Why is being slutty bad?

I prefer slutty girls, but I hear a lot of slut-shaming and it makes me angry. I also hear a lot of people mention "self-respect" but I also don't see how being slutty is disrespecting yourself. If I want lots of sex partners, wouldn't depriving myself of it be disrespecting myself?
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  • It's not. Sadly, our society (in the US at least) started out majorly Puritan, and a lot of those ideologies have stuck. Plus, a large amount of the population is still of a religion that considers having sex bad or sinful. Thus, many people have these idiotic notions about sex being immoral, and about any woman (pretty much only women, not men) who sleeps with a lot of people being bad, or a "slut". It's incredibly stupid, and I honestly don't understand it. If a woman wants to sleep with a lot of people, why does that matter? How does her personal preference make her any worse of a person? I mean, I can understand not approving of irresponsible sleeping around. I don't approve of it either. But if the girl is being smart about it, I don't see what the issue is.

    I think the problem is just with many of our old puritanical values sticking around and causing people to have idiotic beliefs about sex being some incredibly huge thing with major moral implications.

  • most slutty girls sleep with guys who disrespect them. no woman with a healthy ego should feel comfortable spreading her legs for a guy who talks about her like a dog and treats her like shit. if slutty women were like the 17th century courtesan ninon de Lenclos who was by definition a slut, but made men respect her and go mad for her then itd be different. but most of these hoes out here fucking a guy who wouldn't piss on them if they were on fire. they don't even respect themselves so its hard to respect them as a result

    • Exactly. Thank you

  • I think that people need to be tactful. Being classy is better than being slutty. Sexullity is a part of humans, but it shouldn't be expressed directly, in my opinion, except in some rare cases. Like a writer who writes erotica should be careful not to make it P*rnography otherwise he's not an artist. Better to translate sexual energy into charm and charisma.

    • I believe in classy + slutty, best combo for me :)

    • Yes, for me too. That's why I said except in some cases. That way direct expressed sexuallity will stand out and will seem as a joke. But imagine that every time you mention a person's name, the first thing that comes into your mind is sluttiness.

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  • The argument about about self-respect could equally be used against an athlete who is good at his sport. Is he disrespecting his body by engaging in those activities? Would he be more respectful to himself if he stayed home and did nothing? Of course not.

    Sex is fine, if it's not causing problems to other people (like cheating).

    • It hurts my conscious when people say this, it also surprises me that I hear it from girls bashing other girls more. And I wonder if they measure their self respect by what OTHERS are saying... It bothers me.

  • fuck what other people think. just do what you wanna do, its your life. why live by that code of what others think, unless it has to do with like killing someone or some shit then that's wrong hahaa. but in your scenario, who cares, fuck it. go for it man. :D

    • Wld u like such a girl

    • I only like such girls... Good for you BertMacklin, I feel like we would be good friends.

    • @kangy im not sure. I've encountered them plenty of times but I've just not been in the mood for any girls that i run into really so i can't tell at the moment hahaa :D @Asker *fistbump*

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  • Most people are slutty nowadays, so it isn't a big deal anymore. I'd be surprised if I met a girl and she wasn't a slut bucket that has serviced tens or hundreds of herpes riddled dicks.

  • i love slutty girls as long as they never lie to me

  • One thing I want to say to such people - Let her live with her own choices until n unless her choices are harming your life.

    • This exactly how I feel.

  • No but it's bad if they spread their legs so easily for every dude, they meet in one day or get so upfront about it.

    • Why?

    • Have you ever heard sexually transmitted diseases?

    • I've had over 100 partners and never had one, I know people who have had less than 3 partners who have... You just have to be careful. If anything, the more partners you have the smarter and more aware you are about them.

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  • More and more STDs and unwanted pregnancies these days, so many single Mothers raising fucked up fatherless kids, and people complain about slut-shaming. Mind-boggling.

    • The only unwanted pregnancy within my group of friends happened to a virgin. The father left. Who is the shameful one in that situation? It is called education. Sluttiness is not the issue.

    • The man obviously. I don't agree with it being encouraged in men either. There's plenty of education here on contraception, everyone knows what is available, yet it still happens increasingly. Sluttiness is the issue, education clearly doesn't make a difference as plenty of people ignore it - I've had girlfriends try to encourage me to fuck without a condom despite them not being on the pill or any other sort of contraception. If people didn't sleep around it wouldn't happen anywhere near as much. Common sense - who is more likely to catch an STD or have an unwanted kid between me (in a monogamous relationship) and you (shagging random sluts)? Obviously you.

    • The only way to get an Std is to have contact with someone with an std. You can have one partner with it, I can have 1000 with out. Education is the issue... And if you have an std you shouldn't be sleeping around that makes to a shitty person... Not being slutty.

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  • I think that most slut shaming comes from jealous girls, and guys who aren't getting a piece of the action.

  • I prefer a girl who gives her body value, she should only give in to the guy who she loves.

    The reason being I want a girl to be exclusively mine; if a girl is too much experienced, I'll be just one of those 100s; where as I want to be the only one for her. Exclusively.

    • Yeah, this is the mentality I hate. Why is a girl who has many partners not valuing her body? I think it is you who is valuing her less, not herself.

    • I don't have any problems or insecurities like this. I'll always be quite confident I can bang her better than the next 500 men or even 5000 men, and she'll know it.

    • @Asker That's the definition of value. If you're spreading gold for free, it won't have value. I want my girl to be exclusively mine and I do not want her to sleep around like she did the rest of her life and I do not want to hear any of those stories and I do not want to live under the fallacy that nothing like that happened. Besides this mentality is a result of evolution, it makes perfect sense to want a less experienced girls cause the chances of her bearing another's child is less.

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  • Are you saying "slutty" as in being sexually promiscuous and sleeping with a lot guys or "slutty" as in they dress in revealing clothing?

    • The first one

  • I don't like such labels. I can't vote as I like to see whether she is a gd person.. but at same time I dont encourage promiscuous behaviour. However this is others life I can't say they are bad pple just because they r promiscuous. They need to stop when they r in a relationship

  • If a girl whores around all the time, not only does it bring the question of how safe she is (STD's and what not), but will she be loyal as a gf? This is the main reason why I don't like sluts as even friends.

  • Because society dictates it is. Our society is riddled with double standards and hypocrisy. The men condeming a woman's sexuality are usually the ones who freely use theirs.

    • Totally agree and I hate it, I hate that many women perpetuate it too... and they accept the standard that men of earlier generations have created.

    • I know- I don't get it. As far as I'm concerned, equality does not exist yet therefore feminism is still relevant to today. Women are a scapegoat for society and the men in control.

  • This label is so unfair to women. Why is it acceptable for a guy to have sex with lots of women, but not for women? I think women should be perfectly okay having sex with as many men as they like.

  • The mentality is unhealthy for all people regardless of sex.

  • I agree with your views. I'm only a slut in the bedroom though.

  • Even this is a matter of perspective. What other people consider slutty and what you're referring to as now, you (and me) simply see as comfortable people who aren't prudes and don't see sex as something to fear or be ashamed of ;)

    • Certainly... I don't even consider it a bad word. What is bad is self destructing and using sex as an unhealthy outlet. But anyone can do that, slutty or not.