Sexual Relationships 
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When I was younger, I used to just always daydream about having a boyfriend. I thought having a boyfriend would be the best thing on the planet. I used to almost obsess about how I could make him commit, or how I'd be sure he wanted me, and etc.
I'm single atm, and happy about it. If I do decide to hookup, then I want to try everything. I never, ever thought that I'd say anything like that, but I'm sick of holding back.
I've posted on here before how I want to do oral only hookups, and I probably will, but that doesn't mean I won't have regular sex. I've also posted about how I expect hookup sex to suck for me since the guy won't know what I like or how my body works, like how a boyfriend would.
But then I talked to people about it more. In my case, I'd want to hookup sober or at least not be more than buzzed. The people I talked to about it inspired me though. I like how free casual sex can be, and not having to be so serious. Like no stress, or less stress...
I want to see if I can get a guy who doesn't really care about me to do what I want. Like would he just do whatever I asked? Slow sex, stop and start sex, oral, etc. I want to see how far I can go, like how easy it is. Does the sex have to be shitty, or not? Will he lie about doing x, y, or z for me or not?
If I ask to hang out after, or after fucking on the first date, would he say yes? I want to experience what it's like getting a basically random guy to interact with me like this. Instead of always pushing for a regular relationship, I want to see what it's like to be more free with people.
So the people I talked to convinced me that I should give this a shot. I don't believe I can make things or sex perfect with a relationship anymore. I want to see how much fun I can have without that instead.
What Girls & Guys Said
19 45Go for it, and let us know how it turns out.
finally you see the light!!!
Casual sex is like sports. Sex in relationship might be the ultimate satisfaction.
Honest intake. Casual sex has its ups and downs. You got my vote there.
It's your choice, I guess you want to have your fun before you decide to settle down in the future.
Damn just get a dildo. Why waste your body counts? 😂
I don't see anything wrong with any of that , just practice safe sex.
I think you're not making right decision, sex doesn't necessary mean Happy life.
Casual sex will lead to even more distance between you and real happiness and content.
It's your life, your decisions.
I have not had much casual sex of late. I did however enjoy. what I enjoy now is sexting and sending pictures to and fro.
Well you are straight to the point i see
Casual sex was always way better than any relationship. I don't know why did you even feel the need to explain this. Its like explaining why you would want a brand new Mercedes instead of some broken down piece of shit of a car.
I am the guy version of you. I always dreamt of having a girlfriend until I realized most girls annoy.
Use protection !!
Remember when guys used to do this to girls? Play with their minds and see how far they could get? I say remember like it doesn't happen anymore, but I don't understand why you would want to do this to someone else.
People have value. I don't think this would be fun at all, and usually when karma comes back to bite you it comes in the form of you falling for a guy with these initial intentions, and him not liking you back. I wouldn't listen to your friends who are telling you this will be fun.
Him listening to my needs for sex is bad how?
I'm referring to this line: "I want to see if I can get a guy who doesn't really care about me to do what I want." I reread it, if you want to try it then try it, but if you came from the mentality of dreaming about relationships it's might not be all it's cracked up to be.
Yeah. Do what I want sexually. If he wants to hang after sex or be fiends that's cool too, but everyone says you can only get good sex from a boyfriend. So I wanted to see how much I can get a random to do for me.
thats a classic pattern for a girl. has unrealistic idealistic standards of relationships. proceeds with no discretion and purpose. gets heart broken. becomes a sloot with a shell around her heart... .
and it all boils down to sex of course.
I wish I could see life this simply, just a little.
its complicated only in your head. needlessly complex lifes have needlessly complex thoughts. you can think in complex manners and be quite insane though... . reintroduce simplicity in your life and 99% of your "problems" vanish away like thin smoke... .
Maybe i'm wrong but my idea of experiencing the world and exciting new things isn't counting the number of dicks I can take in my mouth or other places.
It just sounds to me like you've given up on what you really want, so you're resorting to your second option of sleeping/oral sexing around. I understand how bad long term relationships can make you feel but I don't think this is the right outlet for it.
In the end you will do what you want and of course other people will tell you to do it or try it but I feel like you're young and this is a decision that I wouldn't take lightly.
Good
I personally don't feel that this is a healthy view on sexuality and I think you should wait to have sex with someone you love as it feels better that way anyway. I've talked to various women ranging in ages and multitudes have told me that no strings attached sex have mentally scarred them in various ways. It may not catch up to you now but perhaps 10 years down the road.
Is that the same for men I wonder?
Not anything there are a few things i don't feel safe doing
mostly where there's a high risk of STIs but its still a wide range of things id do and or try and personally I wouldn't lie about what id be willing to do and I can be trusted.
That doesn't mean you should trust that i'm like that though because you don't know that only i do. I might be someone that can't be trusted for all you know?
Why not? You're young, experiment, enjoy, explore yourself. Life is too short to be tied down, you'll know when the time is right to settle down but for now, do what you wanna do.