Why is it that most people struggle with pleasuring their partners sexual desires?

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  • My presumption is that oftentimes, those desires are more of a deviant nature such as oral sex, anal sex, BDSM and the like.

    Not everybody is into those kind of perverted sexual acts and I can imagine that those that have to perform them often feel coerced, forced or in any other way "motivated" to have to do it, more or less against their convictions simply in order to have to fulfill the desires of the partner.

    I know I would refuse to perform anything that I don't like but not everybody has the force of character to do it and prefer to submit to doing something rather than to be cheated on.

    • lol... oral sex is not "perverted". I rather perform and have oral done on me more then I would want intercourse. I don't understand why women will give a blow job, which is way more intimate then intercourse, but not think of it as sex.

    • That and adding other people. Sorry but I'm not going to have intimacy with anyone I don't have an emotional connection with, and I'm the jealous type.

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  • Lack of communication, being selfish in bed, and/or oblivious

Most Helpful Guys

  • Pleasuring yourself us easy, you know what you like and dislike. Pleasuring a partner is harder, you don't know what they like or dislike, and that changes from time to time and situation. You have to explore, try things, and see what works and what doesn't. That's risky and takes more time.

    The beauty of it is that when you finally discover how best to pleasure your partner, you can have some fantastic times together.

  • Some guys simply do not have the equipment, skills, libido and stamina to fulfill them. In the past, it didn't matter because sex was primarily for reproduction and men's pleasure. Now we actually have to try to give them an orgasm or at least a good ride.

    When I realized I wasn't "measuring up", I learned effective cunnilingus. It is now central to my repertoire.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Lack of communication due to insecurities and inhibitions. Most don’t communicate openly and honestly sexually, or very little

  • It's because they don't care or are bad at communicating.

  • I find men are crap at oral

    • You haven’t met a decent one then. We’re out there

    • Probably because a girl has never told him how to do it properly. Instead, just pretended to like it and probably faked orgasms.

  • Criss crossed or poor matching mates selection 😮 didn't spend enough time looking at the wider daring pool 🌊💦 some people could've spent more time zeroing in on their traits in another

    • *dating pool (typo

  • Most people are selfish a d stupid

    • and*

  • Guys want to bust a nut and they are selfish. Sorry.

  • That's not my experience at all so I think for you to say most people is a fallacy

  • Knowing how is a big key… so how would someone pleasure you and satisfy your sexual needs?

  • I think communication is key mutual satisfaction is a lot more fun and satisfying

  • In that case do you think most people are sexually incompatible with their partners.