Why I Wish I Waited to Lose my Virginity

Why I Wish I Waited to Lose my Virginity

The Big Loss

I lost my virginity to the first girl I dated. I was young and dumb and lost it. Straight off the bat I believe I lost some thing to this girl that wasn't right for me, this girl who I now don't speak to and won't meet again has something of mine. The after effects of this is the thought process that I have nothing to lose now, let's fuck around...

Why I Wish I Waited to Lose my Virginity

The Aftermath

And I did in the space of 3 months after I had a lot of sex, and it was fun don't get me wrong, but every time it becomes less special. I then met a girl, a religious girl (I myself believe although this dosent effect anyones reply if you aren't religious yourself) she wanted to wait until marriage, but because of my past and my expectations I influenced her and made her feel like it was okay to have sex and do sexual things. This tore her apart and I believe it is one of the big contributions to why she left me.

Why I Wish I Waited to Lose my Virginity

Now I am heart broken and confused. Sex has lost it's magic for me, and furthermore is damaging relationships I have now. One can only think that if i did wait, I would still be with the girl, I would be happy, I would be pure.

The sum up.

- A girl I will never meet again took my virginity.

- Sex has lost it's magic.

- My eventual wife will have less of a personal intense connection with me.
- I've missed out on exploring and learning about the most insane sensation with one girl.

What do you think?

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Most Helpful Girl

  • hey :) dont be sad,
    you can still fix your future, what happens yesterday won't happen today

    even you felt bad, that this happen, at least you're the guy
    You can still fix it

    You can find the right one
    for girls who aren't virgin (you can find their pure heart)

    Know yourself more,( dont focus yourself with sex)
    spend more time building your future, as a great man, great husband, great father

    for the girl you will meet, treat them for the best
    Purity is not only based in virginity
    it lies inside our heart

    let your heart speak loud

    virginity is just a symbol of purity for the world
    but for you,.

    you know Your heart better and pure that you desire the best
    for your heart

    I salute you for being honest
    and that makes you great :)

    a lot of boys are pigs than ever,. and for me your the best,.
    cause you care and value love with purity :)

    just make it work this time

    • This^

    • yep :)

    • thanks for the mho :)

Most Helpful Guy

  • You didn't lose anything. You gained experience. There's a first time for everything. Maybe it was not what you expected, but it's not like you can't have memorable sex again. Each person is a different experience when it comes to sex, intimacy, relationship, and so on. You still got it so move on to the next girl you find a connection with.

    • MHO% right here ↑

    • I agree with this one too.

    • Damn experience always is nedeed 😭😭

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  • You did lose a lot and nobody should tell you any different of what experiences you have felt. If you read this article you are not alone:

    https://www2.cortland.edu/dotAsset/199337.pdf

    You lost an opportunity to marry and experience REAL sex. Not that garbage you're having now. Others are extremely selfish, and you learned how selfish premarital sex can and will be. You hurt somebody you wanted to love and it destroyed your relationship. This is the reality and it's your reality. This is why I'm celibate right now because I can't bare experiencing what you just did with that last girl who left. However, you can heal, but you have to what to change completely and do a full 360 to not have sex before marriage again, and wait for somebody who also wants to wait. It will be hard, but it can be done. And of course, counseling is needed as well.

  • .. the only thing you should regret was putting so much value on something that holds so much, if any, importance in the eyes of people who believe that women exist only to provide a means of sexual release fro men, in addition to being a vessel of reproduction.

    • This is interesting, correct me if im wrong but are you saying its a little sexiest?

    • ... what?

    • "Importance in the eyes of people who believe that women exist only to provide a sexual release for men" Just wondering what you mean

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  • I did the exact opposite thing. I waited a lot, too much. So much that I ended up hating myself for that. And I dumped my girlfriend because I couldn't stand the thought of her having so much sexual experience. While I was a virgin.

    I guess things are just like we feel them. For you it was a bad decision. For me it would have been the right decision. What if the next girl you fall in love with has a lot of sexual experience. Maybe you will be in a better position than me to overcome that.

    Whatever you do, just don't give up. I decided to make it up for me. I'm sleeping around to be experienced for dating any girl out there, without feeling I'm inferior. I spend way too many years thinking sex was something special, to be done with someone special. And that back fired to me.

    • This is actually really helpful, cheers pal

  • Ok deep breathe! The depth of the connection we make with people isn't about the experiences we shares, but about the people who we share these experiences with. It's like Christmas.
    You do Christmas tens of times, and then met the person you are going to marry. You look at this experience (Christmas) in a whole new light. It feels new! It takes on a whole another dimension when you have children. So my point is, you can have sex a hundred times, with a hundred people. But when you open your heart and truly connect with someone special on amind, body and soul level, it takes on a new meaning.

    • Thanks, I guess i just struggle to see it :/

    • Hang in there! 👍🏻

  • How does anyone "lose a virginity"? It's not really something you can lose down the back of a couch, or misplace somewhere, is it?
    You give it away, you don't lose it. And you give things because you want to. Sometimes you regret what you have given, you may think the wrong person got it. But you gave it in good faith at the time, so don't regret it. What's done is done and can't be undone.

  • I lost my virginity to my hands more than confirmed 1000 times.
    But the magic does not fade away. It reoccurs every time for me.

    But I am still by definition a virgin.

    Except I do not believe in virginity.

    I think you are making some of these things a bigger deal than they really are. I'd say if you want to move on, then suck it up, learn and do better next time. Your first time is over.

  • I don't agree with all that but I'm glad my wife saved herself for me.

  • Mate you sound like a big girl as well. Sure you got the right colour? You want a kleenex to dry your eyes? Get a grip ya wee fairy

    • I know im wet... I hate it ahahha, how do you get a grib of ones emotions

    • Sure it's even women your into? I can't see any girl wanting a guy who needs a box of kleenex and a shoulder to cry on before their boyfriend joins them in bed. Most women want proper men, that's what appeals to them.

    • Yeah, and its not i cry before i have sex haha, I've shagged a few beauties... I just regret it after

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  • That's all shit I am a virgin and I feel I have nothing

  • I'm glad I'm still a virgin.

  • That's why i keep it for marriage

  • For every case like yours there will be several of people who wish they hadn't waited as long as they did to have sex. . .

  • I strongly disagree with this. I mean yes you regret it. But do you avoid everything just because you may regret it later?
    you'll miss out on life that way. Its like avoiding driving as you may have a car accident. But you may not
    Life is all about making mistakes and learning from them. You just know what you want from the next special person.
    And realistically the chances of you getting married to a virgin are slimmer than we'd all like.
    As for making sex less special. Well that depends on the girl.
    For example, I was the stupid naive girl who lost her virginity at a party as I was the 'frigid loner girl.' And I regret giving into that. But I still found my first love. Who treated me exactly the same. And loved me the same. It may not have lasted but was still special. And it will be depending on your connection

  • you tore her apart?

    • She would say to me, that she dosent know what to do as she wants to pleasure me but she also wants to do whats right, so it mentally and spiritually tore her apart if you will.

    • how old are you? why don't you both get married if you love each other so much

    • has she left you?

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  • İ think sex is our animal side and we should contact with each other only with touching our souls. we should keep ourselves and save to lost every magical moment.

  • Virginity is not some THING that you lose and never get back because you didn't "have it" at the first place. Virginity is just a positive term we have given to lack of sexual experience.

    Sex has lost it's magic? Well then it would lose it's magic after the first time with your wife anyway.

    I think the problem is only in your head and how you see things. There will always be just one first time on anything, you are giving too much importance to that first time.

    • This! Comment! Right! Here! Yes 👏