Guys, Why finger instead of sex?

[Anonymous]

Something happened that has caused me a great deal of stress. So at a party I kind of drank a little more than I should have. One of my brother's friends were there and took me out of the house and told me I was a little too drunk and would take me home but I told him I can't because I didn't want to be alone. Long story short I kept trying to kiss him in his apartment when I was supposed to be sleeping. He turned me down a lot because "he didn't want to disrespect my brother". I kept trying and finally he kissed me. I could see he got hard so I started asking him to f*ck me. He kept telling me no and even pushed my hand away when I would grab for it. Then after all of that he told me to lay down and he laid next to me and fingered me until I had an orgasm. I'm not happy with what I did. But my question is why would he finger me and not just have sex with me? I could see he was very hard and he was even breathing different like he wanted to.

[Jamie05rhs]

He did that out of respect for you as well as your brother. He didn't think it was appropriate to have sex, but he finally relented and decided to just do you a favor and give you something to get you to calm down.

Personally, I think this is a really cute story. (Although odd and slightly problematic. But still cute.) I was impressed by the way that he handled the situation. To be honest, he earned my respect, and I was just about to tell you that I think you should date him. But then I read the update, and I was like, "well, alright, then!" So, Hooray! 😃 lol

[Jamie05rhs]

Thanks for the MHO!

[tfan1]

He was respecting you - he actually knew better than to have sex with someone who was drunk. That to me shows common sense and respect. Hex could have taken advantage of you but his good conscience was more powerful than the sexual desire and even more powerful than his erect penis. The correct head won in this case. 🙂👍

[Asker]

I understand that now, makes me feel terrible I made myself look bad in front of him

[OlderAndWiser]

He is a guy who has self-control and didn't want to do what he thought would be the wrong thing.

[Berethor]

Sounds fairly odd, after all that happen he didn't wanted to go all the way with that.

[Asker]

It was my first time drinking and I've never done anything like that before. But I was thinking the same. Do u agree with everyone else?

[Berethor]

Agree with what? that he respected you? no, I don't think that fingering is more respectful.

[Asker]

What do you think? Why didn't he go all the way?

[Berethor]

Maybe he forget to buy condoms, anyway you sure act like a bad girl while drunk. :)

[MacMan156]

Well, I guess he's a man with principle? Haha he doesn't want to F his friend's sister. But maybe he knows you want it so bad so he just finger you to help you cum

[LiamSawyer]

Simply because he respected your brother and you too much to take advantage of you in the condition you were in. This guy is a keeper if you can get him to love you after what you've done hang on to him.

[Dargil]

I can make her cum far faster with fingering.

[FunkyMonkee]

I think you already answered your own question: "he didn't want to disrespect my brother".

[Asker]

Yea, I did lol. I was wondering though why he fingered me but refused sex. But from all of the comments I get it now

[FunkyMonkee]

Most likely, he figured you were horny and wanted to cum but, he wasn't about to risk his relationship with your brother by fucking you so, he did the next best thing so that, at least YOU'D get off. Maybe if you made it official with your brother that you want him to be your boyfriend, he'd be okay to fuck you, next time. So far, he at least SOUNDS like an honorable guy.

[Asker]

Omg look at update

[FunkyMonkee]

Saw it! Sounds nice! I hope it works out well.

[Asker]

Ya thanks!

[Blackmoonsns]

Long story short he was afraid you would accuse him of rape. And his fingers can't leave his semen inside of you so that's why he compromised.

[Asker]

I didn't think about that

[JPresidente]

He may have wanted to go all the way and trust me a hard dick has no conscience BUT he knew there might be issues if he did and he respected you and your brother.

[JPresidente]

Sounds like it worked out for the best. 👍

[Asker]

It did!

[JPresidente]

That is great to hear.👍

[Wiredone]

He was giving you the most respect. He didn't want to take advantage of you in your condition. That is a true gentleman. Kudos to him.

[Asker]

Do u think he'll forgive me

[Wiredone]

I think since you weren't in your right mind he would

[Wiredone]

I'm so glad that things worked out for you. He seems like a great guy. If you cut down on your drinking you will be perfect for each other

[Asker]

Omg yea, it was my first time. Thanks!

[Wiredone]

It was your first time getting drunk? Drink slower and have less.

