Sexual Relationships 
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So my whole life I've loved guys. I've always been boy crazy. Because of this I almost never questioned my sexuality, and on the few times I did I always came away thinking: I'm definitely straight.
That's why nobody was more surprised than me at the sudden shift my sexuality has taken over the last 6 months. I'm not sure if it's just growing older or the fact I'm more sexually experienced, but ever since around my 20th birthday I noticed myself noticing girls.
My gut instinct at first was to try to suppress it...but why? I'm a human being. Human beings are attracted to other human beings. Up til now it may have been exclusively men for me but maybe thats changing and maybe thats okay.
See the problem in our society is that we turn our sexuality into an identity. You have straight, bisexual and gay and we tell ourselves they're cut from totally separate cloths and you're stuck being one way your entire life.
But what if this belief, that lately seems to be promoted by both sides, is a fallacy? What if the lines are more blurred? And what if there's more fluidity than we like to acknowledge? What if our sexuality CAN change?
And I mean why not? We all grow and evolve in a million different ways as we get older. Why not this aspect?
As a society we need to rid ourselves of these tropes we desperately cling to. Our sexuality is not a reflection of our sense of self. It has no bearing on who we are as people.
If a person (16/18+ and consenting) turns you on, go with it. Don't feel guilt or shame or confusion. Just enjoy the experience.
At this point I guess you could call me heteroflexible. But thats not really a fixed label so much as a current state of being. I'm allowing myself to feel whatever I feel and to flirt with whoever I want.
I *mostly* like guys. And at the moment I have no real interest in experimenting/physical contact with other girls...but I recognize that that may change as I get older. And if it does thats okay.
Choosing to remain stagnant limits your potential. We only live once and and we aren't on this earth long enough to be afraid of ourselves or the changes that come with time because they can be amazing if we allow them to be.
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Great post. I've always felt that while liking boys has always been a very natural thing, as i got older i became more aware of girls. I haven't dated a girl or anything, but i do notice them. I'm very hesitant to label myself though. There is a difference between having sexual urges or being bi sexual (which i feel like you are born as) and starting to notice and appreciate the beauty of women. But I'm with you, it's not bad or good, it just is and we shouldn't feel the need to suppress how we feel.
No, one is not necessarily born "bi-sexual". Women simply tend to be more fluid in their sexuality than men are. Lesbians and bi-sexuals do not even get along. A lesbian put it best when she said there is bisexual and birelationship, the latter is very rare. Lesbians put the relationship first, and bisexuals put the sex first, by her definition. The bisexual and bicurious women I have known are attracted to females strictly from a sex standpoint. They want their primary emotional relationship to be with a man. You might want to try hooking up with a woman sometime. I had two bisexual girlfriends at the same time and we had amazing sex (nothing like what you might see in a video). There are a LOT of couples who are looking for a woman to join them, and you get to decide what that means, maybe just you and the wife. When you are in a relationship, there are a lot of swingers too, and sometimes just the women interchange.
I just meant in terms of sexual attraction, you're born attracted to certain gender/s. But that's really interesting, i think for me it would depend on the person as to whether or not i'd have a relationship with them. I'm not great with just sex based relations because i so rarely see them working out. But then relationships either don't work or you are still with the person so maybe i should re consider. Probably when i'm a bit more comfortable with myself... Thanks for the comment though.
This was a great post
because you started banging too young and got desensitized and now look for other perversions?
when seculars try to rationalize their passions, and put the blame of their choices to "genetics" i want to laugh my butt off... .
"What if our sexuality CAN change?" Very interesting and bold to claim homosexuality is a choice, when it's a choice we can consider making homosexuality illegal again right, I mean of you are not born gay then why promote it?
"If a person (16/18+ and consenting) turns you on, go with it. Don't feel guilt or shame or confusion. Just enjoy the experience." Nope, feel guilty for choosing a unnaturally and perversive behaviour, again if it's a choice why promote it.
1), I never said it was a choice or that we could control it. 2), there's nothing perverse about it. Its not unnatural.. that word is so over/misused. If that's your ass backward sense of morality good for you, enjoy that cave. This take clearly wasn't for you so why comment?
1. What is it then, you must define what you mean, are you born gay or not? Do you develop homosexuality or is it fixed from birth? 2. It is perverse, it's morally astray and a abnormal behaviour, and that's it the very definition of perversion. Any take is for me to comment if I feel like, just like you can. Your statement "and why that's okay" is political, hence you can and must expect the opposition to contribute as well. Unless you want only "yesmen", is that it?
1) i can't answer that. I don't know! But even if we are born a certain way that doesn't mean we can't evolve with our environment and circumstances. You're asking me to define this in tangible terms and the whole point was to say we shouldn't have to. 2) who's morals? Kind of arrogant to apply upur definition of morality to the situation. Also its abnormal in the sense that its rare so its not the norm but then so is being left handed. Is that perverse? And at the end i don't really feel like arguing it because you won't change your mind and thats fine. You have every right to feel the way you do. But what i said was personal not political. I was putting it out there to give perspective, i wasn't really looking for discourse.
"Kind of arrogant to apply upur definition of morality to the situation" .. but you did too, we all do all the time. You base all you post on your morals, and that is quite normal, we shouldn't based our post on others morals. " i wasn't really looking for discourse." right so yesmen only got it.
But see i didn't apply my morals to something external. It'd be like me going to a church and telling them they're perverse for worshipping a god i find morally reprehensible. I wouldn't do that. And no not yesman. I just don't feel like arguing about it
ok, I see what you mean. Then let's drop the moral issues. In our society sexuality have turn into identity by homosexuals wanting their sexuality to be like in your face, many don't keep it personal or private as it should be, they go public and advertising it like it wasn't a personal issue - far from all of course but some, and I am talking primarily famous people or those in the media business. Parts of the gay community is very flamboyant and promote it, that make a great deal of out using their sexuality as part of their personal identity. PS: "We only live once " is also faith based, see we can't truly neutral. We beliefs forms how we see the world. I'll say we may just not only live once, it depends.