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No one is exempt from criticism in this world and just because a woman allows multiple males to relieve themselves in her should not earn her a special exempt from all criticism card. JUDGING IS A PART OF LIFE AND EVERYONE DOES IT EVERYDAY. Judging is how we choose what to wear, who to be friends with, when to cross the street, etc. For those who can't handle the criticism, that's their fault. Some people are only decent towards others because they know that no one would want to be around them if they weren't. If those people were never checked by others, they would be much more self-absorbed and could make decisions that negatively impact others a lot more. If we were a society of not judging, we would have no order or justice system or any kind of accountability.
All the sluts, ex sluts, sluts’ boyfriends /husbands, slut preachers and promiscuity promօters need to act like mature adults not emotional, immature and sensitive kids. No need to respond with your petty emotional rants to people who dislike promiscuity.
My definition of slut is
A slut is a woman who wants to have casual sex with random men and usually doesn't care about any kind of courting between them and also usually doesn't care if the man is already in a committed relationship or not and most importantly doesn't really care what the guy thinks of her as long as he says and does the right thing. A slut just wants the attention or whatever other feeling she gets from sleeping with random dudes instead of cherishing her body and only sleeping with men who deserve it.
The fact that we have the right to make our own choices means that we should be fine with other people judging our choices because if we were so ashamed of being whores or bums then perhaps the criticism will be the kick in the butt to make someone do something and change their life for the better. If a woman doesn't want to be criticized for being a slut then all she has to do is not be a slut. The more women are discouraged from being sluts, the less likely they are to be sluts.
People tried to let every woman be a slut in the 70s and it didn't work out. Telling women that they should be slut-shamed for being sluts doesn't go against me at all as a woman and I'm very insulted that others think all women are natural sluts. Perhaps sluts have the urge to let any random man come inside them without any regard for their own health, safety, or well-being but most women in the world don't feel that way. A woman's value IS the highest when she has the least amount of sexual partners because it has to do with respecting yourself. I would never let some random dude enter my body who I didn't know in the name of "depression" of "sexual freedom" so I don't have to put myself in a whore's shoes. As a woman who values her own body, I don't have to feel worthless, ashamed, or embarrassed about being called a slut because I never was one. Do we allow men to "go through a dark time where they don't respect themselves" and rape women but completely forgive them afterwards because they changed their mind? No, we expect all men who control themselves and be decent regardless of their petty and personal issues at the time. The same goes for women. If a woman wants to be respected as a mature individual, then she doesn't get special permission to do whatever she wants and not pay the consequences for it. Perhaps sluts and feminists believe that women deserve special exemption from being expected to behave like an adult but I believe that women should be held at the same level as men which means they will always receive criticism for all of their choices, just as every man and child does. We don't teach our children that they get to do whatever they want because they had a bad day so a woman having a bad day doesn't give her a legitimate excuse to go whore out her body to make herself feel better.
Studies show that women who are sexually promiscuous most of the time regret that aspect of their lives later so women should not be encouraged to do something that the majority of them all regret and hate later anyways.
It's not just men or even non-slutty women who don't like sluts, even sluts don't like other sluts. Slut-shaming is universal.
A female who is a slut is so by her choice. In 1943 the average young girl didn't lose her virginity until age 19, when she was out of high school and able to make better decisions about who she would let inside of her body. By 1999, the average young girl is losing her virginity by the very young age of 15, when she is most likely to be manipulated by some guy for sex and nothing more under the guise that he truly loves her. Young girls should be slut shamed because they are very peer-oriented and it is in their youth that they are the most likely to care too much about what those around them think. They need to be protected from giving away their hearts and bodies before they truly understand what that means.
I know it's not 20th century, congratulations. But the point is that before feminism women were making smarter choices about sex whereas now, too many young women are getting pregnant, STDs, cervical cancer, etc. Cervical cancer used to be rare because women only get it by having multiple sex partners.
