Why if a woman answers a sexuality question do some men think it's ok to pm talking dirty or trying to send dick pic links?

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

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This question sparked partly by a question by @Moonchild714
"Gals do you ask guys..." and also because of what happens every time I answer a sexuality question some men think it's ok to hit up your pm trying to sext or more. Yes, I'm a very sexual person and not ashamed of it.
That doesn't mean I'm that way with strangers. I save that part of myself for real in life partners.
Maybe that's why some women are not so willing to be open and honest about their sexuality because this is what happens the minute they do. Not all women want to see your dick pics or send nudes or sext with strangers.

[Tiffany_Taylor_Made]

I'm assuming that these men have poor social skills, don't get out much, and barely to talk to women in real life. If they did, they would understand that it isn't unusual at all for women, especially young women, to speak openly about sex. When we do, it doesn't mean that we actually want sex from you. It's just that sex can make for a great conversation because 99% of humans love sex. When online, especially on this site where is encouraged to ask genders to the other gender, it is less "taboo" for lack of a better word for women to speak on sex. Therefore, it is common here. Guys with poor social skills believe that this means that she wants to have sex with them and would even send dick pics when they shouldn't be sending them. Here is a word of advice to such guys: If she didn't ask for a dick pic, don't send one. Don't embarrass yourself. Chances are, if it's a small one, she might attempt to humiliate you. If it's a big one, she's not going to believe that it's yours. It's probably something you stole off a porn gallery. Improve your social skills and learn how to make yourself attractive towards women. Then, she would ask you for it if she's interested and you would know if she wants you or not.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

❤️❤️❤️ loved this ❤️❤️❤️❤️ And spot on to why this happens 👍🏼 And great advice 👏👏👏

[mrfoox]

Amen... I'm a very open person so I don't mind answering a lot of different kind of questions. But just because I'm on sexual topic ones, doesn't mean I'm sending an open invitation to guys to sext or send pics... 😒

[Lliam]

Those guy are pathetic. It's really creepy. They don't know how NOT to be creepy. That's why they don't have girlfriends and go on-line to harass girls. Their idea of charm is sending dick pics? Brilliant.

It pisses me off because I really want women to be able to safely share their points of view and experiences about sexuality openly and honesty. I think it's fun, entertaining and enlightening. It's a shame when they are inhibited by the behavior creepy creeps.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

That's exactly it. Because I like to have those discussions with like-minded people. But sometimes feel less like answering those questions And how many others will feel the same. And then they ruin it for everyone. But you and others like you show that some people can discuss those things and still stay respectable, so thank you 🙌

[Lliam]

I like those discussions a lot. GAG is one of the few sites where we can have them. by the way, it's a pleasure to be one of your new followers. :-)

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Aww thank you ❤️

[duanemc86]

Little boys still living with mommy. Still get a hard on in the women's underwear dept of a store. Couldn't get laid even if she was dead. Still spend most of their time playing video games. Still dont have a job.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

😂😂😂ha ha ha loved this ❤️

[duanemc86]

🤣🤣🤣👍

[Claireluvskaren]

BINGO. can't say it any better

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@Claireluvskaren Right!! @duanenc86 said it right on 👍🏼

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@duanemc86 said it right sorry got your user name wrong

[DanDavid]

Nope. It's just thirsty (for a lack of a better word, since it fits quite nicely) men who can't get some and are fishing for shock value...

It's disguised exhibitionism (along with the criminal aspect of it), and a poor attempt to try a "nothing to lose" approach since they can hide behind the anonymity of the internet without having to face consequences, or have to deal with the test (and likely a blow against) to their confidence, to attempt the same in real life.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Well said. Agree thanks for not attacking me because I'd rather not see. But the people being rude are the ones probably doing this so getting defensive then attack 🤷

[DanDavid]

People hate being called out on their hypocrisy. And once again, on the internet everyone is brave and quick to lash back at others... It's like dogs barking at eachother across a fence, remove the fence and likely they will just run back and hide... In any case just to add to my previous reply... This isn't necessarily limited to this site or even the internet... Men do this in real life too. Unfortunately the outdated mindset on sexuality is still latent... Men are praised for their virility and women for their purity... So a woman being open about their sexual life, preferences and sexuality in general is often seen as unbecoming or loose, nympho or gives the general idea that she's easy, a slut... You name it, I would rather not go to deep on it since you probably know what I mean... So it attracts creeps and brings out the particularly judgmental outdated conservative people as well... It's a shitty position to be in, and I'm sorry that many women can be open about sex and sexuality in general without the fear of being judged or assaulted.

