Why is he precuming but not finishing? How will I get him to finish?

[Anonymous]

I'm in a new relationship with this guy and we've been just messing around I've given him a few hand jobs and every time he precums a lot but doesn't finish eventually the excitement goes and my hand gets tired it never happens with other guys why is he not finishing every time we talk about it he just says isn't it a good thing for other stuff (talking about lasting longer for sex) but I don't want to have sex with him and he not finish why is he presuming so much and not finishing?

[Anonymous]

it might be that you aren't doing it right for him. All guys are different and different things feel good to some that don't to others. Are you using any lotion or anything? If not then you need to. For some guys the tip feels good and needs to be touched to finished but for others it is too sensitive and they don't want it touched. just ask him what he likes and try more lube. Precum for guys is guys way of making "natural lube" it don't necessarily mean that he is feeling really good. It could just be telling you it needs more lube. how are you doing it? since its anonymous dont be shy and i could give you some tips cuz my ex girlfriend had trouble with the same thing.

[NJ_Casanova]

A HJ can take forever. You really need him to grab your hand and show you how he likes it done. It's the same with guys fingering/giving oral to girls. If we aren't told what she likes... We do what has worked on other girls in the past or what we "think" she would like.

The speed, pressure, and lube can play a big part in how quickly he comes. You also have to focus almost all of the attention to the head. If you're stroking the whole shaft... you'd be there forever. Think of the head a clit. short/fast strokes with a lot of spit will get him off faster.

[tinyclit]

Please sit down with him and have a long, loving, frank, open, honest and non-threatening discussion about his (and your) sexual needs, wants, kinks fetishes and desires. We're each responsible for our own orgasms. You can't make him cum. You can only help him (and then some!) to get there himself. Find out what his needs are and what you need to do in order to help him cum and orgasm. Make sure he gives you specifics. We all have our specific needs, even guys. He might be afraid or embarrassed to tell you. Some people think their needs are weird or super kinky when they're actually totally common.

[reptocarl]

He might be addicted to porn

[countrydude]

Try mixing it up hand job and blow job.
Sometimes hand jobs take a little longer. Maybe your hands are dry. Use lotion, saliva, oils. Or his precum to lubricate. Also make sure to focus on the glans more. When you see precum stroke faster. Another tip play with his balls using opposite hand.

[EndowedPanda]

How to give a great handjob: use your mouth.

[Anonymous]

He's mind is probably focused on something else.