Why is he using my laptop for Porn?

My husband took my laptop saying he was using it for work then proceeds to watch porn on it. After he knows I don't like it. I threw his lube at him and told him never to ask for it again my laptop is not his and he is not allowed to use it anymore. I feel extremely disrespected. I feel like it's cheating I know it's not and I rather he was h porn than actually cheat but the lying and hiding feels like cheating! Tell me why would he do this it's like he's taunting me. It honestly burns me to the core so bad I want to cheat on him or take my son and divorce him! He knows this angers me. He just tells me he doesn't wanna hear it and I'm not using it anyway so. So it's my laptop. My property!
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I'd never cheat by the way I don't believe in it but I want him to feel betrayal and pain. 2 years ago I disowned my family for him. Because he didn't like them I did so because I respected his feeling. But he won't respect mine? I act the way he wants, I dye my hair the way he wants. I'm Mexican I stay pale cuz he likes asain Skin. I do all I can why isn't it enough?
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I don't want a custody battle or a divorce I just want a healthy family. Is it normal for husbands to do this to their wives? Would you treat your wife like this. I am a stay at home mom. Have been for 2 years. I always watch our son he can't be bothered to play with him, he can't change a diaper watch him for more than ten minutes. My son screams dad cuz he wants attention and my husband just tells him to be quiet.
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  • Yea, i agree with you. After you explicitly informed him thatbyou don't like it... he still openly does it. Seems like he doesn't care. Have you sat down and had a direct talk with him about it and asked why it is so important to him to watch it. Try to seek the root for why he needs to do this.

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  • I mean I can’t tell you what to do. But if you leave him you might want to find another guy. If you divorced him then it isn’t cheating. You’re a girl and you’re going to have to raise a boy on your own. you don’t know what it’s like to be a male. So it might be hard to go it alone. I don't know maybe a marriage counselor might be able to help save the marriage. But it doesn’t seem like you want to be married to him anymore.

    • I just don't know why I'm not enough. He watched porn instead of spending time with me or my son on Halloween and our last 3 fourth of July's. Why is porn more important than us. I dye my hair the color he wants. I act the way he wants I never speak up I never question I always obey. When he says to no longer talk to my dad I obey. I respect his wishes why doesn't he respect me

    • @noname2850 Well, you kind of answer your question just now because you just obey. You cut off your family members because he wants you to, you die your hair because he wants you to. Being in a marriage, you’re supposed to be a team. What kind of marriage is that when it’s just one sided. He’s being selfish and controlling and you’re doing nothing about it. He obviously doesn’t respect you.

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  • You ever every right to be upset, but your emotional response sounds so toxic. You want to cheat on him? Take his kid away?

    • Considering he admitted to lo[in to actively cheat on be while being pregnant and after I had just given birth and was using dating apps yes. I'm so angry at this point I am toxic.

    • You cheating in him won’t make you feel any better. You have to forgive him.

  • You're blowing it out of proportion love. It wasn't right, especially lying as a cover up only to watch porn... I will say though since he's looking elsewhere there might be something you can improve on in the bedroom so that he doesn't feel the need to. You should be his escape

  • So he won’t catch a virus not very fair to you

  • The fact that you react to lying with "cheat on him" or "divorce and take his child" shows much more about you, than the situation does about him. Clearly you should work out your own issues before worrying about him.

    • I'm just sick of it and I don't want this continue for the next 20 or 40 years of our lives. I want a husband who loves and respects me when I told him that he said that's a fairytale. I don't want my son thinking his is what love is.

    • No. That's just not a valid excuse for jumping to wanting to cheat.

    • Little bit of an overreaction.

  • He doesn't want to get into trouble for watching porn on a work computer.

  • you seem like a treat