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Why I think All Guys Should Measure

This flies into a lot of popular thinking that the more a guy thinks about his penis, the more he will develop insecurities around it. I disagree.

Why I think All Guys Should Measure

Fear and insecurity doesn't come so much out of a believe of inadequacy...it comes out of a belief that you might be inadequate and that being so would be difficult a reality to suffer. Fear is always proportional to the gravity of what there is to lose. That's why the scariest thing to happen is someone to threaten your life. Similarly, the fear that you might be inadequate and that you couldn't handle it is in someway akin to fearing you'd die and so you grow more and more anxious about it.

But what if you just accepted that whatever the outcome you could handle it? You wouldn't be worried...you would just know. And if the answer wasn't what you wanted...well, at least you could make progress towards acceptance, rather than continuously fearing the thought.

Yes, I know that it doesn't actually matter past a certain point how big it is. That has nothing to do with what this is about. This is about a man's insecurity that his symbol of masculinity pales into comparison of what he'd like it to be. This is about not introducing fear to an act that should be all about pleasure and love.

Another reason it's important for a guy to measure is because it's honestly one of the things that can easily appear as optical illusion. By this I mean, for instance, if it's fat it will look smaller from a distance than the same lengthed but skinny one would look like much like a tall thin man will appear taller than a tall fata man at first glance. Also, if you work out a lot and have big muscles it will look bigger. If you manscape it will look bigger than if you are really hairy for obvious reasons. The point though is that once you measure optical illusions no longer matter because you know the truth.

And to share my own personal story...I always thought I was average until I was 17 and finally measured and found that I was really big compared to 6 inch average. We always assume things will be worse once we find the truth, but often it's better than we imagined.

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  • I disagree about fear. The greatest fear is the fear of the unknown. This is why we are scared to die because it's something we've never done. "What happens after we die?" "What does it feel like to die?" "Is this person actually capable of killing?" Which is why you couldn't "just know." Maybe just a difference in philosophies on that front though. I won't say you're wrong, but again just different views there.

    I do think fear (insecurity) and potential (or what we see as potential) can call us to action.

    My dick size is considered big and I've learn to find out that there are advantages and disadvantages to it. Sometimes I wish I was average and sometimes I'm glad for the large size.

    The last part seems to assume that average is inadequate despite what you wrote before all that. I wouldn't say average is worst. Given how it's what most women would see and is just a inch or two larger than a unaroused vagina I would say it is probably the most preferred.

    • average isn't average to girls the fear is in no one having your size dick there is no reference soo along with dying this is my greatest hindrance. girls tend to change there minds a lot so I'm not sure it's not a big deal oh lookin there a pun oh haha soo funny I'm dying literally

    • I really don't understand what you're talking about. Girls change their minds about penis size? Yeah some might, but most probably don't.

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  • It's sad that it even matters in the first place.

    • it is but i think it's so engrained into the male psyche at this point it has to be addressed constructively

    • Luckily many women aren't good at judging sizes, so it doesn't matter that much.

    • I've heard they will use their finger to measure when you aren't looking and then measure with a tape measure later on, but that might just be internet bs.

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  • I think the only reason why a guy should measure is out of curiosity, but that shouldn't impede him in any way.

    I didn't realize how many men are honestly insecure about it until I came on here. What I think would help would be if there were all-male bonding retreats that would help men accept themselves.

    • but how can they accept what they don't know?

    • Who says they need to? Just be content on something that you cannot change. I'm still unsure how "Extenze" is supposed to help men.

    • so sad you don't know how it feels and girls never will you its not men were trying to please so me telling this dude my dick size won't help

  • So many guys worry about their size on here I really don't get the big deal. It squirts stuff out, that's all that matters lol. Just show your women affection and love and you'll be alright. Women aren't going to decide to go out with you or not depending on your size. So chill guys.

    • it's all a term of long term in the long run we lose no getting around it

  • What if you didn't care enough to measure in the first place?

  • 7 inch master race checking in

  • At least 12" flaccid amirite? @polocrew

  • The topic is quite interesting that's all... Its extremely boring to read... Some good points are there don't get me wrong. But I'd give it a 4/10...

  • "Also, if you work out a lot and have big muscles it will look bigger."

    Wouldn't that make it look smaller? If you've got big muscular legs and abs and so on, it will be smaller in proportion to your legs than a thin guy with the same size.

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