Why is it such a big deal if I dont swallow?

[Anonymous]

so im basically a house wife. i take care of everything and I do whatever he wants in the bedroom too... except swallow. i hate it! i hate the taste. the smell. the texture. it makes me feel sick. i pander to every other need. why is this such a big deal?

[TonyV]

Well it's just kind of hot. I want a girl to swallow, but only if she wants to of course.
Some guys probably like it cause it makes them feel dominant, some may be into for the humiliation aspect, some probably just find it kinky like your a bad girl, I probably am closest to the kinky bad girl thing but I'm not sure why I like the idea of her swallowing tbh, all I know is I like it.🤷‍♂️

You asked why it's a big deal tho, it isn't. Everyone likes different things, nothing wrong with you not wanting to do that. If you really do, do every other thing he asks and this is just the one thing you dont want to do I'd say he's being a bit selfish and greedy.
I want to give you props tho, you have clearly tried it and found out you dont like it threw experience so that was great, you didn't just assume youd dislike it, you tried the new thing and actually found out you dont like it and that's all anyone can hope for, so I'm impressed.
I got a female friend I can talk freely with so one day I asked her how it compared to sucking down snot stuck in your throat. She said it's pretty similar so I probably wouldn't like to swallow either.
She also told me cumming in the mouth is much easier to swallow than cuming way back in the throat, maybe that's helpful info🤷‍♂️

My final summary is he asked you to try it, you did, you dont like it, it's time for him to let that go. If he gets everything he wants except that one thing that should be more than fair enough a compromise to him.

[MrOracle]

in my opinion, most women seem to have "one thing" that they don't like to do, even if they willingly do everything else. And, even if I enjoy that thing, I learned that it's better to focus on all the other stuff that I enjoy, and let her have her "one thing" that she doesn't have to do. I've even found that by NOT pressuring her about it, some of those women will reconsider it on their own, and TRY to learn to enjoy it (not all succeed). But pressuring her to do it just makes her put up a wall, and that's completely understandable.

[BellaM]

Guys think it's intimate action when you swallow his kids into your tummy. It's like he's in you (my boy told me likes this, so maybe other guys don't think like him). I think you can talk to him that you don't like it. He will understand.

[laurieluvsit]

That is why I would never in a million years get married without confirming sexual compatibility first.

Lesson learned.

[minuteman12]

Would you swallow?

[laurieluvsit]

@minuteman12

[minuteman12]

@laurieluvsit I agree. Also, may be rub some of it on your face and tits as well and then swallow that too.

[BellaM]

@laurieluvsit Agree with you. We should always swallow!

[ohshee]

Dont do it if a girl is sucking my cock and I'm about to cum if she pulls her mouth not a problem ur husband should respect that respect you. If I was gay I wouldn't let someone cum in my mouth now if I'm eating pussy and I have her going and. She squirt I'm good with that I have a big load and no it's all good don't do it

[summiter]

It is not a big deal. It is your choice not his. He should just enjoy the great orgasms. Does he return the favor often? He should.

[Anti-Matter]

Mistake is doing whatever anyone wants in the bedroom, husband or not.

[BeenThereLovedIt]

It is a big deal to men. If you don't do it, that's fine too, but did you do it before you got married?

[Reaperbot666]

• tell him you would much rather he unload someplace else on or in you.
• consider having a tower, rag or piece of clothing close by to catch his load.
• sad to say nothing kills the mood faster. then a girl to rushes away to spit out a guys load after sex or oral.
• but for taste and/or texture. have him switch up him diet and exercise reunite a bit.
• eating and drinking healthier while exercising regularly can improve. the quality of both male and female love juices.
• however if he still tries to force you to swallow his load against your will.
• then that is abuse to some degree.

[Samoht_Sirrom1]

Leave him if he insist he has no right to demand that of you in fact it is a type of rape.

[Dargil]

Do you let him cum in your mouth and spit or do you stop him before he cums?

