Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
This will be based off my own ideas and preconceptions so it's about as informed as everything else on the Internet (i.e. not very) so don't treat this as anything important or serious. I've just noticed that there have been plenty of Takes in a similar format to this but I haven't seen one about this topic. So I thought I'd give my 2 cents as I'm sure this applies to plenty of people. :)
(According to the main online site relevant to this topic, about a quarter of women are dominant and the same portion of men are subs.)
Clarification: By dominant, I mean takes charge in much of the relationship (especially the sexual aspects (though not exclusively). To clear up a few myths, I don't see submission as involving whips and chains. The woman can be in pink pajamas and wearing minion slippers and still be a boss. She can be 'mildly attractive', younger than the guy, loving, cute as a button and still be a total badass.
1. Confidence is sexy
This one is obvious but I think it's especially true for women looking to dominate men. Some people seem to think that women can't be dominant as they lack the physical strength. From what I've seen, there are only a few men that think of physical strength when they think of dominance. Hell, most of them aren't even talking about things like bondage. For me, dominance is about attitude. A woman is dominant if she is confident in her sexuality, values it and knows she has the ability to turn on the man and is willing to do so. Most of my favourite stories of dominant women don't involve bondage or leather. They just involve a normally dressed woman seducing a man and making him jump through hoops for her pleasure. It can even involve a woman teasing a man without so much as touching him.
2. They allow me to show my 'softer side'
I'd only submit to someone I liked and trusted. This means that if I'm submitting, I'm with someone (probably all alone) I can be vulnerable with, especially as she will control the situation and guide my actions. She doesn't expect me to be 'macho', tough or 'alpha' because that's her role so I can relax and be open about my feelings without fear of 'losing control'. Also, imagine a situation where you can completely follow someone's lead, so fully confident in someone's love for you that you will be perfectly safe. That's heaven for me.
3. It's different
It's safe to say that the 'man lead, woman follow' template is pretty much standard. I know women get a far worse deal than men when it comes to social expectations but 99% of the films I've watched, send the message that to win the girl, I have to save the world/defeat Megatron. Most tips about relationships suggest that I need to buy gifts, make the moves, be confident, take the initiative wrt dates and choose the location for dates as well as loads of other things so the idea of taking a back seat (ito decision making) in bed is hugely appealing and makes for a nice and interesting change.
[Anecdotal evidence time] Also, as far as I can tell, in most relationships which are openly dominant, the man was the one to suggest it. Almost all online discussions of how to turn a relationship into one where the woman is dominant are started by men. This suggests that plenty of men wouldn't mind sharing control a bit more.
4. I don't have to second guess what I'm doing and what you want
Women can be very confusing. Sorry but you are. I understand the culture of long dead, human sacrificing and polytheistic civilisations better than I do the average woman. They frighten me less too. So the fact that I (as a straight man) want a lifelong relationship with one is pretty daunting (it's like being a cat person but being allergic to them). This is why the idea of a woman who is direct and clear about what she wants and what would make her happy is incredibly appealing to me. I get to feel confident in what I'm doing without being a mind reader.
5. The idea brings out my inner romantic
I know dominant guys can be romantic too but lots of guys worry about how to be dominant and chivalrous at the same time. I don't as I would much prefer being able to be with a woman who doesn't expect me to take charge. In my mind, submission and romance aren't different at all. I'm not a masochist you see. I want my submission to mean something and be well received because acting and showing my love through acts of service is a great way to compensate for my (relatively) poor verbal skills. By submitting, I feel more comfortable expressing my love and doing things that will make her happy. By defying gender roles, placing her at the centre of my actions and working to please her, I get to fully express what I'm feeling and women who feel comfortable with being in the 'driver's seat' are free to appreciate that.
6. Some fetishes help
Some fetishes go naturally with being dominated. Plenty of men have a thing for female feet, women in leather or high heels or being spanked. Fetishes that lend themselves to being dominated. This point is pretty self-explanatory but it is interesting that the image of the strong, leather clad domme is a part of popular culture despite men rarely submitting to their partners in popular media (e.g. films).
7. It's unpredictable
As opposed to a situation where the girl expects me to ask her out, to arrange where we're going, what we're eating, how much it will cost and initiate sex, I'm with someone who feels comfortable taking charge. I don't know what the other person will do. It also means that she is comfortable with asking for what she wants, rather than either of us falling into the trap of viewing sex as some kind of reward or one sided venture, instead of the mutual experience it should be. Plus by not doing the "normal" thing, we get to discover things for ourselves.
I've been wanting to finish this for months and finally got the chance. Hopefully many of you like it. :)
*NOTE: I've gone out of my way to avoid making this inappropriate and none of the images feature any nudity so hopefully this is ok. :)
What Girls & Guys Said
18 27Would I say i was the dominant one in our relationship, well in day to day stuff i am quite happy for him to make the decisions and I tend to just do what he decides.
That changes when it come to sex, when its me who is in control. Personally i love it as it means that I get to choose the positions that give me the most pleasure, and I would urge all women to do whats best for them.
Yes we do use toys and some are designed to inflict pain, but there is no way I would want to really hurt my boyfriend, just a little bit is fine by me xx
I'm so new to I want to be dominated, but once I know more I want to be dominant once in a while.
Agreed it can be new and good for the taste..
But that women need to be someone as Georgous as @lumos and someone as crazy as @WhatTheHellAmy (45 💏/last 3yr 😂😂👍 I will remember that forever.. I find you even more sexy now..)
I love this! Thank you. I wish I could date men who are willing to let me lead. Sadly, I've only been in relationships where the guy makes the decisions.
I wish I could date a girl like you then. Sadly girls like that seem thin on the ground. :/
Simple reason: BECAUSE YOU'RE A BETA MALE ROFLLLLLLLLL.