It's not unfortunate for me that women are no longer waiting around for men to marry them, it's unfortunate for them that they want to be married but can't because women like sluts giving us all a bad name.
We live in the 21st century but that doesn't mean morality is oldfashioned because..
Women are not running things now and they wouldn't even be as involved as they are if it wasn't for men creating labor laws and inventing machines to accommodate women in the workplace like air conditioning. Men were working long before women because they could handle the harsher working conditions. Women were forced to work long before feminism in the Depression Era and during WWII which is why they reacted by choosing to stay at home, because they didn't like working back then.
Women work more and spend more which doesn't benefit women, that benefits corporations. Congratulations, thanks to women with this mindset jobs are able to manipulate women into working more than they want to and pressuring them into spending more than they should be. Yeah, hearing women cry about "wage gaps" and "rape culture" is really convincing that women are "running everything".
I actually care about women and don't want to see them end up all lonely and bitter like previous generations who fell for feminist rhetoric.
Women are not taking charge of their own sexuality, they're throwing it away like as if it has absolutely no value. Women used to have power over men when they actually were taking charge of their own sexuality and having standards for who they allowed to enter their bodies. Now women are becoming social release valves, free prostitutes so that the men in society can get laid more easily with out earning it.
Too bad for slut defenders that they don't understand anything about women.
Please stop saying that sluts are free women who don’t care about society’s opinion because slut shaming does have an effect on them otherwise they wouldn't be crying for people to stop it. If slut shaming had no effect then they'd ignore it.
If a woman chooses to be a slut, that IS her choice and no one is taking that away. However a slut doesn't get to determine what other people, male or female, think or say about her for choosing not to respect her own body.
Most countries have freedom of speech which means if a woman wants to dress, talk, or act like a slut then I have every right as a human being to voice my disgust at her lack of class, maturity, and decency. Double standards are a part of life. Do you complain at work that your boss gets to do things that you as an employee don't? Do students have a leg to stand on when they're not allowed to do the same things that teachers do? It's called life, and it isn't fair. Men and women are different and sex is different for them, it's a proven fact. There are things that men get to do that women can't and vice-versa.
The "slut-shamers" aren't the ignorant ones, the sluts are the ignorant ones who think they're exempt from living life in the same manner as everyone else.
People who don't do shameful things don't have to be ashamed of themselves. A slut is a shamed of being a slut. She can't stand when people lean she is a slut.
If a man bought a drink for every woman he came into contact with, he should be ashamed as well because he has to buy every woman a drink and yet still none of them usually stick around. Same with a slut, she is throwing herself at random men all the time because none of them actually want to stick around and on top of it, she isn't even getting paid for it. She just gives away her dignity and body for free of charge. Even Superman didn't touch sluts and hoes, they were beneath him. In addition, usually even sluts don't want to be friends with other sluts, they don't trust them and they don't even like them despite being one themselves.
And yes, real men will never respect sluts! It's just a release ladies, a free and easy release and nothing more. And yes women can and do enjoy sex but that doesn't mean you should let every guy have a free release or tons of guys, no one respects that. And whoever says women who have one night stands enjoy sex and life more is so prejudiced that they think a woman has to sleep with multiple men in order to like sex, as though just sleeping with one's husband can't be enjoyable.
Women's sexuality is not seen as shameful unless it is done in a shameful manner just like men.
Plenty of people tell men what to do with their body, who to sleep with, how to carry themselves, how to dress, what to say, how to act, when to speak, etc. and it's usually women telling the men what to do and they usually listen! Yes, there are some misogynistic men who undeservedly treat women or even prey on women whom they see as easy targets and don't respect but there are also some manipulative women who treat men or even prey on men whom they see as easy targets and don't respect. Why do some women feel that they deserve to be on a pedestal just because you were born a woman and not have to do anything to earn it? Why do some women make the rest of us look bad by claiming they want to be equal to men but not willing to put in the same sacrifices and efforts and time that men do? Note that I never said women having sex means she doesn't respect herself, it's who she chooses to do it with and why.