[Asker]

Yes and my first time drinking any alcohol. Ok I'll do that

[Wiredone]

I'm just glad things worked out for you

[Asker]

I am too, you guys are helpful. I was so scared of what he would say

[Wiredone]

That's what we're here for

[Stevefiveo]

I think he didn't want to because of your brother. But he could see that you were really horny and wouldn't take no for an answer so he figured if he fingered you and got you off then you would calm down for the night.

[Asker]

It did calm me down I finally went to sleep

[Stevefiveo]

Yeah, I guess you just have to talk to your brother and tell him that you want to date his friend but he won't unless he has his blessing.

[Asker]

Ya we're going to talk to him together I'm actually kind of nervous

[Stevefiveo]

Yeah, I don't blame you but I think things will go well.

[chilldude33]

aww what a happy ending

[Twalli]

Probably because he knew you would regret it and fucking you while you were drunk would disrespect you and his friend more.
Also it's rape. He probably is attracted towards you because he did kiss you, and I wouldn't kiss or finger a girl I wasn't attracted towards.

[Asker]

Didn't even think about rape, I was pretty drunk.

[Twalli]

From what I understand drinking doesn't make you suddenly do something you wouldn't do. Like you drink and then have sex with someone you despise and never found attractive. Drinking just makes the things you stopped yourself from doing when sober, less likely for you to stop them. I would say that you find your brother's friend attractive, but haven't done anything because he is your brother's friend. He hasn't done anything for the same reason, you are his friend's sister. If you make moves on him while sober, then you'd probably get much better reception and actually have sex with him.

[Asker]

I do find him attractive. You're right

[Twalli]

I think he finds you attractive too. I really can't imagine anyone fingering someone that they don't find attractive. I would say go for it, but I don't know if you want to risk both your relationship with your brother and his because it will change it and possibly in a bad way.

[Twalli]

Tell us how it goes with your brother.

[Asker]

Lol okay!

[TotallyAlmost]

Because he doesn't want to sex with his friend's sister. And he probably could tell you were drunk and either didn't want to take advantage of you or place himself in danger of a date rape accusation.

[peterrezeeek]

he understand that you were horny but he respects ur brother and himself ❤️

[Asker]

Thanks

[peterrezeeek]

you are welcome.. ❤️ if i were him i ate u 😘

[Beardedman1996]

Just cause he’s hard didn’t mean he wanted to, also he was probably being respectful to your brother and you because he still gave you ab orgasm like you wanted but didn’t flat out have sex with you cause you were also drunk

[Asker]

Thanks, I feel really bad about it. I'm going to apologise today. I actually really like him and I just embarrassed myself. I'm never drinking again

[Charliefretz329]

He respected you cause you were drunk and tried to accommodate without taking advantage of you

[Z1pTD]

Because this way he only pleased you and didn't actually penetrate you

[Z1pTD]

He also seems like a good guy and a keeper from that story lol

[Asker]

Thank you

[panamared1]

Go on a real date with him, he respects you

[Asker]

I don't think he would after I did that. I plan to apologise and I'm going to update this post.

[panamared1]

When you apologize, thank him for taking care of you, ask him if you can take him to dinner

[Asker]

Thank you for your advice

[panamared1]

Very welcome

[panamared1]

He might be able to look past what happened

[Asker]

Thanks so much

[Anonymous]

Because sometimes having sex is really risky.

[Anonymous]

Well I'm sure he wanted to, which is why he finally fingered you, but he was probably telling you the truth about not wanting to disrespect your brother, and probably thought fingering you would be an alright compromise.

[Asker]

Crap, yeah u r right

[Opinion Owner]

He probably still wants to. But he may never say anything about it.

[Asker]

I feel terrible for putting him in that situation. I liked him..

[Opinion Owner]

Well you can try talking to him and you can tell him that you are sorry, and you can thank him for not taking full advantage of the situation.

[Asker]

I'm so embarrassed but I'm going to do that.

[Opinion Owner]

I'm glad to hear things worked out.

[Asker]

Thank you

[Opinion Owner]

You're welcome.

[Anonymous]

He was still respecting your brother. Instead of fucking you, he pleasured you. He didn't penetrate you with his cock. He probably jerked off when you went to sleep

[Asker]

I wonder. I fell asleep right after.

[Opinion Owner]

You must have enjoyed it though?

[Asker]

Omg 😍

[Opinion Owner]

I take that as yes