I'm a virgin and my girlfriend is not, and I'm really insecure about it, and I always compare to others and stuff like that, I'm scared that our sexual life messes up because of that.. How can I stop thinking like that?
Most men worry about a woman being a virgin or not. Not saying it's either right or wrong for them to worry, but it's not uncommon. And both male and female virgins tend to be concerned about their partner not being one, but male virgins take a blow to their self-esteem about this more than female virgins.
Reason being that it's a psychological thing with the guys. They think:
1. She has more sexual experience and knows things he doesn't.
2. She has more sexual experience and has done things he hasn't.
3. She will be a cheater.
4. "She can get sex and I can't, which is why I'm a virgin."
First I will say that at your age, unless she's been around the block with literally dozens or hundreds of guys (that she hasn't told you about anyway), it's nothing to worry about or feel insecure about. And it's normal for you to still be a virgin at your age just as commonly as it is for others your age to not be virgins.
A lot of guys are bothered by the idea that a woman has more sexual knowledge and experience than he does. The key is to be confident in what you are, and be open to having a good experience. You don't need to pretend that you're an expert like other guys, just be real about it with her. If she knows you're a virgin and is okay with that, that's really all you need to be focused on. Just go with it.
Man, lemme do my best to help you out here.
You said you’re insecure because she’s not a virgin and you are. Why? Is it that you think you’re going to be a disappointment when you two do have sex? Because If that’s the reason you’re worried then I am here to tell you that you ABSOLUTELY DO NOT NEED TO BE WORRIED.
I say that not because I’m saying that you’re not going to be awful at sex when you two do. Let me be very clear, you are going to be so incredibly bad at it that you won’t even be sure what you just did could qualify as sex let alone be satisfying to her in any way. It’s gonna be the worst lay of her entire life most likely. Wait, not most likely, definitely.
But here’s the thing…
It literally does not matter at all whatsoever. I assume that she’s aware you’re a virgin, right? Then she is also aware that you aren’t going to be any good to begin with, and that’s fine. I know that may have been a bit of a bummer in a way, but the good news is that with time and most importantly, with practice, lots and lots of practice.
So listen my dude, don’t sweat this at all. You’ll be fine. Everyone is a virgin until they aren’t and almost everyone spends more time not being one then they did being one, so don’t be intimidated either. Hopefully this addresses the issue. It’s one of the few things I think you could have been insecure about in this regard.
The other one is that you think she’s a slut or something because she’s fucked people. If that is the case then my answer would simply change to literally just “fuck off, Dipshit”. Hopefully that’s not it though lol.
I remember I was insecure about my boyfriend not being a virgin and the main issue was I was scared to be compared to the previous person. I was like super jealous about it and felt I wasn't as good or attractive as her. But then he told me he lied and was a virgin and I felt so much better lol
Now that I'm older and more mature I realize, it was a stupid thing to worry about because if you two truly love each other you will never even think about or care for the people in the past all that matters is you two right now.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Because she used goods, and she is more likely to cheat on you and/or leave you.
If she knows you and likes you for who you are, it really will be no problem. It's really no big deal.
How to stop thinking like that? Well have sex, you will realize it doesn't actually matter. A person could have sex 1000 times and not have good sex, or they could have amazing sex there first time. The numbers don't matter.
If you’re not happy with her break up or try speaking to her about it
If she doesn't have a long visitor list, don't worry about it.
Because you're immature. You place an insignificant value over virginity.
I’m sure it will get better over time and as you get closer to her.
because you know you're dedicating yourself to a used up whore.
How about how good it will feel when you fuck her? Most girls are not virgins after about age 14, 15, 16.
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