Getting spiteful and hateful towards guys who care about a woman's past make you girls more insecure. No need to be bitter to them just because they standards EXCLUDE you.
The boys actually physiologically need sex in a way that the girls don't. The boys should be told to always wear protection and choose wisely. The girls should be told the same thing (always wear protection and choose wisely) but also to be very vigilante of the first fact that I just mentioned: Girls do not need sex in the same way that boys do. When girls have a lot of sex with a lot of boys, they are more likely to get STDs or cervical cancer etc. When boys have a lot of sex with a lot of girls, they are healthier and less likely to develop prostate cancer as well as they perform better mentally and physically. What we need to do is stop pretending that boys and girls are exactly the same but just with different body parts because that's not the case.
In 2014, 42% of American men polled that they believe a woman is a slut by her 5th sexual partner. Don't take it out on me that no man respects you or wants to marry you after everyone else has already had a ride and you have nothing left of any value to offer. That's why slut shaming is necessary. So young girls won't grow up to be bitter and class-less like sluts are. There is no class about being the communal sperm dumpster.
Do you think our priority should be on stopping people from warning young women that MOST men don't want to marry sluts? I think it's far more damaging for people to make fun of young girls who have standards and don't want to be peer pressured into having sex before they're ready.
Don’t respond on an emotional, impulsive trigger. There is no need to show us your lack of class and sophistication.
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2 0Someone complaining about the 'lack of class and sophistication' supposedly showcased by women who are embracing their freedom to act on their sexual desires by throwing together a few paragraphs critiquing said-women?
LOL. oh the irony. Go back to school and brush up on your 'class' and 'sophistication' because both seem to be severely impaired.
Did you know that women who are butthurt when some people dislike promiscuity are sluts?
I think it's more like feeling pity for women who write fucking essays doing nothing more than throwing out insults and bitching about females who engage in a lifestyle pretty damn similar to that of men are worthless, then end it with saying that's a 'complete lack of class + sophistication'. Girl... you're in no position to speak of class and sophistication before you get some for yourself.
Calm down. Lol. I never thought my distaste for slut would strike your nerve. I doubt you read the whole take.
It's more your ridiculous claims and cherry-picked stats that both amuse/irritate me. All of which I read which leads me to advise you to compile all of this into 1-2 paragraphs, next time you insist on throwing your angst-ridden thoughts onto a forum versus your diary.
All you expressed is emotion. Bring one point that makes logical sense. Otherwise we're done
Sure, here's a logical point; By belittling women who choose to engage in sex outside of marriage and/or with more than one partner, this does not make you any better in comparison. On the contrary, it propagates and encourages people to continue to place a woman's worth in what lies between her legs and what she chooses to do with it. :)
Again you defend sluts just like all slutdefenders do. IF you read my take you wouldn't bring up those things.
There is no such thing as a slut. It's an arbitrary term made up to shame women for whatever misdeed the speaker perceives, even if the misdeed itself didn't take place. You have no case for superiority. And you don't even realize that the more you argue, the more you prove my point.
@MlleCake Sluts do exist. Just read my definition and you will understand that they live around us.
Your definition is arbitrary. I've re-read you whole essay about 6 times. You're just saying "I deem this behavior bad, and I am going to call a bunch of women a name because I think I have a reason to feel superior". You don't really even get into any meaningful reason why what you describe is wrong. you just declare it so. You have your freedom of speech, but you go around calling all sorts of women sluts, we will keep telling you you're a sexist and you don't know what you're talking about.
And you just called Kayla a slut for disagreeing with you, not because you have any idea of her actual sexual choices. Kind of made my point right there.