Anyone who uses the word 'Beta' without irony needs to grow up.
Beta detected.
You make a lot of good point but I'd rather have an equal partner with all the traits you mentioned than completely submit.
No problem. That sounds great too. :)
I LOVE how mature you are in the replies you gave to people. I'd love to be with a guy like you so much. I'd like to try out being dominant.
Wow, thank you. :) So you wouldn't see a guy like this as being weak or childish?
No. I've met tons of guys who pretend to be dominant, but then act like toddlers when they don't get their way. I think it depends on your demeanor and confidence.
Thanks. People have asked me what do women get out of something like this. Could you tell me why this kind of relationship appeals to you (last question, I promise :P)?
Don't mind at all. You said you like being romantic so that sounds lovely to me. I mean, what do guys get out of relationships where they're dominant and do everything? That complaint doesn't make sense to me. Especially since guys will do a LOT of the work during sex. If I was with a sub guy I'd give him lots of pleasure too. I like oral better than sex, so we could do that a lot. And I'd do it to him the most lol Would you let a woman give oral to you or is that not dominate to you? I'd only have a problem with that.
Sounds great. XD Would you only be dominant in bed or in general? I would. I don't think it really affects how dominant she is if it's what she wants. I'd probably lose my mind when she does it so she'd clearly be in charge there. lol
I'd try to do it all the time. I used to shy, but my real self has always been semi-violent and likes telling people what to do lol Not saying I'd hurt anyone, just that those were my true feelings under the anxiety I had when i was little.
So now, I do tell people what to do and <3 it lol
Cool. :) I think the main point for me is 5. I kind of like the idea of making the woman happier so I'd probably try to help with the anxiety. :P Funnily enough, I have issues with anxiety too; it's funny how different people cope differently.
Nice post
Good take dude. As @thewanderingme said, you might prefer having an equal in the relationship. I know I do.
Thanks. :) Yeah you might be right. I think I focus more on when women are dominant because the stereotype is the opposite. In reality, someone who can be more balanced would be best.
Right. I know how I am. A gal who's an equal in the relationship would be great for me since I'd get bored if she was too submissive and "wary" if too dominant. Best of luck dude.
Thanks. :) You too.
I am a switch. Therefore I feel u here
Awesome take. I'm with you 110%
Thanks. :)
Lmaoo ok OP, Get me sandwich or I'd kick ur ass.
No thanks. You can keep acting the online tough guy in the comments though, I don't mind. I've nothing to compensate for. :)
Ik. You like getting pegged and you know you like it OP, you'd like to think my jacked amazing bod punishing u. I can do it better than chicks brah
This isn't the depths of craigslist "brah" he's obviously straight and not into you Polocrew, so stop offering him sex. This is so creepy lol chill!
@Minxxie we Christan grey now
I don't like dominant women. You must be a beta little Momma's boy.
Oh yeah. I lack the inner strength of you, Internet hardman.
Don't go there little boy. You will lose.
I prefer feet, spanking but not that dominance you're talking about. I would rather put it as being 'on service' to my m'am.
I for one can't get enough of submissive guys. There are a lot of them out there but not enough dominant women I think (probably because gender roles are still in the process of shifting). I don't know why but they just make me melt! I get so protective of them. Their 'weaknesses' just make me love them more and I do what I can to build them up. I hate that they get hauled over the coals by other guys - and girls - for not being 'alpha' or macho enough. All that does is force guys to be assholes - someone they aren't. It's so damaging. No wonder so many are unhappy and resentful. Submissive men, in my experience, are SO much more secure in themselves. But it takes a loving, free-thinking and self-assured woman to partner up with one. Girls with low self-esteem that run at the sight of real responsibility and are too uncomfortable to lead don't cut it. Problem is, that defines most girls. Welp, their loss. More for us ladies! Come to mama lol
Thanks. XD Can I ask, do you ever think guys like this are like 'overgrown kids' or anything like that?
You're welcome =) and to answer your question, hell no. I've never even heard of that view. Personally I think these qualities are just another part of their disposition and how they naturally are. I don't think anything 'happened' to them (i. e. overprotective parents smothering them) to make them this way. They just happen to be chill, goodhearted people that know themselves well and know what they want. And to be honest, the 'overgrown kids' I ever meet are usually the overly cocky, emotionally closed-off guys that keep fretting about what other people think of them.
As I said in my initial reply to you, yes you are an overgrown kid someone who cannot be real
Thanks for the response. :)
I think a lot of women are more dominant than they realize tbh
Good to know, nice Mytake.
Thanks. :)
I'm not interested in domination at all, I just don't want to have to guess about her desires or intentions. That's not the same thing as dominance, it's just getting you shit together.
Sad thing is, a lot of girls genuinely have no idea what they want, many will even tell you; it's pathetic.
Good, and I love submissive guys ;)
You're not alone. Some girls (and guys) seem to think of them (/us) as pussies or overgrown children so I love it when girls say what you said. :)
Thank you, I'm glad you like it. :)
Good, Iike submissive guys ;)
I mean I like submissive guys :P
Great. :) Do you think there are many of them or not enough?
I think there are many to choose from :D
Yeah, there seems to be way more of us than dominant women tbh. :P
I respect you preference.
However, for me, being the dominant one is a turn off. I think it's because of the harmonious flow that should exist with femininity and masculinity. Femininity at it's core is about being receptive and submissive in a heterosexual relationship (no, that doesn't mean letting men walk all over us, in case feminists are freaking out).
"Taking charge" is definitely hot, fun and sexy but only occasionally.
I second this. Additionally from my personal experience guys who are into being submissive are often pushovers while so called dominant girls are just power-hungry and bitchy af. Exceptions prove the rule