[Asker]

i let him cum and i make sure i seem happy about it... then i spit

[Dargil]

That is more than enough. I actually prefer this.

[TCredo]

my wife doesn't like to swallow either... while i would prefer she did, i've never forced the issue and our sex life is no worse off :)

[TCredo]

and to add... her not swallowing does not impact how much oral pleasure i give her or she me...

[winterfox10]

It's a porn thing. It's also just kinda hot to see your partner enjoying your cum.

[wondering_guy]

It's not, he's a knob, tell him to swallow it first and see how he feels after

[jb12358]

It’s not that big a deal to spit it out, for me the main thing is she keeps sucking when I start to cum

[unshy1]

Wish I could help you with that. I've never had a girl not swallow mine. Had some swallow and then tell thier girlfriend's to get some.

[Wise4myage]

Its not in my opinion.

[Tomsta]

Have you told him you dont like it? And explained why?

[Asker]

yup even tried to compramise... like trade for like ending on the boobs or something. he says "swallowing proves you'll really do anything for me"

[Tomsta]

Thats seems like bullcrap. Are you actually married to the guy or do you just feel like a housewife?

[Asker]

were engaged. i like pleasing him. he works very hard and i can't atm. so i do everything else.

[Tomsta]

To me that sounds very one sided and if thats your thing then fine. But the fact that he is holding this over your head to me indicates that he might need to layoff the porn and realise that that kinda rough statement only works in porn Swallowing make the guy feel powered its that power kick. He needs to learn to comprimise

[Asker]

cool thanks. i didn't think it should be a big deal.

[Tomsta]

It isn't really a big deal. If you said you dont give bjs at all then that might be dofferent. But refusing to swallow cos of valid reasons he should learn to comprimise. Finish on the body hell if your into anal let him finish inside ur ass

[jasco]

Well guys really like bjs so its a bit of a turn off if she doesn't want to but for me i be find if she didn't she just have to give me something that be equal to a bj

[Twalli]

If you hate it why do you let him cum in your mouth?

[asshole_]

spitters are quitters

[JamesBlackDragon]

Sounds very one sided in the bedroom does he do anything you like

Anyway it's a big deal because he's use to getting his way with you i guess

[abc--123]

My girlfriend won't swallow. And yes it does bother me and I wish she would but I don't let it be a problem in our relationship

[MrCanada]

It’s not and he should respect that

[Zygum]

You gently and with soft and loving tone, you tell your problems to your husband. I think he will not force you

[Kinglet]

Why is it such a bit deal? It's hot..

[lsjr16]

It is not a big deal if just a great feeling for guys to know that she swallow. I don't know it is cause of porn.

[gandolph3]

if he is ok with it, our opinion doesn't matter

[Anonymous]

Have you discussed his diet with him? As that can effect the taste of semen. Maybe you should have him taste his own cum so he knows what you are dealing with. Any guy that values his partner swallowing his cum should be willing to taste it himself. It would be hypocritical otherwise.

[Poppykate]

🙌 good answer!

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks.

[Anonymous]

apparently its a really big deal, or you'd literally just take 2 seconds to do something that takes no effort and swallow the load in your mouth. I mean he probably does all kinds of dumb shit for you he would rather not do that take a whole lot more effort and time than this small thing you're turning into a gigantic thing

[Opinion Owner]

whoops look like i struck a nerve forget women aren't ever supposed to be uncomfortable or do anything they don't want to do even if its something as a full XD

[Anonymous]

I would not care about you swallowing but I would care if you never allowed me to finish in your mouth. Imagine a guy licking your pussy and stopping right before you cum.

[Asker]

i let him cum. i make sure i seem happy about it. then i spit... thats the other thing... he gets head every time as a warm up... but i dont get my pussy licked every time

[Opinion Owner]

Next time, when you are ready to give him oral, climb on top in a 69 position. He'll start licking.