[DanDavid]

*can't*

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

That's exactly it. Men complain women aren't sexual enough or don't like sex. So untrue. But just because sexual don't mean easy or with just anyone who wants it. But with someone I'm with, well that's a whole different story. Some idiot men ruin it for others and then blame it on others. Nice to get a lot of responses from men that aren't like that. Thank you ❤️

[BreakingSound]

I was going to say that I don't think this is common, because it doesn't really happen to me, but I decided to check my settings and found that I have messages from people I don't follow turned off.

So there's that.

[Claireluvskaren]

Maybe because no girl has ever seen their penis in real life, so they get off on a stranger seeing it. I answer many questions about sexuality and thankfully I have never been sent a dick pic, I would laugh if I did, when I want to see a penis I will ask my husband.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

😂 well said

[PondyPand]

No idea.

[Moonchild714]

Thank you for the mention. This is like a Threesome. I got my Question off of @Secret6620 question #1; mine #2; & this #3.

Hear that guys #Threesome #Allwomen3sum... LOL.

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Omg 😂😂😂 don't you know how many men you probably just stirred up with the idea of a 3 women threesome 😂😂😂

[Moonchild714]

Hahahaha maybe I should rename to Instigator... LOL

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

😂😂 lol right

[B0CKSCAR]

Because men are pigs, and when a girl is open or honest about anything sexual they think that means they're a whore.

[AndreaTV]

I think we all know the answer to this.

What these men need to think is, how would they feel if someone treated their mother, sister, wife or daughter like this? Not that they're likely to have a wife or daughter, of course.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Agreed and agreed lol Indeed I have asked men that IRL when they act like that.

[markscott]

Probably because perverts take whatever opportunity they hope they have.

[Truthatanycost]

It's the thirst. Desperation destroys rationality. The sending of those pics is also in part to a misunderstanding of the difference in attraction between the genders.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Well I'm attracted to men. But again some people rather live it IRL look to each their own. But speaking for myself, I'd rather sext someone that can put those words in action. The only "D" I want to see is the one attached to the man I'm going to be 'actually" be having sex with.

[R_Cakes91]

I don’t answer most sexuality questions specifically because I used to get PMed out the ass with dick pics. You can block messages from people you don’t follow. That’s what I did

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

But you should be able to. And I don't go private because you shouldn't have to because a few that can't behave. I've actually had good conversation with people that aren't that way. And just got a yummy recipe I might not of got otherwise. I just stop em in their tracks and never click links I say thanks but no thanks😀

[R_Cakes91]

I guess it’s a personal choice. I just don’t like dealing with all that crap. I don’t have time to tell a bunch of dudes to put it back in their pants

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Lol I hear you but they have to send link just don't click on it I don't I just reply"ha ha nice try" and they quit

[InfobotsMom]

IF SHE ASKS ABOWT SEX SHE MUST BE HORNI 😏 I BET SHE WNTS TO SEE MI PRAWN 🦐

That's the kind of level of intelligence you're dealing with here. Those guys are just rapey and of low IQ. They'd fuck a doorknob if you drew tits on it.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

😂😂 right

[sammy1537]

Who's the Hollywood producer that was a dear friend of Clintons and currently on trial for sexual abuse? Well, that dude used to put his dick on display too. Stay away from that kind of men.
That is unless you want to become a Hollywood star and millionaire and use award shows to lecture the rest of us on virtue.

[Pamina]

Creeps will be creeps.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Yeah IRL , gag , dating sites. A few idiots spoil things for others 🤷

[Hal2002]

Because they are immature assholes.

[ThisDudeHere]

They jump at any chance they get.

"You think you have a 'right" to send them,?"
- Well, as a matter of fact - everyone has the right to send anything. Freedom of speech. And how are your rights being taken away, exactly?

All in all, the only issue here is that you're not all that equipped to deal with the internet mindset. You approach things done online like you'd approach them in real life which is absolutely how not to deal with any of it. There are different rules here - people online can and should be free to be far ruder than irl, but at the same time - unlike irl, you can just block them or ignore them. You're not forced to interact with them. Seeing an unwanted penis before blocking that number/profile will not make a limb fall off.

tldr: deal with it

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Maybe you forget what GaG stands for girls ask guys or guys ask girls. But fricking little boys who can't get laid IRL troll all the different internet dating sites flashing pics of their little penises and whining how women do this and do that and then wonder why no women want to be with them.

