Why I Used To Hate Giving Head But Now Love It

Why I Used To Hate Giving Head But Now Love It

I love giving head to my guy. My occasional eye contact, sounds of intense pleasure (frequent moaning, licking, and slurping), and devouring his penis inside of my mouth, he would have never guessed that at one time I was a teenage girl who hated giving oral.

Why I Used To Hate Giving Head But Now Love It

I didn't know it then...but I thought my feelings about giving oral was because it just wasn't my thing.

I didn't put together that it was the men I chose to accompany myself with that made the experience unsatisfying.

They acted as if pleasuring them was an obligation more so than a form of intimacy, we both could share together.

If I were to decline anything sexual, they would become upset with me and I'd be accused of ruining their day.

These men that I thought respected me, really didn't.

I met countless of them.

I would be begged over and over to give oral to them, at times they would take their penis out and physically force my head down into their lap.

I would fight them off.....

Why I Used To Hate Giving Head But Now Love It

Every one in high school bragged about getting laid or doing sexual favors.

It was almost as if doing these adult acts were a badge of being cool.

You'd be well respected and taken more seriously.

Those who were virgins were looked at as childish and immature.

How could I not know most of the guys I encountered were in it for themselves, and couldn't care less about me.

They too had a badge of pride they wanted to show others and brag about.

Why I Used To Hate Giving Head But Now Love It

Every day that passes you by, is a day you grow older and make decisions that will influence your life (either for the better or worse).

It took meeting the right man (outside of my high school) or immature crew I was involved in, that showed me what it is like to truly have someone that respects you.

I met this older man who became well acquainted with me, over the course of a significant time frame.

We were co-workers and he was my manager, and upon first meeting me it was apparent he had taken a strong liking towards me.

Every one at our job could sense it.

He wasn't my physical type, but with all that I had been through why not give someone

different a shot?

Being "picky" may come with consequences. Opening your mind to something new may unleash something great!

You just have to give it a chance...

And so I did.

Why I Used To Hate Giving Head But Now Love It

One day, things had gotten so heated between us that before I knew it I was stripped down after hours at our work place while we closed together.

The only thing that was left on were my red lace panties.

His jaws dropped open, he loved what he saw.

He wanted to go further but I shied away.

Something was holding me back, I couldn't do it.

I was so nervous.

I told him the way that I felt, he replied by saying "Okay".

He didn't get upset with me.

He didn't treat me any differently.

When it was time for our departure, he made sure I got all the way home.

He didn't drive then, and took the train two hours with me to Brooklyn and traveled

back to the Bronx.

Days passed and he continued speaking to me as if nothing had happened.

Wow, was this what it felt like to have a man that respected you?

He was a true gentleman, someone who wasn't all in it for themselves.

This made me want him even more.

Why I Used To Hate Giving Head But Now Love It

Why I Used To Hate Giving Head But Now Love It

When the opportunity presented itself again, this time I was inside of his home.

I took his handcuffs and locked them on to his bed railings.

I went down between his legs and started sucking him off.

I enjoyed and savored every moment.

This felt so good, and the feeling was mutual.

His eyes rolled back.

His toes curled.

I could taste his pre-cum.

I happily licked it as if I hadn't been fed in days.

I got on top of him and rode him for what felt forever.

I didn't care....

All of my frustration, and tension was taken out on his penis.

He loved the rough girl sex coming from such a innocent and delicate looking

creature.

The sex was amazing!

Every part of it.

Why I Used To Hate Giving Head But Now Love It

Today I stand before you, a fanatic for giving oral and of course

sex!

Like a genie, I must be spoken to, treated well, and rubbed the right way for this part of my sexuality to unleash itself.

I never find myself holding back.

Giving oral sex is a part of my very own pleasure.

To see how much power I can have in his satisfaction, by simply devoting myself to knowing every inch of his member is beyond words.

I discover and learn him like a newfound planet.

He loves it.

He appreciates it.

