Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
It's been a long time on GAG for me and I haven't had the opportunity to write a myTake, mostly because it is time consuming and I could not find any good topic to write and open discussion upon.
Without any further ado, lets jump on to the list of reasons:
Social Upbringing:
Probably the biggest factor contributing to my nature and in turn all of ours. India is a conservative society, with pockets of its huge population being extremely conservative. I would consider myself being less conservative than the national average (if there is any :P ) because I'm open minded about letting people doing their own thing. Decades of religious practices and morality norms dictate how sexuality should be practiced. Being an athiest, the biggest factor for me is morality. Indians usually are not expressive about sex, since it is still a taboo but we've made quite a big progress considering how things were in 90's. It is a private matter for most of us.
Lesser Chance of Contracting STDs:
How many times have you seen people have contracted STDs due to one night stands/hookups? Granted contraception is present to prevent such cases from happenning, many times people participate in oral sex (cunninglingus and fellatio) sans protection and hence contract STDs. In a proper relationship, a partner would ask and verify about each other's sexual health status to prevent themselves from endangering their lives. Never saw any hookup cases where people ask each other about their sexual health status, they just go on with the flow.
Sex is a Display of Ultimate Love
I see numerous questions on GAG about people enjoying sex. For me, sex is a vulnerable, uplifting and bonding activity. I see many people having sex just after a few dates, or as soon as they get into a relationship. I want to know about the girl I like, I want to know about her feedback about me, get to know each other's interests, passion, life ambitions and determine whether we are compatible or not. If I have sex with someone, then it is a sign I give to the girl that I'm ready for full time commitment and taking hard decisions and some sacrifices for our love. I'd also expect the same from her. I'd be ready for marriage, because that's what I'd want from a long term relationship. Sex is a desire that I'd like to keep in a relationship, not just an above average routine/activity. Many people get bored with sex at times and I wouldn't want that to happen.
Easier to Cope Up with Breakups
Again thanks to GAG (it's a wonderful site), I've seen cases where people miss their ex/FWB or have reserved feelings for them because they were vulnerable to them ( by having sex ). It'd be much easier for me to get over a girl if the relationship doesn't work out in the early stages or during dating.
That's the end of this myTake! :)
This post is not meant to tell people that being sexually conservative is the only way it should be, nor do I force people into accepting this ideology. Having said that, I'd never accept sexual promiscuousness as it conflicts with my beliefs/ideals.
As for your contribution, share your opinion about what you believe in when it comes to sexual behaviour! :D
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