Why is female masturbation taboo?

why do girls keep quiet about it more then boys?
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  • Love this topic. Excuse me if I go extensive.
    This is my understanding based on what I have seen and the conversations I've had with many women.
    In many societies, female sexuality can be offensive towards religious and moral concepts. The idea that a female has to be proper, innocent, vulnerable, and a virgin, is placed highly in the concept of society, especially in conservative countries (take India for example). A woman with sexuality since the dawn of time was seen as something evil, witchy, seductive, and whorish, one that must not be respected and etc.
    Although now with the westernization of many countries, the taboo has decreased, the moral stigma is still strong. When you have religions that praise to marry a virgin and reduce woman sexuality to that extent, men then too do not take into consideration a woman's pleasure.
    The majority of porn online is highly focused on males pleasure, and this misconception for a younger audience that does not understand sex leads young boys and girls to think that a woman's pleasure is not as significant, while a guy's is expected.
    As adults, we do the same. If a guy is sexually active with many partners, we view him as a god " You just scored, fuck yeah my man, and so on:" While for a woman, we say she's a slut or a whore.
    Even though, not everyone thinks in the same manner, the majority does. That leads to younger females feeling that masturbation is something that they have to hide in fear of judgment.
    Now as a young kid, I didn't hide my sexuality, and I was very vulgar. Because of that, I was called a tomboy, a lesbian and a whore by other kids many times, only because I didn't feel the shame that I was doing something bad. Yet kids called me names. Especially other girls, were highly intimidated by me, and they didn't think of me as an equal. In hindsight, I grew to have a way healthier and enjoyable sex life, and as an adult more women feel empowered around me.
    Sex Ed is also a huge issue. While it teaches the bare basics of how intercourse works, it only focuses on the fact that a guy orgasms, and then we have sperm. Nowhere is mentioned that a woman can orgasm too. Or how is that achieved, or what it does. When its hidden from education, the chances of a woman understanding her own body as a youngster are even less.

    • Quite a good understanding of sexuality at your age. Wish I had been so enlightened at 24. I did not get that information until I was 29, and lucky to get it with the right girl. What you say is spot on. When she a I broke up, she was enlightened about her own sexuality, and about male sexuality, BUT she tried to take up where WE left off sexuality, Other, new men, treated her like a whore and slut. I felt awful but could not do anything, as she was on her own then. Sad

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  • that’s just expected of a boy or man but for women there suppose to be more proper then that I don't know I guess that’s just cause men were once the only one with a say on anything just like if a woman sleeps around she’s looked down on but men can fuck a hundred women and no one say shit or look at it as bad

    • i know, people have said i sleep around too much cause i have casual sex with a few of my friends, but guys do the same thing and people encourage it!

    • That's the same double standard we always talk about. I worked at TSA in Los Angeles, a few years ago, and a pretty Jewish girl said when she was in her twenties, she fucked every man she saw. (Said she stopped counting at 100) Whether true or not hard to know. She said her then husband left her because of it. I think she was HOT to tell me that. Todays standards call the guy a 'stud' and the woman a 'slut" Go figure "crazyb33, I'll never understand it. My wife told me that 30 guys had fucked her before we got married. That got me hot

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  • Good question, and it has always been a sore point with me, in that girls I knew when very young, use to make fun of guys 'jacking off' to them or needing to jack off after petting with them. My first experience with mutual masturbation was with a girl I had know a long time. Met when she was 18, and I was 22. She used to jack me off in the car during a date on a semi-regular basis, and me (DUHHHH) did not know a clitoris from a door knob. At one point she talked about a guy she had played with on vacation (Florida spring break) She said he asked her "Ahh, do you masturbate" ? Her comment was, "Do you want to know which hand I use". When she told me that, I was too stupid to follow up on "Which hand" ! Time went on, and on one date, she was sucking my penis, and I just started to slowly start to jack off, moving her mouth off of my penis. Her comment was "Well, you don't need me, do you "? I was then embarrassed to let her see me jacking off. I found out, several dates later, that she like to watch me jack off, and eventually ( can't remember exactly the circumstances) she began to rub her clitoris while I jacked off. She commented, 'Well, we do rub at about the same speed" and she liked the way I jacked off.

