Why has my girlfriend never touched my penis?

I've been in a relationship with a friend of mine for 2 months after knowing eachother for 3 years, everything is great and we have a good sex life but I find myself doing all the work in the bedroom, this is starting to become pretty fucking frustrating as she's never touched my penis except once when I put her hand on it and she immediately pulled it away.

I'm a very generous guy and even pleasured her all weekend because she wanted me to although I had a minor groin injury from work so got nothing in return.

What reasons could there be behind the fact that she's more than willing to receive pleasure but is making zero effort to make me happy. I haven't spoken to her about it yet so I'm just looking for other people's opinions (Ladies mostly) to why she's never touched me.
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I have no problem talking to her about this, I'm just wondering what reasons a woman would give for not touching their man's genitals, especially in the moment.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • I have heard of women that think it is icky. Some women have had so much proper social programming that some become shy or sometimes repelled in the presence of masculinity. I know of an extreme case where a girl was so squeamish about anything sexual and could not touch a man or let him touch her. This could be a mild variant of that.

  • try asking her: "babe wtf why won't you touch my dick? are you ok?"

    • I'm gonna try super gluing her hand to it and see if that helps lol.

    • best way to get slapped with her free hand!

    • Yeah she'd definitely do that... It's a risk I'm willing to take for a hand on the dock though!

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  • You know, women can be shy about these things. We're told not to be sexually bold our whole lives.

    Tell her you want to help her learn to feel OK being expressive with you. Tell her you want her to be free from what's holding her back. You can show her what you enjoy in a relaxed way.

  • Sit down with and talk about your sex life. It should be something that you can both talk about what you like and don't like. If it doesn't change from the talk, then you either accept it or you leave.

    • She knows what I like from me telling her and vice versa but it's only me that acts upon it.

    • then you either decide to accept the relationship for the way it is or you leave.

    • It's nothing to do with put up and shut up or breaking a good relationship up over it. I was just looking for some possible reasons behind it and hopefully getting some insight from other women who act in a similar way

  • I was going to say that maybe she doesn't know what to do or is afraid of doing it wrong, but if she's your age , she should have a clue. So maybe she's just lazy or selfish.

    • She's 26, and has had boyfriends in the past and has a child so she's got some experience at least.. though I'm not sure exactly how much penis handling she's had.

    • Well, don't throw her away yet. Lol. Show her what to do by taking her hand, yours on top of hers, and stroke your penis. If she pulls away, don't let her just yet. Tell her you want her to touch you like this. If she still can't do it, that's a red flag. You need to discuss it.

    • I'm not going to throw her away but if she's not going to put any effort into it after we've talked about it then I'll just pull the plug on the extras. Haha. I did exactly what you suggested except the talking part and then removed her hand immediately after I let go of her hand and then rolled over and let me get to work, needless to say I was annoyed.

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  • pssh, she's lucky. I have the opposite problem with my boyfriend and he won't even have sex with me. let me know how you resolve it because I'm having no luck lol

    • What? As a red blooded man I'm disgusted at your boyfriend! Like why wouldn't a guy want to have sex with his girlfriend at the very least?

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  • She's either not that into it or has intimacy issues or something. She won't get on top at all? Dang.

    • She does get into, all the signs are there and she says I'm awesome in bed but it's all completely one sided. Yeah on top is out of the question!

  • Blind fold her and pour honey all over your pipi and then let her suck it💦

    • She wants to have food sex and I'm well up for it but i have this niggling feeling that I'll be left high and dry.. or sticky and frustrated!

  • So you have sex she just doesn't touch your penis?

    • Yeah that's exactly it, there's no problems with attraction at all and we have sex several times each time we meet.. it's just once the clothes are off I get to work and she lays there receiving

    • So she's a starfish... she just lays there. That's no good, she does nothing?

    • Basically.. She has moved to the rhythm so to speak a few times but as soon as she goes out of time she stops, that's not really an issue but sexual touching kinda is if it's one sided

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  • Wtf? Like seriously? Men put up with so much crap!

    • Really eh!

  • she may be grossed out by its apperance

    • She's probably not 14

    • @TJackman im not groosed out though...

    • Nonetheless it seems pretty childish

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  • she might not be ready time and patience

  • Possibly a history of sexual abuse. Sometimes only specific things trigger bad feelings.

    • Funnily enough I thought the same but I don't think that's the case here.

  • Maybe she's allergic

    • Allergic to the diiiiiick hahaha.

  • Some girls are grossed out by penises

    • She often mentions that she's always wanted a dick, in a general way that women want a dick for the day... when she's mentioned this I think to myself "well you won't be having a wank then" haha