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I left feminism because I got sick of being lied to, sick of being taken advantage of and I've grown tired of harboring the hateful ideologies that many feminist "leaders" and college professors espouse.
I've moved on from feminism and now I identify myself as an egalitarian. I grew tired of being alone, and I got sick of being attacked everytime I tried to think for myself. So if you don't want social politics to dominate your life and your every iteraction with the opposite sex, then stay away from feminism.
When I went college I jumped into the movement with a passion for social justice and a desire to belong to something bigger than the sum of it's parts. Yes, I became a manhater, a ballbuster and to me, back then, it felt good on my ego to "cut men back down to size".
However, I had very few friends outside of the movement as a result of me wearing my feminism on my sleeve, even other women wanted nothing to do with me, so I immersed myself further into my beliefs and managed to grow my social circle by hanging out with some of the older women who also self-identified as feminists and hung around on campus despite not being employed there OR being involved in academia. They were hangers on, many of them in the age 45-75 bracket who wanted to relive their glory days and a few were friends with the Gender Studies professor.
I allowed them to corrupt me. I was only 19 at the time and these were much older women, seasoned activists who could talk a good talk and win arguments against even the most hardened misogynists, they were my idols so I naturally set out to emulate them.
I would love to go into more detail about what caused me to change my mind about feminism, but I don't want to dwell on those memories but I began to be cast out of the movement like a leper when my beliefs began to evolve, I began to praising moderates like Christina Hoff Summers while respectfully disagreeing with the likes of Gloria Steinham and Andrea Dworkin and I began having positive interactions with male students who were the complete opposite of what the professors and career feminists tell you. That's why many feminist leaders want women involved in feminism to go "Sep", their religion comes into question when the real world comes into play.
My new beliefs irked many of the hardliners and the dark side of the movement began to unfold before my very eyes when a "friend" from my gender studies class actually tried to pay a male student to rape me, luckily he declined the $2000 offer and went straight to the police with a witness instead. She was prosecuted and this was during my senior year.
It wasn't until I left campus life and joined the real world that feminism's fallacy became apparent.
It's not a movement after all, it's an ideology built on misandry, lies, intimidation of other women and a belief that all women are more perfect on their worst day than men on their best. Most sane people want others to be treated fairly, which feminists claim they're all about. Yet they don't practice what they preach.
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20 45WTF! They actually paid soneone to rape you 😦
Great post, it's always nice to hear people making positive change in their life! It's especially hard to change religious beliefs like this so congratulations and welcome to reality :)
It was born in a time when women had to push for their rights. This aggression is obsolete and even detrimental now. Feminism failed to adapt to modern society, That's it's biggest failure. It went from a cause that was legitimate and respectable to one that comes down hard on the pettiest of things. It is a movement. Just one that has fallen and devolved into nothing but a group of mindless idiots who fail to question and seek reason for everything they are pushing for.
Many true feminists have moved on and formed this second movement which you are part of now. It's a good thing that there are still ladies that can process rationality.
It's only partially true that Feminism was ever legitimate, a major part of it has always been the radical mess out on display now thanks to the internet. There are people digging up old news paper articles and books from long in the past and it's becoming very clear Feminism has always been toxic. Do not underestimate the degree to which Feminism has spun it's lies.
@Jager66 I did say that it failed to adapt. The stuff on the papers may be toxic now but at the time strong language and assertions were needed to get the point across. It could have laxed abit after it achieved its goals but noooo, they just had to keep pushing.
They used to firebomb places in the 1800's, they had bachelor taxes and forced men who wouldn't marry and support a woman to have less rights in ancient Rome, near it's demise, They petitioned the King, and got their way, to ban coffee shops because men liked to go to them and socialize, the Feminists didn;t want men having conversations where women couldn't moderate them, in the dark ages. All the arguments being made today by feminists and by anti Feminists are nothing new, they are only on display like never before because of the internet.
@Jager66 You're still failing to take into account the climate back then. Women had effectively no rights in those days hence the violence they needed to resort to to get the point across. These days it's different. There's no real reason. Now they're attacking men for simply not leaving the toilet seat down.
@Jager66 Either way, feminism is a classic example of something living long enough to become vilified rather than die while it's still good.
