Sexual Relationships 
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(I'm a very bad writer so just bare through my lack of vocab and the way I word things. Sorry!)
I was 14 almost 15 when I lost my virginity. Since then I have probably had sex 40ish times with at least 14 or 15 different people (I did it with the same people over and over)
And I regret it..a lot. For a few different reasons.
First, my reputation went to complete shit. In high school, word spreads fast. I was pretty much labeled a "man whore" or a player, etc. You never really see a guy get made fun of for sleeping around. Usually it's just girls who are the ones who get the shit for being a "slut". But this time it was the other way around. I don't think 'bullying' was the right word for it. I mean, nobody actually came up to me and made fun of me, or beat me up. I don't think anyone has ever said anything directly to my face about it. But people knew, and they talked about it. Rumors spread around about me. Stupid ones that you would think nobody believed, but everyone did. Even my friends started to get a bad rep. So they didn't really want to be seen with me. And yes I know, highschool reputation means pretty much nothing once you graduate. But being alone almost all 4 years of highschool is pretty hard for a teenager.
I feel like this would affect me actually finding a future partner. Which worries me. When I meet someone new I always think "Should I tell them? They're not going to want to be with me once they find out" I feel nobody would be interested in dating me in the future. They could figure that I'm a player and that I would just leave after we fucked. I don't want to seem like that kind of person. Because I'm not. a lot of the people I've slept with, I actually had feelings for. But I slept with them before we were actually in a relationship so when I wanted to start one, they didn't. (that is why if you really like someone, you should wait till AFTER you start dating them to have sex) I just don't want the number of partners I've had to affect relationships I might have in the future.
there was heartbreak too. I don't know If anyone else is like this but sex gives me some kind of emotional attachment to that person. I know its only for one night but I still develop a small crush on the person or actually want to get to know them. But of course when it's one night, it's one night.
Eventually my mom found out that I wasn't a virgin. She insisted I get tested. I was clean, thank god. That makes me realize that I'm lucky. I was an idiot for having unprotected sex so many times. Especially since I knew the people I've done it with are far from virgins.
So it really wasn't worth it. I feel I shouldn't of even slept with ONE person as a teenager much less 14. Right now I haven't had sex in a few months, and I'm going to keep it that way. I don't think I'm going to sleep with anyone else until I'm actually in a relationship. No more hook ups at parties, no more unprotected sex, and no more being a "man whore" lol.
I wrote this take for teens who are thinking about having sex for the first time. You may think you're ready, but sex at a young age could lead to regret like it did to me. And you don't want to be a teen parent.. It's your life though, I obviously can't decide for you. If you really do want to have sex then, its important to be safe and responsible. Always use protection, and don't listen to excuses your partner may have for not wanting to use it.
What Girls & Guys Said
0 3That's one hell of a story. To be honest I've never thought about losing my virginity to anyone else than my girlfriend (and considering I don't have a girlfriend that's not gonna be anytime soon). I wouldn't even be prepared. I don't have any condoms, and no way I'm going to have unprotected sex (as if STDs weren't bad enough, I do NOT want to get a girl pregnant).
Anyway, about your story. I'm curious, how in the world does one get 14 girls to have sex with them 40 times at the age of 14-17? All hookups at parties?
Lastly, nice mytake.
Well some were relationships, some were fuck buddies, some were only once
Never knew this kind of shaming also happens to guys. Insightful mytake, that's for sure. Good job!
Thanks :D I'm actually gay so that's probably why I got a lot of shame for it. I didn't mention I was gay because I was scared a lot of religious people would attack me or something
Ah I see, I might have been a bit quick to assume those were girls. No worries, I have nothing against gay people.
I'd still prefer that over being near- virgin after 20. I am sorry but I can't empathize with person complaining about having sex. Try going for 10+ months without it and than come back. After you experienced that pure agony of wanting to bash your brain out of your skull against the wall every single fucking day...
Thanks Brotha :) Cool myTake!
Thanks :D