    Bottom line, with all the above history, never understood why women were so hesitant to admit to masturbating. The girl above eventually said she had been rubbing off since about 8 or 9 years old. As time went on, masturbating together, I learned a lot about women's sex drive, how they masturbate, exactly how they rub their clitoris and how long it takes to orgasm. Gave me a lot of insight and I was a lucky guy go get that experience, as I think it was unique for me AND her.
    My current girlfriend said she started masturbating when she was about 9 years old. Kind of puts a different slant on the sex experience of preteen girls and to their sex drive at an early age.

  • Long story short, female masturbation is more messy (gross) than male masturbation, involves more fluids, and women have much lower libidos than men, meaning they do it far less often than men do.

    There's also the fact that in traditional sex, women slut shame other women, which causes them to repress their sexual urges and desires. So if some women don't like other women engaging in loose and wanton sex, then they probably wouldn't want them talking about masturbation, either.

    Personally however, I don't think anyone should be openly taking about such a comment. But people nowadays have absolutely no shame, whatsoever. And I hate that. I mean, do it if you want, but there's no need to go around telling other people your sexual habits.

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  • I wouldn't say that it is at all. Perhaps younger girls don't like to talk about it - or want you to believe that they have enough sex with guys that they don't need to - but most women masturbate and plenty of them have no problem admitting it.

  • I really didn't know that it was. So what's it mean if a guy likes doing it with the female

  • It has been my experience that women talk about FAR MORE than us guys. I have overheard women talk about what they use, etc. I really never hear guys talk about it. Just my experience.

    LOL I was at a social event once and there were a group of ladies there who were talking about sex toys, and at the end of the event, they all went to a sex shop to look at vibrators. Hilarious!

  • They should not. All young people masturbate frequently... especially teen guys buit they will never admit it. It is normal & healthy and it feels great!

  • Like most female taboos these days they are self inflicted.
    Sure once upon a time it was taboo and religion had it's say in it as well as politics and all kinds of people but these days as far as men are concerned you can do whatever you want i notice it's often girls telling other girls what not to do and these same girls blame everything on men to create a false feel of oppression.

    (Didn't mean to make it about gender but it's the main cause if you're wondering why it is accepted for men and not for women)

  • Because women care more about how guys perceive them, than guys do of women!

  • Dunno, it’s not a big deal to me and shouldn’t be.


    What people do with their bodies in private is no ones business in my opinion.

  • I think this is somthing most people wonder

  • It's not taboo in my books, it's actually erotic and exciting.

  • Not sure it it, but modesty is a reason.

  • Because women beating each other over the head for stupid things like that

  • This is something pretty normal n there isn't any reason to be shy about it... we all do it

    • i agree! it is really good for stress and sleep. i think everyone does it but some wouldn't admit it

    • Its definitely a quick remedy for stress relief 😋😋 n yes u r right some people just dont admit but they do it too

  • Why is being quiet about it 'taboo'? I think you're confused about terminology.
    Getting yourself off is definitely not taboo. In fact, it's a bonus, cuz then you can guide and coach your man on what works for you.
    Too many women have no clue, but then expect their man to somehow know. And then you hear them whining about never getting off, what what a POS their man is and how they want to go cheat on him instead. Go figure, eh?

  • It's not taboo, but a lot of girls keep quite about everything more than boys in most cases, and the girls who do, seem to be on edge more, always worried about what others think, or who does or doesn't know what, and they also tend to gossip, so maybe thats why.

    Girls also tend to more often get easily offended.

  • I'm not sure why they keep quiet about it and they even lie about they don't masturbate even though girls do masturbate. I masturbated earlier today and I videotape myself while playing with my penis. 💞

  • It's just in the mind girl.

    Bc you think too much aand how would people think of you and all if they knew if they minded there own buisness it's all in the head.
    And anything sexual is just taboo for someone or the other.

  • You tell me! I love to hear a girl talk about pussy play.

  • they don't tell as they think they would be judged so they hide it and disclose to limited person

    • i wish nobody judged about such a natural healthy behavior!

    • hahaa.. but people do start imagining u masterbating and its something usually girls don't like people imagining about u... and once they know u r masterbating and not getting fucked,,, they would try to bang u rather continuing letting u masterbate

    • why?

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  • It is not taboo anymore in developed western countries

  • Because guys think about sex when they masturbate while girls do as well sometimes but they also think a lot about how simply fantastic what they are doing feels and how absolutely amazing their body’s are.

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