Giving oral sex is amazing!

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Most Helpful Guy

  • I'm a total virgin so take my opinion with a grain of salt, but the thought of oral has never appealed to me very much. For one, I'm more of a submissive type than a dominating one, so I would rather *give* oral to a woman because of my self-emptying personality than receive it. But also because what I really want someday is a footjob. It is my #1 sexual fantasy that causes me to daydream about my wedding night. I dream of the day my wife will finally jerk me off with her feet and I will cum the biggest load in my entire life and be a happy happy boy.

    But what I learned from your Take is that regardless of what sort of sexual activities a man may enjoy, he should never be pushy with a woman but always respectful and patient. And that this respectfulness and patience may in fact make the woman want to satisfy you more. I hope that I marry a woman like you someday, and that I can make her feel loved.

    More than anything, I want to maximize the woman's pleasure during sex because I take delight in making another person happy.

    • I am glad you learned something from this mytake. It seems to me as if you have a foot fetish... nothing wrong with that :). However , before you completely disregard receiving oral sex I've always been one to say, at least something before you completely refuse it. You never know , it may just be your thing ! As for you saying you are submissive when I think of someone that is , I don't think of them giving oral like you described but more so sitting back receiving it and allowing their girl to be in control.

    • **at least try something before you completely refuse it

    • Thank you. I will keep an open mind to it like you said. More than anything, I want to be honorable and respectful about it because I love women. What you said about guys in high school trying to force you to give them oral really disturbed me, and made me feel bad for you. Thank you for inspiring me to be the best gentleman that I can possibly be :) and for not judging me because of my massive foot fetish.

Most Helpful Girl

  • I like your take, but if anyone else still hates giving head, you don't have to suck up and down his shaft. You can just focus on the head of his D and only suck there and use your hand on the shaft, so he can't push you further down... don't let guys make you deepthroat! Plus, if a guy ever gossiped about me, I'd give him another BJ later on, and then when we went in for the kiss I'd put his cum back into his mouth.

    I'd pretend like I swallowed it first of course LOL

    • I had literally walked out mid blow job on a guy who started trying to ram it down. Spit on him and walked the fuck out of his apartment!

    • @Sara413 good for you! they deserve it.

    • I never gossiped or anything but one gal I was seeing, decided to make out with me before she swallowed so I got a good taste of myself ahah

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  • Same. So much same. I DESPISED doing it when I was with the douche bags I dated before. My husband, on the other hand, never asked me for it. Not once. He practically worships the ground I walk on, and that made me so badly want to worship his cock. I suck him off regularly and enjoy every minute of it. I let him blast cum all over my face. I blow him while he's watching TV or playing video games, and I tell him to just keep doing what he's doing and just let me do my thing. I wake up and feast on his morning wood before he's even opened his eyes. I've made a blow job last well over an hour on numerous occasions. I love it. I love pleasing him.

    I don't do it expecting the favor to be returned, though many times it is.

    Glad I'm not the only one. :)

    • I agree there too many guys who act like pigs or don't respect you and I don't understand why they can't respect women in the same way.

    • I bet most people have found someone who didn't treat them decently once in their lives.

    • Your husband sounds like a lucky man!

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  • Unfortunately, this is most young women's experience... some are fortunate enough to have their first lover or two be genuinely kind men who respect them... most of us aren't.

    I hated giving blow jobs until I got with my current boyfriend, largely because it felt like a degrading act. I was strong willed enough that I never gave in to pressure from guys begging or trying to guilt me into giving them a blowie, but just the way blow jobs are talked about in our culture and the way so many young men treat them (like something to cajole a woman into and brag about, not a shared experience) made me think the act itself was gross and degrading. I'd only ever give head as foreplay, and only if I was getting mine too.

    Now, sometimes it's nice to just give my boyfriend a blow job. I like feeling him tense up right before he cums. I like feeling him and tasting him. I like seeing the look of total relaxation and satisfaction on his face during and after. It feels good and is pleasurable for me to give pleasure to him, because it's not done out of some sense of obligation or because he asks me to... it's done simply because it's one more way for me to express my love for him.

