Why is it painful to have sex?

it hurts to have sex. i have had it before and it has always been painful. when i talked to my doctor about it he mentioned that as an athlete, sex can tighten up your parts and that makes it harder and more painful to have sex. i have tried lube and fingering before sex and nothing has worked. i need your advice.
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ya but i asked a question for advice. you’re just calling names.
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  • Could be a medical condition

    https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/vaginismus/

    Vaginismus is when the vagina suddenly tightens up when you try to insert something into it. It can be painful and upsetting, but it can be treated.
    What is vaginismus?
    Vaginismus is the body's automatic reaction to the fear of some or all types of vaginal penetration.

    Whenever penetration is attempted, your vaginal muscles tighten up on their own.

    You have no control over it.

    Occasionally, you can get vaginismus even if you have previously enjoyed painless penetrative sex.

    Vaginismus does not necessarily affect your ability to get aroused and enjoy other types of sexual contact.

  • Maybe you can find some of the cast off guys that of women that say size matters.
    I am sure that it would be easier to stretch out a woman then to make them tighter.

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  • Embrace the suck. You are being vigorously penetrated by a hard object until at least one of you gets off. As wonderful as most guys and gals think it would be to have a big dick at their disposal, really, it just means that most women will be one night stands, they will bring friends if they talk about it who are curious, and the ones who stick around will hurt every time you have sex with them and hope to have pleasure from it.

    So, on their end, they have to learn to ignore the pain or enjoy it. On my end to not get carried away, especially in doggy style, or it's going to be a few days before I get laid again. Find someone you trust, and who will work with you on that. It may take a week, month, year, but you can start enjoying sex, whether the pain is there or not, then it isn't too far before you're actually getting off and looking forwards to the ache.

    Otherwise use lidocaine and simply feel nothing.

  • Get a second opinion. Make sure it’s from an OBGYN.

  • Well if the doctor can’t figure it out and he has more information about you, I can’t either. I used to have similar problem but not anymore. As I said I don’t know your situation to understand what’s going on.

  • You might have endometriosis or PCOS. You should consult an OBGYN

  • Message me if you want advice

  • Because you
    A) expect the pain and as such it is a self fulfilling circle
    B) you are not nearly horny enough

    You might want to find somebody who can turn you on like hell.

  • You can't have your hole loosen up no matter what you do?


  • Where do you feel the pain exactly?
    And
    What did you feel?

  • Maybe try different styles. Fingering and lick outs.

  • Try foreplay to get you sexually aroused and soaking wet.

  • Then stop it whore. I'm sick of this question you keep asking.

    • grow up. if you want to call me a whore say it not anonymous. don’t hide behind a screen and attack me. that’s just embarrassing for you.

    • I'm only copying you.

    • How can you call her a whore, if you are sexually active, you should refer to yourself and all other sexually active women a whore too!

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