Why is it that some straight teens, tell they already know they are straight but when someone their age, that they know says they are queer?

[anon1903]

Full question ;
why is it that some straight teens, tell they already know they are straight but when someone their age, that they know says they are queer, the straight one just, you are way too young, take your time?

The original asker is an year younger than my brother, and she already sounds three times smarter. I'm mentioning my brother coz he's kinda homophobic and stuff about this. This question is valid.

[areitan]

I really appreciate this question and wish there was a valid answer for it. My husband's granddaughter (my step-granddaughter) is 15 and came out as transgender or gender fluid (I don't know for sure which because he's a whole bunch of -phobics and didn't bother to get details) and he's determined that she's too young to "make that choice." Meanwhile, his eleven year old granddaughter has a 'boyfriend' and they go on playdates and that's perfectly acceptable that she's identified, at 11, as being interested in boys opposed to girls. So, why is it okay if we identify as straight from a young age but not if we identify as gay at that same young age? Why is it okay for me to 'decide' at five that being born a girl was what I am supposed to be and I'm comfortable in my skin, but at five a little girl can't decide that she should be a boy? I'm not talking role playing or pretend. I'm talking truly does not identify as their assigned gender. I consider myself lucky that I fall into what society deems 'normal' and 'acceptable' but am also embarrassed for all those people who have their heads up their asses (like my husband) and think that everybody needs to fall into a mold or become a pariah. Just because you can't relate to someone else's struggles doesn't mean you know what's best for them, or that they're too young to "make that choice", or that you're right in what they should do about their "decision".

[CountessSarah]

Yeah, it's just some weird mental gymnastics.
"X year olds are capable of determining their own sexuality... but only when it aligns with what I want."
Kids don't need adults to tell them who they're attracted to, they'll figure it out on their own, often surprisingly early.

[Pudsmucker]

I too am I kind of a homophobic person. God put us here upon the Earth. He put man and woman. And God said multiply and replenish the Earth. You cannot have woman on woman, man on man to populate Earth. There are only two genders male and female. If you have a penis urinal. If you have a vagina you are a female.

[Guardian45]

I'm not sure I understand your Q exactly, but I do think that teens quite naturally Q EVERYTHING at that age, possibly including their sexuality. It is at this age, we decide to reevaluate ALL of who we are, reaffirm or change it to match our current selves that we have chosen to be.

[Guardian45]

Thank you for MHG!

[WhitneySnow]

Cause they’re homophobic

[saffoler]

Because queer is basically the I don't know of sexuality?

[jasco]

Typically speaking, everyone is straight at one point. So they aren't wrong when they say they know their straight, being queer is seen as bad honestly. I don't know why but it is.

[IsoUser]

To be perfectly honest I have never experienced that so I couldn't honestly answer your question.

[Ballsack]

I don't know, just figured it out this year lol

[Tstrbrainer]

Straight is a common inclination and natural.

Other preference might need more experienced which teens lack as lot of them don't have the luxury of getting laid with variety of people.