@MlleCake Nope. Women who get hurt when someone disagrees with promiscuity are definitely sluts. You do strike their nerve by your distaste for sluts. Basic logic
No. We are women and men who think your denigration of other women is asinine and are willing to tell you so. You have no actual knowledge of our sex lives, which is what you say defines a slut. You just call us sluts for disagreeing with you because you can't see through your own misogynistic haze. I am not hurt by what you have said, because I recognize it's entirely fatuous. I don't even speak to you to change YOUR mind. I voice a dissenting opinion so other people reading this know that not everyone shares your internalized misogyny. Kayla doesn't sound particularly hurt either. Why are you hurt by other women's sexual choices?
@MlleCake I did say I called her a slut not for disagreeing with me but for being offended that I dislike sluts
If you think that's actually different, you're a fool. This is what you said "Did you know that women who are butthurt when some people dislike promiscuity are sluts?" Here's a hint. None of us care that you personally dislike promiscuity and prefer not to engage in it. In fact, we 100% totally have your back on that. But what you did was proclaim you have the right, nee duty, to decide who is a slut, give a definition for what you think makes a slut, and call yourself superior, and then call someone a slut even though you don't know her sexual proclivities, which you keep swearing is the only thing that makes a slut. You contradicted yourself, and pretty much proved what I said about it being an arbitrary term, and that it is used to denigrate women for things other than their sexual choices, since you called someone a slut, even though you have no knowledge of her sexual choices.
@MlleCake you are fool not to realize that you are the first ones who attacked me because I have different morals. NOt you are complaing about me to attack you back cause you disagreed with me? Once agains YES women who are butthurt when some people dislike promiscuity are sluts. This is what sluts proved. Why would a non slut get so heartbroken when promsicuity is judged. "None of us care that you personally dislike promiscuity and prefer not to engage in it. In fact, we 100% totally have your back on that" Lol so you don;'t mind me disliking promiscuity? lmao
I didn't attack you. I disagreed with you. I say it's about 50/50 on whether you should interpret Kayla's post as an attack. But your entire post is your elaborate defense for attacking other people, so... um... yeah, that happened.
Oh no, I don't dislike your personal sexual choice at all. I support your right to make it. It's valuable to you. You go girl. What I am speaking out against is you denigrating other women for theirs. Did I call you prude? Uptight? Snob? Bitch? Or any other thing for your personal sexual mores? No. I told you that denigrating other women with words like slut is misogynistic. I disagreed with you. That's it. I'm being snarky now, but in no way did I attack you personally.
@MlleCake prude uptight snob are not insult to me. You call me those names freely. And slut is a woman who is a slut according to my definition. That's it.
Except, you call women sluts even if you have no idea if they meet your definition at all. You just call them that if you think they are offended or butthurt by you.
@MlleCake being bitter because of my definition indicates they have found themselves in my definition.
No it doesn't. You would have to go back and add that to your definition. And who's bitter? You're the one wrote the essay attacking other people who have nothing to do with you.
@MlleCake I simply expressed my opinion on slut acceptance
The term slut is an inherently misogynistic term to shame women for expressing themselves sexually. It is often applied to women for no other reason than that she did something that another person dislikes, and rarely relates to some quantifiable amount of sexual experience. There is no inherent "wrongness" in women being sexually active, especially when women are held to some higher standard than men.
www.theradicalnotion.com/slut-shaming-language/
www.feministcurrent.com/.../
Lmfao showing me a feminist link? Calling a NON slut a slut is indeed wrong. BUT calling a slut a slut is very fair
There is no quantifiable definition of what constitutes a slut or not. It's just a subjective insult, and it's not defensible. No slurs really are. And yes, I shared a feminist link because misogyny is an issue that concerns women. Whatever twisted idea you have about what feminists are or are doing is informed by an anti-feminist bias. Women have a right not to be denigrated by gendered insults, especially when they are slurs that don't really mean anything.
Did you read my definition of slut?
Did you read the articles?
You were the first to read my take. Then read completely.
I did read your take and I think you are supporting a harmful misogynistic point of view, trying to defend insulting other women for sexual choices that you either don't actually know that they've made, or are none of your business to begin with.