That's part of the myth though, that women had no rights. Women could own property, have careers, live on their own etc.. all the things a single man could do, hell there are even historical documents showing women working as registered black smiths in the city of London! They couldn't join the army as a soldier in most places but there were other jobs they could do. There was no "right to vote" for men or women in most of history. The list gos on and on, Feminism has LIED! in a big way to us about history and when they did tell the truth it was an out of context half truth.
@Jager66 Still, it is needed in the middle east. The way women are treated there's just atrocious.
Well no it's not needed. What is needed is a genuine movement to eliminate oppression, not a movement that will focus on 1 group only, lie about issues to push an agenda and make the middle east into a Gynocentric hell like the west is becoming. Please keep in mind here that I am not saying women do not or have not had serious issues that need addressing. I am saying that Feminism is a horrible way to go about addressing those issues.
@Jager66 women are oppressed in the middle east bud. in some places they are legally considered to be worth 1/3 of a man so to charge a man for rape a women must be backed up by another man or by a couple of other women. have you ever heard of malala yousafzai? she was shot in the head by the taliban on her school bus for sticking up for her right to an education. she miraculously survived and was treated in england and she does a bunch of charity work like building schools for women.
@Possible_Mate Your post reminded me of this.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4xgx4k83zzc
Honestly, feminism can be interpreted many ways. There are some groups more radical than others and other groups that focus on various aspects apart from others. The actions of a few should not reflect on the group as a whole.
The same could be said about any belief system. We see Christian and Muslim extremists all the time but that isn't a reason to assume every christian and muslim is a nut.
I apologize if that was your experience but no one asked you to "join" feminism.
I suggest reading and looking up unbiased articles and many forms of the history of women. Not all of us are Gloria Steinham and not all of us fit the same mold.
Ah yes, this is exactly what GAG needs... more mytakes regarding feminism. Kewl
only that this one is worth reading :D
Lol, I know right? People keep seeking validation on being anti-feminism.
I tell people all the time that feminism is a hate movement crouched in language of acceptance. That the dictionary definition is pure rhetoric, and the actions of the people in the movement shows the hypocrisy. Good my take.
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Thank you for this
I think feminisim is a good tool to weed out the bad girlfriend material girls, if she claims to be one you know to avoid her and jump to the next girl so all in all i would say crazy girls are weeding themselves out for us.
Preach it I've been there, I was in a group of SJWs and feminists for a while, accidentally. They always made me feel like I was in the wrong when I voiced an opinion especially towards the end when I really started calling feminism out on it's bullshit, oddly there were a few in the group that thought the same as I but just sat under the radar, but as usual the one who shouts loudest is heard the most and I was pretty much an outcast towards the end of the year due to some people not really happy when I proved there was no rape culture in the UK and that the wage gap and the survey it was based off is bias and utter bullshit which I know because I learned about selective, bias and fair surveys in maths 2 years before, 3 of the fuckwits were in my class when we did it and 1 even worked with me on it.
Amen sister, kick ass article!
glad to see that more people are finally waking up to all these madness. I just sure wish that more people especially modern day women can read your article and learn from your experience. but wow they actually tried to pay someone to rape you? wtf are these people coming too? I always knew that feminism was not a movement but more like a cult, and the more I read into these things the more convincing they get
Don't forget to change back to your normal blue account when you're done trolling.
I think that you just have the wrong idea of what feminism was and that you were giving up because you had no friends so sad you gave up because you felt lonely grow up without feminism where would we be today housewives still all of us ♀ you should be ashamed of yourself to be honest you don't want to be considered equal or have the same rights instead you want a man to stop all of you good job
Congratulations you played yourself
Wait are you serious or are you trolling? Its really hard to tell.
That's not what she meant...
You should be ashamed for yourself that you don't know how to use punctuation at all. Is it a man's fault? Is it my fault you post in big long run on, hard to read sentences? Find someone to blame for your problems, quick.
