Why is it taking me forever to get over my FWB?

[Anonymous]

I'm trying to get over my friends with benefits. But it's hard, he's on my mind non stop. He lives hours away from me and I have not talked to him since we had sex 3 1/2 weeks ago. What can I do? I can't see myself being in a relationship with him but I just feel so comfortable when I'm around him.

[iamwoot]

That's always a risk with a friends with benefits relationship. So often someone develops feelings beyond the friends with benefits agreement.

You need time, good friends, and maybe find a random hot dude to have a one-night stand with.

It's important to keep your rebound relationship either very short or guarantee it's going to develop into a relationship. You don't seem like the type of person cut out for a friends with benefits relationship, so don't have them anymore.

[Asker]

I just hate starting over.

[iamwoot]

Yeah but you have to realize that you had a fuckbuddy. That means you never really started to begin with.

[Anonymous]

hmm sounds similar to my situation. I met a guy off tinder and we really got along. He would snapchat me a lot and I would sleep at his place often. After Thanksgiving he started hitting me up less and I even asked if he wanted me to come over and he was like "sorry I have to work tonight" but he didn't ask to reschedule or anything!! I really missed him but I knew he was messing with other girls cause he was online everyday on tinder. It sucks but you gotta find someone else.

[Asker]

Did you guys have sex?

[Opinion Owner]

yes , everytime we chilled.

[Asker]

Oh ok. So he texts you when it's convenient for him?

[Opinion Owner]

mmm when we used to text back then we would hit eachother up equally. But we haven't chilled since Thanksgiving. He is out on a vacation right now though. I'm not worried about it.

[Opinion Owner]

after Thanksgiving he had plenty of time to hmu but he never did once.

[Asker]

Oh ok gotcha. At least you guys had some type of communication.

[Asker]

Because me and my friends with benefits only communicated when it was time to have sex.

[Opinion Owner]

yeah but either way both of us got used. u should message him rn just to see if he responds

[Asker]

I texted him 3 weeks ago asking when will be the next time he will be back in town. No response.

[Anonymous]

Exactly why friends with benefits never works

[Asker]

I agree. But I feel like he throws hints to me.

[Opinion Owner]

Just keep doing what your doing and see where it goes I guess