    I've always found oral to be a more intimate and meaningful act than intercourse, and it does come down to the added level of vulnerability involved. When you give oral, you really are GIVING something. When you have intercourse you're getting something as well as giving, so there is by the very nature of the act some equality and fairness.

    • Even when it comes to intercourse, it took til my FIFTH partner before I ever had sex and didn't feel dirty, gross and used after... he was the first one who treated me with respect and dignity. What guys need to understand is that not only is it hurtful to those young women whose insecurity they are preying on when they treat us as objects and degrade us, they're also cheating themselves out of a much better experience. When a woman feels respected and beautiful and wanted by her partner - even if he's just her partner for a night - she's a hell of a lot more fun...

    • I wish I could thumbs this up more than once. You hit the nail on it. I couldn't agree more.

    • Great take by the way

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  • I think i learned something today, be a good man and dont be pushy. therefore get laid by someone who wants to do it rather than making them feel bad or forced. Am I right?

    • Correct 100 percent!

  • It's not really abnormal, females are more squeamish about giving oral while guys are pretty cool with wanting to get it and give it, a lot more than women I think. It probably does take women more of a level of relaxing to give head. Though I find it odd when a woman expects a guy to go down on her, and if he doesn't she insults him as either gay, a pussy, or unmanly.

    Forced oral is terrible, and while I crave deepthroat there are still other sex things I really like, like tittysex =)

  • WELL then.

    • Huh? Lol

  • interesting take

  • So do you want the favour returned?

    • Yes, I love receiving oral sex. The thing is, I find myself giving far more than I receive. I guess I am a pleaser. Do u like giving oral sex?

    • I like giving but I'm quite skeptical on whom to give base on my culture these things are still kinda tabooed

  • Glad you found a good man.

  • Wow... great take... well written, expressive and entertaining

  • Uhh I almost got a boner reading this, is that weird? hahaha damn!

  • Interesting, great reading!

  • I've never had a bad experience with oral other than 2 women literally sliding me in and out of their mouths with no suction. I am glad you enjoy it now more than you did in the past and gave it another chance after the douches you were with.

  • Firs of all being forced to do something is not right. No matter who is giving or receiving. I also have to agree with you that, when you are with someone who truly repects you, the sexual acts become acts of love. Something that you could not do before, becomes something you want to do for them, and it ends up becoming more fun for the both of you. Keep up the good work, I love rading your blogs, so informative, and you are a rspectied editor in my book.

    • <3 Thanks

  • Beautiful

  • I like giving I hate receiving

    • I used to feel the same way about receiving but then I learned it's only because I've never gotten great oral.

    • they use it as a damn chew toy. no thanks

    • Chew toy? Yikes! I'd hate oral too

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  • But why did this just gave me a boner?

  • Your description makes me want to try giving one! Wow!

  • when you are with someone who truly repects you, the sexual acts become acts of love. Something that you could not do before, becomes something you want to do for them, and it ends up becoming more fun for the both of you. Keep up the good work,

  • This thread is less about oral sex and more about compatability. You were perfectly justified as a teenager for not falling all over some guy just to chalk up a score. I didn't have a lot of girlfriends going through school, but I always tried to make the girl I was with feel special. I remember an incident that happened to me in my twenties: a guy I worked with was introducing me and the girl I was with to his date. He gave her a big wind up which all of us knew was a crock that he hoped would get him laid later. I simply introduced my date as my friend. She told me afterwards she felt more honored and respected by those two little words than all the hyperbole he gave. I guess the moral is when you love and respect your partner you do what pleases them be it oral sex or no sex or whatever it takes.

  • If you like doing it then go for it, I say. But if you're one of these girls who does it because they feel obliged, or does it even though they don't like to do it: you're lacking self respect and have been degraded. I guess it's something girls need to learn.

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