[ThisDudeHere]

The purpose of a medium does not dictate what actually goes on there. The news should be about keeping up with current events, instead all they do is push agendas. Twitter is all for sharing quick and short ideas and yet it's a cesspool. G@G is for asking questions and sharing takes and yet people, as always, find ways to expand the use of a medium beyond it's original intended purpose. It's only human nature. You can't police the entire site to make sure everyone strictly adheres to the rules. "But fricking little boys who can't get laid IRL troll all the different internet dating sites flashing pics of their little penises and whining how women do this and do that and then wonder why no women want to be with them." That is the internet in general. Get used to it.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Yeah the more people justify for people's bullshit behavior the more they think they're behaviour is okay. So you okay with someone sending your daughter dic pics if you had one? Or calling her a bitch it cunt because she's females If more people stopped just "dealing with it" maybe things would change. The ones who got so upset by this question is probably because they're the ones guilty of it 🤔 funny tho that most of the men that responded felt the same. That it's wrong. Keep your "personal" personal... Save it for someone who wants to see it. Ain't my fault if noone does 🤷

[ThisDudeHere]

I'm not justifying, I'm explaining it. I do not condone unsolicited dick pics but neither would I purposefully support wasting time in finding ways how to make it impossible to send them when the perfect solution already exists - blocking them. "So you okay with someone sending your daughter dic pics if you had one?" - I would teach her not to communicate with those kinds of people and to block them. Or make fun of them. "If more people stopped just "dealing with it" maybe things would change." -If more people just dealt with it, it wouldn't be perceived as a problem, which it isn't. Something can't be a problem if it's very easily ignorable. You don't need to advise me on what I do online. But I'd also suggest not wasting breath, figuratively, on advising creeps on it either. They're creeps for a reason - some random woman telling them something isn't okay won't do anything. They thrive on this kind of attention - they like annoying you.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I ain't so worried bout me it's the young women who don't know how to stand up for themselves. Or the ones that commit suicide because of online bullying or do care what idiot strangers think or let that determine their self worth. I had no problem handling it. I did simply ignore or "ha ha funny nice" and stopped em in tracks. But some people, the younger ones may not know how to or get talked into something. It's not always men. I realize women do it it. And it's not all men. There's some very decent people on here. I've also spoke to females who deleted their accounts or left gag because of shit like that. Why should they have to leave because of that. It's the internet yes, but it's still RP AA we're dealing with. And people need to remember how to treat people with respect. That's all I'm trying to say.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

That was supposed to say *nice try lol not nice

[ThisDudeHere]

Then perhaps young women should be encouraged to stand up for themselves, instead of coddled with safe spaces and what not? "Why should they have to leave because of that." -That is entirely up to them and them alone. Their own fault they left. "And people need to remember how to treat people with respect." -Yes, and, in other words, water is wet.

[Boppy]

Dude I think your mindset goes back to the old days of the internet. They were good times for open discussion. People knew what sarcasm was, too. I got joke links to nightmarish medical issues a few times a year from friends or internet strangers, it taught me to think before I clicked. Nowadays, however, dick pics are considered sexual (assault? harassment?) and are illegal in Texas. This problem on GaG is a bit odd to me, as people can just choose to only accept messages from people they follow. It's in the settings.

[AndreaTV]

I think you mis-typed your user name, didn't you mean ThisDumbassHere?

[ThisDudeHere]

@AndreaTV It is rather amusing to see people damn near three times older than yourself act like they are three times younger. Have you nothing to add to the discussion other than ad hominems, ma'am? In case you never noticed, I have yet to lodge a single insult towards @Brainsbeforebeauty , nor do I intend to, and yet your side of the argument is the first to do it.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@ThisDudeHere First, I agree you haven't insulted. People can get points across without insult. But the comment 'your side is first to do so" Please don't make the a man vs women thing. Because first of all, there is just as many if not more male responses that this is wrong and shouldn't be tolerated. Second, I'm tired of people trying to turn every post question into that, but especially mine!! I'm not on the man vs women team. More right vs wrong or smart vs stupid or "brains" vs braindead 😂

[ThisDudeHere]

The way I view it - it is a "police the internet" vs "ignore what you don't like" debate, not man or woman. If I'm sent nudes that I did not ask for by a woman, I don't intend to push for the idea that this activity has to be monitored since I can just block her and move on with my day.

