Why I Will Talk To My Kid(s) About Sex

We live in a society that is oversexual. Everywhere I go I can't help but notice the constant images that display sex. The music videos, award performances, and magazines are just not what they used to be. It's like instead of people focusing on actual talent they use "shock-factor" by being over the top sexually to gain publicity.

I remember the times when people gained recognition for their legendary work.

Do you remember the artists we grew up listening to right along side of our parents? Those are the people I am talking about.

Most of the fame that is attained nowadays isn't about the actual talent that one has. It's about who can keep people talking the longest. What over the top stunt can be done next? This is the thought our so-called talents have when they think of a way to overshine their competition. Sure, there are exceptions to the rule. There are those who didn't have to literally "sell themselves" to the industry to become a well known name. But I feel as if doing so, is becoming the more common method.

Why I Will Talk To My Kid (s) About Sex

Miley Cyrus played a very lovable role of a girl named Hannah Montana on the Disney Channel. However, she couldn't stop people from talking when she twerked her rare end, and pretended to play with herself with a giant foam finger at the VMA awards. Some people claimed to have enjoyed her performance. Wait a minute-----stop! Is that what a performance is now? It's almost as if Miley became a sensation overnight for the shock factor she displayed that day. She continues to do so with her over the top sexual image.

Why I Will Talk To My Kid(s) About Sex

Although she is the daughter of Bruce Jenner (An American athlete) Kim Kardashian's individiual fame didn't come to rise with that alone. In 2007, A sex tape with her and Ray J (A famous singer) came to surface in the public eye. Besides people not being able to get enough of her curves, the sex tape made her the constant topic of discussion. Later on that year (2007) Kim was able to attain her own show called "Keeping up with the Kardashians" which is still airing.

Jessica Vanessa was a school pre-kindergarten teaching assistant. She quit her job when she decided she was making more money by "professionally twerking". Jessica makes 100,000 dollars (6 figures) doing this.

“What I make in six seconds would take me four months to make as a teaching assistant,” she told Barcroft TV.

So, what does this say about our generation?

What impression is this giving young children?

The more sexually over the top you are the more recognition you will get. How does someone who works their entire lives striving for success fall short? And someone who flashes their tits, or sleeps around becomes America's idol? You can argue otherwise, but facts speak wisely. For someone to gain and maintain their fame, they must have a huge fanbase (and that is exactly what these people have), which is how they excelled so far in the first place.

I've noticed that women tend to be more sexually provocative when it comes to the attention they gain in the media. But lets not ignore the fact that men have countless video vixens in their music videos operating in a vulgar and sexual manner. Does this teach boys to value girls? If this is what a great majority of the images displayed is showing.

Why I Will Talk To My Kid(s) About Sex

With all of the constant images being shown of sex in our culture, I find the need to talk about it more important than ever. When my kid(s) become teenagers I will educate them about sex. I feel like disregarding your kids feelings toward sex, is one of the worse things a parent can do. A child wanting to know about sex is a natural part of their development. Their feelings of curosity or self exploration is a natural process. Telling your child that their feelings are wrong and burrying the hatchet (of the sex topic) makes things worse in my opinion. The embarassment some of these kids face at the hands of their own parents, doesn't make these natural urges go away. Just because you don't hear about your kid wanting sex anymore, doesn't mean their feelings have been abolished. Instead these kids, think how can I better hide having sex from my parents. When they do engage in sexual encounters, chances are they will have very limited education about it (unless they really do their homework on the sex topic). Some of these teens will learn from their highschool friends who also don't know much about about sex. This sets up a recipe for diaster. What happens if your kid was sexually taken advantage of and they are too afraid to come to you about it? If you had that open road of communication in the beginning they wouldn't think twice about coming to you.

Important discussions:

  • Birth control methods
  • How to properly put on/use a condom
  • Stds

How to be safe in your decisions:

  • Don't give into peer pressure
  • Do not put yourself in vulnerable situations

These are all things that need to be talked about with your kid. The discussion about all these things can't happen in one day. It happens over time (which is why I feel it is best to immediately introduce the topic of sex to your child, when they reach a certain age). You're not telling your kid to have it, you're just telling them that when they do to be responsible (and well aware of everything that's out there). Having a open book relationship with your kid can aide in their development. Ignoring my kid(s) curiosity and having society has their major influence makes me feel as if there is a higher increase in some them making the wrong choices.

Sure, life is a learning lesson and we all make mistakes. Chances are, I can educate my child well about sex and they still can make the wrong choices. But as a parent, I want to feel the satisfaction of knowing that I did my part. I did not ignore when my child needed me as their parent, teacher and a guide.

Why I Will Talk To My Kid(s) About Sex
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  • I agree completely and want to say you are a very responsible and great mother. The world really needs more moms (and dads) like you.
    just a couple of comments:
    1) Kim is actually Bruce (Caitlyn)'s step-daughter (I'm embarrassed that I know that)
    2) WTF? twerking is actually a profession now? seriously?
    (I Googled it and still can't believe it; what is the world coming to?)