@M_A_X preach, my friend, preach
@M_A_X first of all bich that was I talking to you this is why I refuse to be controlled by a man you are the reason you are the reason I cannot stand men and their desire to always be right no mother f***** I will go down in my grave before I am controlled by a man and be told what to do and how to do it I'm not some little b**** ass that will give up I believe in just because people hated me for it no thank you you can hate me and I do not give a f*** with your old ass she's stupid and should be embarrassed of herself because she gave up in what she believed because of the influence of others she the others control the way she thought she is therefore stupid I don't know why people paid another person to rape her that's none of my business she should have just stop interacting with them but not stop defending herself and her own sex yeah bich I can't type ain't nobody got time for that once again m*********** you are my problem and people solve their problems backtrace it and fix it
So you resort to name calling and saying I'm trying to control you when I make a point? Clearly you're an adult now that you're 18, and not at all sick in the head
I think you're mentally ill to be honest. You should see a psychologist. You've got some major issues. I say you can't use punctuation and that's me trying to control you? Sorry, so if a man was your math teacher and you got the question wrong, you'd blame him, wouldn't you?
@M_A_X you disgust me you do not make point what i dont use periods and shit idont know this was an English class its a fucking website where majority of people are my age only thing you got against is mf grammer go away with your over grown ass just wanna come at me bc im stating an opinion you dont agree with f*** you and your system and you wanna come at me a say i can't type b**** i already know that shit i got issue b**** you came at me first watch yourself exactly you're an adult kma tryna come at me ppsshhh p****
I don't think you can type. I also think you're one of the most childish people I've ever had the misfortune of dealing with one this website. I also think communication is about other people, and not you. You do things like punctuate to be better understood. It's not about whether or not it's English class, it's a sign of good will to other people who want to read what you have to say. Also, again, childishly attacking someone because they had a point. I disgust you because I corrected your grammar huh? It must not take a lot to disgust you then. Sounds like your problem and not mine.
So because I agree with something that is not your opinion I'm a bitch. Lol eat my shorts
@M_A_X mother f***** you came at me what the f*** are you talking about if you don't like my f****** punctuation why the f*** are you speaking to me because you're trying to make a stupid ass point which isn't working out on your end
Honey, you sound retarded. Like, mentally impaired, 'durrrhhh' retarded. Wave your arms around aimlessly and skip through the shopping mall retarded. Go back to school
@M_A_X speech what point you're not making a point you look stupid at the end of the day you still have you still take the time to read my very bad grammar so you still look stupid trying to fight with me and say I have mental issues I'm just praying that you block me after this LMFAO you don't like me don't talk to me B**** get over it you're grown ''misfortune I had to meet you on this website" f*** you I don't care like I like your old ass lmao b**** bye see you tell me or f****** punctuation this is why I don't like men trying to fight over stupid s*** this I don't even f****** know you and you wanna argue with me because I said something you don't like and because he had a struggle to read it you're so pathetic and stupid and then claim that I'm the one who is attacking you you attacked me b**** because I use curse words on a mentally unstable right here's the biggest F to you sir good f****** bye
Yeah, I bet you refuse to listen to male math teachers when they tell you that you got a question wrong and cry about that too. You need to learn the difference between subjective and objective, because you're objectively wrong here
Oh okay. I think you're a narcissistic sociopath. There's a diagnosis for people like you, and that's it, @ASOdeath
Tsk tsk. This MyTake had so much potential. If you're going to call a movement out on something, you should at least bring up some stories and examples to back it up. You refused to even do that. Pure statement without any substance is still just pure statement, regardless of how much I hate feminism.
The part where someone tried to bribe someone to rape her wasn't specific enough?
@0112358 No because that doesn't scream "feminism" to me.
Paid to rape... that's only the most disgusting thing I've ever heard
I find the best thing to be is nothing. Not a feminist, not a masculinist, not an egalitarian, nothing. Just don't get involved at all
actually most gender studies 101 courses do teach the obsolescence of feminism in western civilizations nowadays. most feminists are stuck in the 1930s, when women really were kind of suppressed by a sexist patriarchy.
"Whether they existent or not it would find new victims" why? "so it should live forever".
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vzUAm7HL-64
I mean "so it could live forever". :)
@Berethor yup that´s pretty much what feminism (excluding some good examples) has come to.
I didn't leave feminism it left me. I just to like it, but it has become to hateful.
You are correct , the " leaders " of feminism today are nothing but hardboiled man haters !! Girls from a young age are influenced by the " media " to view men as nothing more than stupid morons that think only with their genitalia !!
Thank you
Feminism is like National Socialism or Communism... Looks excellent on paper... But the people attracted to these types of concepts tend to be monsters and emotionally damaged brutes... I'd rather traditionalist conservative who agrees with some of socialist and feminist ideas... Rather than a full blown fanatic