[AndreaTV]

OK, I will explain why I think you're being dumb. First, you don't have the right to say or do anything at any time just because of the first (?) amendment. You can't shout "Fire" in a packed theatre or cinema. You can't call out down the length of an aeroplane to your friend John at the other end "Hi, Jack" without coming to the attention of Homeland Security (or the Air Marshall if you have those on your flights) You can't show your genitalia to someone who doesn't want you to, and you certainly can't claim you didn't know they didn't want to see it before you showed them. So what makes it right to do this on the internet? Whether it's a picture or a link to a picture, it's still wrong and no one should have to put up with it. It's akin to assault, it is all about male abuse of power. there is no defence for doing it, and you show your ignorance by trying to defend it.

[ThisDudeHere]

@AndreaTV I'm not American so I argue for freedom of speech on principle alone. And yes, one technically can do all of those things - the only matter is social consequences. Legal consequences for them should not exist. "You can't show your genitalia to someone who doesn't want you to," -Not that I would, but I can. "So what makes it right to do this on the internet?" -A pointless question. It's neither right or wrong, it is what it is. What gives you the right to police what people do online when it doesn't directly harm anyone? "Whether it's a picture or a link to a picture, it's still wrong and no one should have to put up with it." -Then just block them and move on with your day. "It's akin to assault," -Ok, now you lost the plot. People like you who misuse words that have actual meanings are what's wrong with society. Let me guess, you're the type to categorize someone groping your ass on the train as rape? "it is all about male abuse of power." -No, it's just a bunch of horny retards sending pictures online to annoy you. "and you show your ignorance by trying to defend it." -Point to me where I am actually defending this moronic ation. I am defending absolute freedom of speech online and not policing the internet.

[AndreaTV]

You shout "Fire" in a crowded space, people get trampled in the ensuing stampede, you should face legal consequences. Again, you show your ignorance. If someone groped my arse, I wouldn't cry rape, I'd knee them in the balls and put them in an armlock until the the police turned up to arrest them for assault.

[ThisDudeHere]

@AndreaTV there've been studies that proved that to be wrong, at least outside of America where people aren't as paranoid of public shootings and whatnot. I saw a video of an alarm going on in an American store and everyone went nuts out of panic. The same happened somewhere in Europe and no one gave an f. Okay, you're halfway to being normal by not defining groping as raping, but that does not make defining a nude pic online as assault any less retarded.

[SydneySentinel]

Good question. This place is good for sharing things and being open... but that's not an invitation for lewd, unwanted behavior.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

That is so true. But you always get a few that try to ruin it for everyone else 🤷

[SydneySentinel]

Exactly!

[ecfresh]

Some guys know that women tend to be more horny and turned on certain days of the month than other times. So because they are also horny when they see an opening they go for it. Like others mentioned there is no real penalty and like you responded it’s a few bad apples that ruin it for the community as a whole. When I was younger on dating sites I created a female account just to see how guys reacted so can understand just in a tiny amount the lewd messages and wow so many dicks flew into that inbox the week I had that account.

I just think many guys objectify women online because they want an interactive porn experience and take their chance that if she mentioned sex then she might be wet and willing to escalate with a stranger because some women have done that before. So while some bad apples exist as guys sending pics and being aggressive sexually some bad apples exist from women who encourage and accept sexual aggression from strangers online to satisfy their own sexual desires in the moment.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I agree with you totally 👍🏼

[Iwillneverunderstand]

Gotta get in where you fit in.
Might as well shoot your shot.

[JackPreacher]

You know ma'am that seems to me that is mainly a problem of how this guys (can't call them man) were raised they lack the social skills to approach a female on the streets or to build a real relationship with a woman or girl that will be meaningful or fulfilling that's part of the reason for their behavior the the fact that they feel there is no reprecaution from their actions of sending their nudes or private parts pictures...

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Thank you sir.. Very well said 👏👏

[VictorTheBr]

Dick picks are stupid. I mean , a dick is like an alien. Not attractive at all. I mean we kinda get really excited by getting a boob pic or a pussy pic. But it's just good ol' Testosterone working our brains.

Talking dirty is only good on the right time. That can be interesting for both parties. But after answering a biological question... Well... Let's say that the dude's brain is a sack of jellybeans.
I mean , some guys are plain stupid some are not , same thing with girls. Though you don't expose yourselves as much as we do.