submission and feel it is beneath them to do it. I have read, plus have direct evidence, that this occurs more often in the Black culture. Three I have been down on told me the same thing.
    *Especially with hook-ups and casual sex, many guys are concerned she will have leftovers from the previous lover.

    • Sounds like those guys have trust issues 🤔

    • With a hookup? Of course. If they know each other well, housekeeping should not be an issue. Personal insecurity is not a trust issue. Neither is the submission view.

  • Not all guys are the same, I have no problem eating out a girl.

  • can't speak for others but i love giving oral and will do so for as long as she can take it :)

  • I love eating her out, so doing it is never a problem for me.

  • I love going down on pussy.

  • Lots of guys thoroughly enjoy giving oral. Ur dating the wrong kind of guys.

    • I, for one, can’t get enough.

  • I would love to do this all day long to my girl and can't understand why anyone wouldn't!

  • Luckily my boyfriend loves giving me oral. But maybe selfishness is why others don't

    • yes my x was like that she loved getting hers but never would she return that fav or gift.

  • I always do! I love to. I just kindly ask she shower and shave first. I love it soft and all smooth for me!!

  • Personally I wouldn't want a guy doing that to me because it sounds disgusting, but whatever floats your boat

    I'm sure many guys like to, though

    • How do you think about sucking penis?

    • @insteadfew How abouttttttt, you shove 20 penises in your mouth and up your ass and quit asking me these dumb ass questions (❁´◡`❁)

    • All at the same time? 🤔

  • Either they are immature, selfish or don't know this secret that oral if big turn on for girls 😏

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