Why is it often said, that nice guys finish last?

[Buttajah]

Many seem to misconstrue the truth, because they're accustomed to conflict
and disrespect in some form, when dealing
with relationships. Nice in no way means I'm
agreeing or giving in to another's ways or
demands. Yet, I don't have to be at odds
with a woman to share explosive passion.
So shelve the make up sex. Lmao

[inhua]

nice guys do finish last

it doesn't have to do anything with romance and dating but everything else does tie back to romance and dating

throughout history and prehistory, nice guys were killed of by other men or predatory wild animals. if you can't survive you don't pass on your genes. it's that simple

even today the world is ruled by assholes. both Trump and Biden are assholes to a degree. the greatest athletes in any sport had to be asshole too i. e. Michael Jordan and Mike Tyson. to become competent in your field requires you to be a bit of an asshole to get things done

unfortunately people can see kindness as a form of weakness and sometimes it sucks that some people are raised to treat others right only to get mistreated in return

[richardcory]

Hmm, I'm a nice guy and I've had a pretty good life. Definitely not finishing last. Sure, occasionally people have taken advantage of me, but more often they have helped me.

[inhua]

@richardcory but how nice are you really though? would you fight someone if you had to? maybe you're not finishing last but there are many others factors why someone would be last or not last. all things being considered equal though, the asshole usually has the edge over the nice guy

[richardcory]

Fight someone? You mean like with my hands? I haven't been in a fistfight since 3rd grade and can't imagine a situation where I would be. I knew a bunch of assholes in high school. Occasionally I peer at their FB pages. They are not doing well. Being an asshole is a short term win, but gradually everyone dislikes you. OTOH when people like you, favors happy. I was getting unhappy at my previous job and a bit of talking with friends and I had a new one - at double the pay. Society is complicated and there are lot o ways other people can influence how well your life goes.

[Effably]

Because an actually nice guy would let the girl finish first. Duh.

Nah but the origin has more to do with the fact that politely waiting your turn often means you miss out. It is meant not as an insult but as a reminder to participate in what is important to you even if at times it might not seem polite.

[msmissydc]

I would say this goes when its only about PiV as that would mean, that a lot of guys wouldn't give her an orgasm at all, if they finish first. If anything else is on the table it is not important who comes first as long as both get to finish.

[msmissydc]

And there are 3 types of people who dont give orgasms to a sex partner: 1. These that dont know how. 2. Dominants who deny their subs an orgasm. 3. Those that are too selfish and finish first and dont continue for the partners pleasure.

[Anonymous]

Not all do

[Buttajah]

I concur

[jamesgoldman]

Because they do

If I let business come to me I might make a deal a month but as I market I make probably close to 100

[Nikki1989]

Usually it is just an excuse men use for their failures with women.