Why is I get upset watching reg movies showing half naked chicks with my husband but have no problem watching porn on occasion with him?

[Conflicted48]

[caring__1]

You may see porn as a fantasy means to an end... just a tool to arouse. On the other hand, regular movies may be seen as closer to reality, or you may just want to escape. When the goal is sex, you have no problem with sex. When the goal is to share a pleasant evening with your husband, you want him to focus on you, not think of sex. Talk with him about this, but he probably doesn't divert his focus to sex whenever he sees a partially clad woman. He may enjoy the same things as you when it comes to watching movies.

[Conflicted48]

He doesn't comment on woman in the movies or make it a big deal. Maybe its what he is thinking is what bothers me. Maybe it bothers me because its not a mutual thing. He is seeing woman but it doesn't show men. I feel like he is being turned on and i will be just the end product. Im just the “get off”. Wish i was the girl that just didn't give a shit. Lol

[caring__1]

It appears you're the one making the big deal. You're assuming he's thinking something he probably isn't thinking. Guys don't like being accused of women's baseless fears. Do you like hearing guys say that women only care about being provided for? Your husband is being accused, convicted and punished for what you create in your own head. Never assume all guys are turned on by the same thing. What is a turn-on for some is a turn-off for others. It's interesting how you prefer living in your head with your fears rather than open up communication with your husband and discover what he actually feels. Yes, it's true our experiences can trigger emotions and desires. You may see some kids playing on the swings at the park, which may trigger feelings of warmth and love within you. You come home and make love with your husband. Does that mean you were turned on by the kids at the park? No... unrelated events can trigger things within us. Just appreciates he enjoys being with you rather than dwell on what may have triggered the thought or feeling in the first place. The trigger is rarely our ultimate desire. It's more likely to just set things off on a particular path. Let's say your husband touches a soft piece of fabric, and it gets him thinking of the softness of your skin. Would you get upset that he didn't think of your skin before touching the fabric?

[Conflicted48]

I havnt accused him nor been ugly about it. I just get up and go do something else. Because i dont want to be that kind of nagging wife

[caring__1]

That may be true, but you're allowing it to fester inside of you (and limit your ability to enjoy movies), and that isn't in your best interest. By opening up communication with your husband, the two of you may find a solution that allows the fear to dissipate.

[FilmGuy93]

The viewing context is different. I don't mind sexual content in porn because that's the point. Most sexual content in regular media isn't contributing anything to the story.

[Anonymous]

Because they shouldn't be half naked in regular movies. That's usually a sign of a weak plot. But porn is all about that, and it's fun to watch with your partner. We get very graphic with each other when we watch it.

[Guy13]

That is inconsistent, is it not 🤔 🤔🤔

[Guy13]

Maybe because you love your husband?

[Conflicted48]

Well i think one is about us and the other is about him

[Guy13]

I don’t know 🤷🏻‍♂️

[Noodle_fan]

because the girls in regular movies are hotter?

[Conflicted48]

Well im not unattractive by no means. Lol

[Noodle_fan]

i mean , the girls in regular movies hotter than the one in porn because i usually find it is true

[Zolly99999]

Why do you care if girls are half naked in movies?

[Conflicted48]

Maybe i feel like they are getting his attention more than me

[Zolly99999]

I think you are over thinking.. I bet he doesn't think like that.