Why don’t I feel pleasure with my boyfriend and I have sex?

[Anonymous]

For the record I am tight, in fact, he’s told me how tight I was on several occasions but for some reason when we have sex it doesn’t feel pleasurable to me. I can feel him inside of me but it doesn’t feel good if that makes sense... For the record he’s quite thick but not very long in size. I know it’s not me because he’s always hounding me for sex and telling me how tight I am. What could be the cause of our sex not feeling good to me?

[ohshee]

When will you're with somebody there's lots of different reasons why the first one is is because you like the person you enjoy being around with them and there should be a feeling that you get when you are with it throughout your whole body it's when two energy touch that it becomes so very beautiful and that carries on over into your sex life and when you have that every single touch every time you go in very very slow and deep it she's going to feel that to her core she's going to feel everything you do to her core and in hiding all the emotions in it and heightens that feeling so freaking deep but you have to have that then sex really means nothing not unless you just want to get off and even then it sucks you know the energy that I'm talking about that feeling and I'm talking about when you're with somebody

[Sensmind]

I don't think there is a physical cause for this - Maybe it just takes time to get used to each other - Maybe because he is thick you need more foreplay to get naturally lubricated or use some artificial lube - Experiment with foreplay, different positions and style to try and find things that suit you both - Read up on internet about sex with a thick cock or tight pussy

[Asker]

Thanks for your feedback I think The lack of foreplay could be one of the reasons because typically whenever we have sex we just go straight to it rather than doing any other type of foreplay first.

[kkirk4442]

Having sex feel good has many factors, not just that his penis is in you. You might want to do some research on the internet. Also, it's possible that you are depressed, and literally not able to feel the good feelings and joy of sex. Consider seeing a physician and/or counselor.

[Inexpensivefurniture]

I've heard the for some people penetration doesn't really do it for them. It could be that you just need a different/additional stimulation

[Massageman]

Find a new position for a different angle of attack.

[AD240pCharlie]

Could be many reasons. Have you been able to get pleasure from sex before? If not, then maybe you just simply don't know how your body works well enough yourself. If you have, then maybe you're not communicating it well enough to him?

[jerdanro]

Are you clenching? Nervous or insecure about sex?

[mido96]

It could be that you dont have feelings for him you do it just cuz he ask you for sex

[lycanthrope3]

Does he get you wet enough

[Asker]

No not really only because he doesn’t engage in foreplay

[lycanthrope3]

That may be at least a good bit of the problem, he needs to spend more time where you need it

[Willoughby23]

Sex doesn’t feel that great to me either masturbating feels better and I've never cum from having sex

[Asker]

I guess the reason I’m conflicted is because I’ve had pleasurable sex before in my life and so the fact that I don’t feel that it’s pleasurable with him just makes me feel bad Because I really love him

[Willoughby23]

Does he have a small penis