    • Thanks for that compliment :). I know very little about the Kardashian's since I don't follow them, lol. I would have never known Bruce and Kim aren't blood related but that's for telling me. Also, I agree with you. WTF is this world coming to? How can the word "professional" and "twerk" in the same sentence. I'm sick now :-o

    • *but thanks for telling me I meant.

    • You're welcome :) good parenting deserves to be complimented. "professional twerking"... still shaking my head about that

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  • Agree completely. I probably will do that with my children.

    Not that my parents did the same with me. I did learn most through internet, school, and media.

    However, I do see the same worrisome tendency that you talk about and I prefer to b safe than sorry. B open with them about it, instead of being ashamed of discussing it.

    • Yes, I also learned through friends and Internet. I wish my parents spoke to me about sex. They criticized me when they realized I was having it and made me feel ashamed. I had no idea that they wanted me to wait until marriage because it was never discussed. I feel this is an important talk parents should not avoid. Thanks for commenting !

    • Yes I think my parents want me to wait too. Even if they never said it straightforwardly. I think it is implied. I don't know if I will though.

    • No problem! Another Great MyTake :)

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  • This is an awesome myTake!
    My #1 reason to talk to kids about sex:
    i.crackedcdn.com/.../371692.jpg?v=1
    www.cdc.gov/healthyyouth/sexualbehaviors/index.htm

    Keep Spreading Wisdom :)

  • sex is part of love... best time to tell your kids is when they are in their first relationship. so key is not to ignore your kids after school? i guess?

  • Thank god my dad discussed these things with me. My country is extremely conservative but still he managed to teach me using indirect methods.
    I learnt from friends and porn too.

    I'll follow the legacy. :) Glad you will do this too.

    The society has always been sexual but it was never unnecessarily sexual like we have it nowadays :/

    • Yes. Society has always been sexual... but now it is "over sexual" in my opinion.

    • Yeah. Even the basic things like toothpaste and deodorant are sold with the promise from the companies that if you'll use them, she'll be impressed. Duh!

  • It's very good to know for kids to know about sex and be open with the parent about it like my father went about it in the wrong way and said don't have sex at all or he would kill me end of story or tried to keep me away from my boyfriend which only made me want to be with him more so that's the wrong way to go about it now my mother on the other hand was very helpful and knowledgeable and informed me on how to be safe about it and we always had an open relationship about sex all parents should be that way even though I didn't listen and had a child at 17 she was still always there for me so yes good mytake

  • Yup this modern day era of entertainment, gives parents of girls yet another reason to fully inform their daughters about sex!

    Better than the parent, than from another clueless peer of hers.

    • Definitely ! Boys should be informed as well.

    • Definitely so, but I put the focus on girls because that Miley Cyrus example is in my head! :-P

    • Lol. Well no one wants their daughter to be that trashy

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  • Our society isn't 'oversexual' as some people rdpeat.
    Did you see classical Greek Roman or Renaissance art?
    About all societies were sexual, 19th century Puritanism excepted.

  • Fully agree. i want to be on that level where my kids can discuss anything about sex. Like to the point where if my daughter wants to be sex worker for example, she has the freedom to discuss it with me without feeling oppressed. like sex must not be a taboo at all. open and honest.

  • Why wouldn't you talk to your kids about sex?
    All kids needs the sex talk, it's hella important!!

  • yeah that's why i bailed a long time ago

    • Elaborate please.

    • bailed on western culture

    • Lol.

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  • Seeing this reflect from the everday life outside of my house is just something that makes me facepalm. Even worse, it is popular. Who are these kids going to believe? They mama who just wants to stop all the fun?

    But yous as parents have to be relentless. Eventually your child will come round and see things from your point of view.

    It is odd how this massive development in technology seems to be in correlation with the increase in magnitude of omgwtf-how-annoying-whiny-bitching-goodfornada teenager attitude.

    Kids will cuss their parents out like there is no tomorrow and nothing significant happens to them. I got killed when I tried to pull an attitude.

    So, sex. Until they have to experience it for themselves other than from xhamster videos, your words will ring hollow, but keep at it.

  • Don't underestimate lube.
    There's nothing wrong with masturbation.
    Be honest, and communicate with whoever you're doing the dirty dance with.

  • what complete morons are not talking to their kids about sex?

    • You'd be surprised !

    • well there is no helping those sorts of morons, maybe try an article that does not sate the blindingly obvious next time.

    • "maybe try an article that does not sate the blindingly obvious next time" What are you implying?

  • what if your kids are "ready" for sex in high school years or younger? Why not teach them how to wait and control themselves? Waiting in important to a lot of people wish they didn't give their virginity at such a young age or so early because they wish they saved it for their true spouse. self-control is key. this is just gonna tell your kids they have sex any time they want and just do it with a condom. self control is key.