Why is he doing that? He likes doing that?

[Anonymous]

My current boyfriend is my first/only partener with whom I got intimate so I have many questions so please don t laugh if it is stupid question :)

*While we are doing it my boyfriend seems to like to give me oral/& finger me because he spends a lot of time on it - why he likes this?/ He really likes this?
* While fingering/giving oral he stimulates my clit a lot to the point I only shiver 🙈 and he does that for a good while blocking my any chance to stop him from doing that ( blocking my arms to not stop him)- he likes it?/why?

The points will be given to a nice/good explanation :) sorry but I m still new at this and I d really like to know why /how this works 😊

[Magnums94]

I can tell from experience that I myself enjoy giving oral to a girl and fingering her. My explanation is that I'm a very pervy and horny guy by nature so these kind of activities turn me on even more. Chances are that he feels the same way. And yes, it means that he does enjoy it.

To answer your 2nd question - it seems that he enjoys being in control. Nothing wrong with that. Guys usually like to be in control (I do at least) so we want to make sure that all the tickling and pleasure we do to a girl she can't do anything about it but to moan and scream. It's hot :)

[Asker]

Thank you :) I feel like he is on the control thing now that someone mentioned it (& tracing back ) Now I feel more reassured that he likes it and I ll relax more 😂 thanks!

[summiter]

He is probably a bit new to sex himself. He probably watches some of it in porn movies and is trying to please you. It is OK to talk about sex with him and it certainly is OK to tell or show him what feels best on you. How often are you two having sex? Do you talk about what feels good and what does not?

[Asker]

Hei :) this is helpful overall the experience: he s had 2-3 partners in his past but he is shy and I am too, as I see it: we re both slowly opening up/experiencing this. Still not fully talking about what feels good or not - figuring it out from nonverbal or from " i don t like that" 😅. As for frequency... 3-4 days a week but it depends (can be more or less in some weeks). I don t know how to open this type of talk as I am newer than him to the sex life 😅

[summiter]

I know it can be awkward to talk about sex but once you do it gets easier. I would try this. Get completely naked with him. Then ask him to show you what parts of his body/penis feels best when you touch it. Guys are experts with their penis and what feels best. Get him to show you how he jerks off that way you know how he likes it to be touched. Then show him what feels good on you. Show him how you masturbate and what feels best. Give it a try... it will be worth it and a lot of great orgasms will follow. Has he ever gone for round 2 or 3 with you... try it! Once you get him

[Asker]

Thank you 😊 there is no problem in going for round 2 or 3 but what you said and how you said it made me think and gave me some courage to talk more about it with him and experiment more maybe. Many thanks from a shy girl🙈!

[summiter]

It is ok to be shy for both you and him. Continue to spend a lot of time just naked and slowly start talking about sex without putting him on the defensive. You will be glad you did it after talking with him about it

[TadCurious]

It really really turns him on to give you oral sex and also use his fingers when doing that. And he obviously wants to give you sexual pleasure in a way that works for most women more than intercourse in producing an orgasm. He sounds like a thoughtful guy.

[wanderingponderer]

I love doing that personally. Something fun about blowing a girls mind and making them shake like that. It really turns me on especially when she’s vibrating and jerking like she’s having a seizure, and trying to knock my hands away and I’m like “NO!!! Crazy 😜 Eyes!!!” Muwahhahahaha!!!

[wanderingponderer]

Also same thing when using my tongue

[Gedaria]

It is a way to get sexy and orgasm with out having sex.

[ND4SPD31]

Ha that’s good. I love eating pussy and making her cum but not many guys like that. They would rather u give them head and then b done.