Why is it easier for you to orgasm during masturbation (by yourself) than during sexual relations with a partner?
mistixsInfluencer
Studies show that women orgasm much more reliably during masturbation than during sex with a partner. I was wondering why that is? Is it because you know what feels good? If that's the case, then why don't more women communicate to their partner about what feels good? Please read all options before voting.
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Vote A
I don't find it easier to orgasm during masturbation than during partnered sexual relations
Vote B
I find it easier because I know what feels good. If my partner did exactly those same things to me, then they would be just as likely to make me orgasm.
Vote C
I find it easier because I know what feels good. However, if my partner did the same exact things, I'd still be less likely to orgasm than if I did it myself.
Vote D
I find it easier because I know what feels good. However, it's impossible for my partner to do exactly the same things.
Vote E
I find it easier for another reason besides the above.
I'm weird but I find masturbation absolutely boring & therefore don't even bother with it. I would much prefer the real thing, vastly better in my opinion. I think a big part of it is I get off when I'm getting them off, just the way I'm wired.
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insecurepunkXper 3
+1 y
Vulnerability Nerves Masturbation=complete control No audience to stress you
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dantheman1118
+1 y
Audiences sometimes helps too. That whole exhibitionism is real.
BoxySamaExplorer
+1 y
Cuz they are not having sex with me 😎
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Hyper2Xper 5
+1 y
I think some women during sex will focus more on pleasing their partner rather than themselves. Which is why they don't reach the big O as often.
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Aravind6307Xper 3
+1 y
Because only you know what will make YOU cum, not your man. He just thinks he knows, trust me he doesn't.
And if you are feeling shy to ask him to the things that want to be done. Be happy masturbating alone then.
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dwelshmanXper 5
+1 y
Typically people are more relaxed during masturbation making it easier to climax, where sex usually gets people stimulated which naturally makes it more difficult to orgasm.
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Joe_BarbaroXper 4
+1 y
Because the vast majority of guys are horrible in bed. The only reason that isn't general knowledge is the fact that a lot of women out there don't even know what an actual orgasm feels like, so as long as they receive any amount of pleasure they believe the sex is good. Ask any woman who ever had actually good sex, masturbation can't even come close (no pun intended)
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andy530Guru
+1 y
You have many years of experience and practice figuring out just what kind of touch you like where and when and how much. You have an instant feedback loop too when mastrubating, if something doesn’t feel good you can inediatly adjust and make a change so that it feels better. This makes it far easier to orgasm quickly and reliably when mastrubating than when a partner is involved and they don’t know how it’s feeling for you and the communication to them is slower and less reliable.
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Lunatic1Explorer
+1 y
Usually it is because you know what feels good, and are not comfortable telling your partner what you want.
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Plitty-TankYoda
+1 y
It is more easy to experience while my wiener is inside of a vagina.
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Cage4Xper 7
+1 y
Because that is what masturbation does to you. And it's not the case with people who do not masturbate
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BaseballbarryXper 3
+1 y
I orgasm a lot quicker with a partner actually, although I imagine guys are easier than girls so may e guys just don't know how to as well as you do?
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Morgan8823Xper 4
+1 y
Because women I think are much more familiar with areas that stimulate and arouse themselves , and they also can mentally go to a place mentally that allows them to be connected deeply with there own energy
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Slim57Master
+1 y
Because it feels better, but with certain positions it can feel just as good and even if it doesn't I still prefer it
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KittyMilkXper 5
+1 y
All in the head
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BALDY7979Xper 1
+1 y
A love organisms let have one together
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BALDY7979
+1 y
Me and you
Redblaze209Xper 1
+1 y
Maybe because you don't have to explain to yourself how to satisfy you
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Anonymous
+1 y
Does penis size affect ability to cum? Like is big better than average
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Anonymous
+1 y
Two reasons. First, I can apply exactly the right pressure to make it happen. Second, I don't have to worry about the pleasure of my partner if I cum too quickly.
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11 33It is not easier
I'm weird but I find masturbation absolutely boring & therefore don't even bother with it. I would much prefer the real thing, vastly better in my opinion. I think a big part of it is I get off when I'm getting them off, just the way I'm wired.
Vulnerability
Nerves
Masturbation=complete control
No audience to stress you
Audiences sometimes helps too. That whole exhibitionism is real.
Cuz they are not having sex with me 😎
I think some women during sex will focus more on pleasing their partner rather than themselves. Which is why they don't reach the big O as often.
Because only you know what will make YOU cum, not your man. He just thinks he knows, trust me he doesn't.
And if you are feeling shy to ask him to the things that want to be done. Be happy masturbating alone then.
Typically people are more relaxed during masturbation making it easier to climax, where sex usually gets people stimulated which naturally makes it more difficult to orgasm.
Because the vast majority of guys are horrible in bed. The only reason that isn't general knowledge is the fact that a lot of women out there don't even know what an actual orgasm feels like, so as long as they receive any amount of pleasure they believe the sex is good. Ask any woman who ever had actually good sex, masturbation can't even come close (no pun intended)
You have many years of experience and practice figuring out just what kind of touch you like where and when and how much. You have an instant feedback loop too when mastrubating, if something doesn’t feel good you can inediatly adjust and make a change so that it feels better. This makes it far easier to orgasm quickly and reliably when mastrubating than when a partner is involved and they don’t know how it’s feeling for you and the communication to them is slower and less reliable.
Usually it is because you know what feels good, and are not comfortable telling your partner what you want.
It is more easy to experience while my wiener is inside of a vagina.
Because that is what masturbation does to you. And it's not the case with people who do not masturbate
I orgasm a lot quicker with a partner actually, although I imagine guys are easier than girls so may e guys just don't know how to as well as you do?
Because women I think are much more familiar with areas that stimulate and arouse themselves , and they also can mentally go to a place mentally that allows them to be connected deeply with there own energy
Because it feels better, but with certain positions it can feel just as good and even if it doesn't I still prefer it
All in the head
A love organisms let have one together
Me and you
Maybe because you don't have to explain to yourself how to satisfy you
Does penis size affect ability to cum? Like is big better than average
Two reasons. First, I can apply exactly the right pressure to make it happen. Second, I don't have to worry about the pleasure of my partner if I cum too quickly.