Why is it not sexual assault when a woman tries to get you to degrade and abuse her in the bedroom?

I'm sorry ladies but I was not born with the desire to force you to have sex with me against your will. But it's what you always seem to want.

After all these years and experiences, I realized that men do this to women. A lot of men will get in bed with a woman and just start pinning her down and forcing her because he believes that is what women want.

The opposite always happend to me. The girls I was with would try to get me to do all kinds of things. Choking spanking hitting, forcing you to have sex with me because you want me to hold you down and overpower you.

It was always this bizarre thing I couldn't understand. And having women trying to get me to do those things was messed up.
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  • Thanks for the A2A

    Now you must have a clear understanding of the difference between reality and a kink

    Getting really forced and abused in bed is astronomically different when it is done as a kink

    The differences are

    1) Everything that's done is with the consent of both parties and the "victim" (Girl) is enjoying it

    2) She has a safe word, which if said the man will immediately stop the act

    I appreciate your pure heartedness to not be able to act rough to a woman in any way, I must say rough sex is a common form of sex and it's intensity can vary... but again it's a sexual kink and nobody is really abusing anyone

    Thank you

Most Helpful Guy

  • I have a simple solution to your problem. Go to church regularly and find a vanilla woman there and let her find a man like me who likes to get physical in the bedroom

    • Don't lie, she's crushing your balls while you wear your chastity cage.

    • No. That’s not gonna happen. I’ll be the one smacking her butt not the other way round

Most Helpful Girl

  • I get what you mean & to be honest with you, I truly don’t know why certain woman like to be treated like that by their significant other during intimate time.

    it is definitely something to think about.

    why not consider that kind of behavior as sexual assault in a relationship? we’ll, the woman consent it. Is it strange for a woman to consent such behavior? Yes.
    But because it has been normalized, some will say there’s nothing wrong with consenting pain.

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  • lmao to showing you don't have logic but okay

  • Because it's what she wants and he's not doing it against her but, at her request.

  • That's the power of Consent.

    • Manipulation is not consent. A woman repeating that she "needs" this. Ok go elsewhere. Dump me and find your ideal rapist elsewhere. I guess those men are in short supply.

    • She is the one asking you to do it for her dude. That is what you call consent. If you don't want to do it, then politely refuse and break up with her... Simple.

    • It's only viewed as consent because it is impossible to force someone to rape you. If a man coerced his girlfriend by saying "don't you love me?" The consent goes away. She willingly fucked him. But consent is gone.

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  • it's something i want with someone i want to do it. sexual assault is when i don't want it

    • And I don't want to do it to you, so you trying to make me do it is sexual assault. For example a guy can say "don't you love me?" To get her to have sex. That's manipulation and probably counts as rape. It's the same with women. "Don't you want to do what every woman needs anyways and there's no reason for you not to?" As if as a man I'm supposed to feel or think that it's normal to want to be abused in the bedroom.

    • i don't try to make anyone do it who doesn't want to