This is a play off of @Luci92
I wouldn't say this is strictly my opinion and that I don't wish anyone to have the same values as me, because I actually do wish sex was valued more in our culture. Sex has become this casual "fling" that doesn't mean anything.
When I grew up, my parents were not insanely religious or strict. They simply taught me to respect myself and to never settle for less than I deserve. In regards to sex, they told me I should wait for someone I love and to make sure I'm ready before I do it.
I had my first long term boyfriend my junior year in high school. He was the star of our football team and everyone thought we were having sex. I was lucky because we both had the same values at the time. He wanted to wait and so did I. We dated for 2 years and I never really had to deal with the pressure of being with someone who constantly pressured me for sex.
College is when the pressure became a little more intense. I had quite a few guys interested in me, many being upperclassmen. The school I went to was a small Mennonite college, though, so a lot of the people shared the same values as me, or at least respected my values.
The toughest part was my girlfriends. Almost all of my friends had sex regularly and were in long term relationships. They've never really understood why I've held out for so long. I always get railed with the questions whenever someone finds out.
The first question that is always asked is "Why?!"
My response has always been, "I haven't found the right guy yet". I have dated a lot over the years but I've never found someone that has all of the qualities I'm looking for and I don't plan on settling. My friends have always told me that my expectations are too high and I should just have sex but then what's the point? I've waited this long, I might as well wait a little longer until I find the person I do want to share that with.
Over the years, I've explained my virginity so many times that it has almost become a part of me. When I lose it, I'm expecting myself to lose a little piece of my identity. That's why I want my first time to mean something- I want to lose it to someone I can share my identity with, and not just lose a part of myself.
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