Why dont I feel arousal?

dont get me wrong, i find my boyfriend extremely attractive and i love him - but whenever we have sex i get an extremely depressive episode. he took my virginity and he treats me well, but i get the feeling that im disgusting after and I've lost value to my character.

i told him this and he said he doesn't want to hurt me so he said we won't have sex anymore. i've never really masturbated before and i never really had any interest engaging in sexual activity with other people, but i wanted to try for him.

i don't understand and he's trying his best to help me but i don't know.
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  • First of all, you're great for trying to do something to fix that... Most girls just accept how they are and don't care about their partners feelings/joy.

    Second, it's more common than you think. First, you need to get used to it. Each time will be easier. You can also try different things until something does the thing for you. Different sex positions techniques, sex in the bath, public or semi-public sex, sexy dancing, showering together, watching porn (different categories), walking around naked in the house, etc.

    Now if what you feel is insecurity about your body or sexyness I can give you some techniques that helped me in the past

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  • Have you looked up what ace means in a sexual context? Look into it and if that still not you at least you have a place to start from for further research.

    • Thanks for MHO

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  • These are good questions to discuss with a therapist.