Lile I said Judging is something that we all do. Defending sluts is bad for society. You don't help women with that.
I defend women who make different sexual choices from me. And yes, we do all judge others, but we don't all name other people with slurs and denigrate them for choices having nothing to do with us.
If her choice shows lack of self respect then I am not gonna defend her at all.
How does being sexually active show lack of self-respect?
The answer is in my take. Find it
No. You have really given nothing to support the idea that there is some inherent lack of value in a woman who chooses to be sexually active. And you have compared a woman's choice to have sex as akin to being an out of control rapist. You're not even giving religious reasons for it, just that you judge it one way, so it's that way, and if people live some other way, you have some right to denigrate them for it.
One correction I didn't judge sexually active women. I judged only and exclusively sluts. Read my definition.
None of those things are even your business, let alone earning someone an insulting slur. Other women's sexual activities are literally no concern of yours, and don't effect you. How many other women's sex lives do you know intimately enough to even make such a judgement? Why does it even concern you? Who made you arbiter of their private conduct?
I did answer your questions in my take. YOU either are too dumb not to understand that or didn't even read it
You explained how you were made arbiter of women's private conduct?
Instead of asking me what I wrote in my take you should either read it or STFU
And the science you hint at, not even close to true. Males have no physiological need for sex with a partner. There's no defense for your sexist diatribe.
Women are not biologically wired to spread their genes with lots of men. Did you know this?
I have read it. Just a regular old pile of sexist dog vomit. Perpetuating a bunch of dumb stereotypes as if they give you some right or reason to think you're superior to some other human being.
Actually, genetic diversity is imperative in all species, and both the male and the female play a role in that. And there is quite a bit of science that disputes the claim you just made. There is an excellent paper that's freely available called Sex at Dawn. I'm sure you won't read it because it doesn't confirm your bias, but I still recommend it.
And I have read it. That is about monogamy not promiscuity. TRY AGAIN. Talking to you is boring because it means I should quote myself. Instead you could have found the answers to your questions and not tlbother me. Because if you think you can acheive in convincing me that sluts are normal just like non sluts then you are wrong. And you never proved how female promiscuity is natural. And tell me what is the good thing about sleeping around that you defend promiscuity that much?
I defend the right of women to make sexual choices for themselves, based on their own wants and value system, and not be denigrated for not adhering to some other person's predetermined role for them. I support celibate women, women who have one partner ever, women who choose to have more than one partner, because literally none of their choices have anything to do with me, or with anything that is a detriment to a lawful and just society.
jezebel.com/science-is-finally-catching-on-that-female-promiscuity-1476377663
www.theguardian.com/.../anthonybrowne.theobserver
www.livescience.com/...monogamous-promiscuous.html
arstechnica.com/.../
www.samwoolfe.com/.../...naturally-monogamous.html
www.slate.com/.../...n_have_multiple_partners.html
discovermagazine.com/.../42-the-myth-of-choosy-women-promiscuous-men
phys.org/.../...th-promiscuous-males-sexually.html
fine and I don't support women who have no value.
In case you don't hit "continue reading" above, I just referenced a bunch of science on the topic and provided you with links.
those links prove that females are biologically wired to be as promiscuous as men? lmfao.
Read the articles. Heck, just pick 3. If you had read the articles you'd know the answer to that question, or are you just... what was your word again?
Before I read them tell me if those links prove that women are wired promiscuous or not
I'm not here to do your reading homework for you. You posited several semi-scientific points. It seems to me, someone who is going to do that will want to have read the science. That you are reluctant is quite telling.
You avoided again. Please leave me. You only make me abhor sluts even more
There you go again, contradicting yourself. What do you fear in reading any of those articles? They aren't even blind links to malware sites. Just stuff to read.
You still hope I will like sluts if I read those shitty links?
I don't care what you like. You jabbed at a few vague scientific claims. You ought to read the science. I didn't even make you go and research it yourself. Really, all it will do is prompt you to make a stronger argument, if that.