Why is lesbianism more socially accepted than male homosexuality?

Do you think it's just because guys think it's hot?
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  • I believe it has to do with how we value men and women. Basicly for the vast majority of history womens value has been in reproduction men in resources. Now the reason men produced resources was for women (the surplus whent to society) so when a man is not interested in women it would (theoreticly) reduce his production and impact society. For women regardless of there sexuality they are still able to rear children and thus do not have an impact on society. Then the fact that this also is the reason women have traditionally been seen in more favorable light then men, ie you become a man, your born a woman. A mans actions made him so if he acted in a way that seemed less then masculin it was the equivalent of being a woman (in terms of production) but without the ability to birth/feed/ and rear young thus seemingly having the weakness of men (unable to birth/rear children) and the weakness of women (less resource production) essentially making them appear useless in society (whether or not that is the case is irrelevent since perception for the most part dictates opinion not, sadly, facts). Most of how society influences people is on a subconcious level and so is very prevalent while people are unaware of its influence.

  • To be fair, the type of lesbianism that's more socially acceptable is an "idealized" and largely fake idea of lesbianism... where two angelic puffballs are kissing and cuddling and giggling and having happy little bliss-filled orgasms with each other... and of COURSE they're waiting for some dude to just approach them so they can invite him to join now that they can have "the real thing".

    Basically, it's a pornographic heterosexual male fantasy that literally 0.001% of adults will ever experience in their lifetimes. The idea of two butch middle-aged women making out in a dimly-lit bar or 99% of other lesbian encounters aren't so widely popularized in society... the same way two bearded dudes (even if they're like picturesque hunks) touching and kissing each other isn't so widely socially popularized.

    We can blame pornography and it's distortion of sex and sexuality for this, the same way we can blame how so much sexuality is based on the idea of women being sexual objects for male consumption.

    TL;DR: Yes, because porn.

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  • Yeah, it's because guys find it hot and I believe males view porn slightly more than women. Most women aren't interested in gay porn with men and men are definitely not interested in male gay porn. Both women and men go for the lesbian porn. Maybe it's because women are the sexier gender. ;D

    • I don't watch lesbian porn.

    • Okay.

    • Are you that hot in real life?

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  • I also think is for the same question you just asked. I dont know why for a guy is hotter to see 2 chicks kissing or making love than for a woman to see 2 guys kiss or making love, which for us women, that will be totally gross but it does not apply the same for men to women.

    • Straight men are attracted to women. Most straight guys don't want to see two naked men have sex in porn, for example.

    • @93stepsawayfromhome Straight women are attracted to men.

  • Yes, I do believe it's because a good number of guys think it's hot. Plus, any time a guy shows feminine traits, he's automatically looked down upon. Women don't have as much of a problem or stigma when displaying masculine traits, so it's easier to get away with.

  • You answered your own question - I believe that's the main reason. What straight male wouldn't want to see two girls getting it on?

    • I never understood myself why we like it so much...

    • No man parts to have to avoid looking at. Twice as many women to see. Twice the eating to dream about.

    • @JuicyBrain: Two hot girls to watch, I guess. lol. @Intraluminal: lol, I would miss the man parts.

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  • It's not more accepted, it's more fetishised.

    • Exactly what I was gonna say.

  • I think it's because both sexes find beauty in the female form.

  • 100% agree on that.
    I think 2 dudes are hot XD

    • Gross

    • It's fucking sexy man. Just like you find chicks hot I find my men sexy yuuuumy!

    • I don't watch lesbian porn... and I have never seen two girls together other than just "making out" at a party, and I think that is stupid... I don't think it would turn me on all that much to see two girls together...

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  • Bisexuality is evidently more common among women.

    The physical act of sex between men has been seen as "vile" in the past.

    Also yes, straight men tend to be attracted to homosexuality between women more often than straight women are to homosexual men. Women watch lesbian porn even when they're straight, because they are, at least more than men, turned on by empathy. That means straight men and both straight and lesbian women can often be turned on by lesbian porn, while gay porn appeals relatively little to straight women and practically not at all to lesbian women or straight men.

  • Yeah think that's the main reason, plus many girls like to act lesbian to turn on guys without actually being lesbian I know some girls do that but you don't really see guys acting gay to turn on girls...

    • It's true. I tried tinder and took a duckface selfie with my friend, basically laying on his chest lol. Shit you not, 13 likes but half my matches unmatched me in like an hour. So yeah, it's a very hot or cold issue apparently :p

  • There's more emphasis on women being desirable sexually in society. A lot of that comes from it being more acceptable for men to be vocal about their interest in women. A lot of women watch gay porn though.

  • because seeing two girls make out in public is freakin' hot. while seeing two guys make out in public isn't really turning me on. i think everyone thinks that way and that is why lesbians are more socially accepted than gay guys.

  • Because women are more sexualized than men.

  • Because "being effeminate" for a guy is more of a criminal sin than to "be masculine" for a female.

    Of course, everyone knows that femininity and masculinity are two arbitrary concepts, and there's no real point in shaming people for who they are, if that's actually their innate personality, and it doesn't actually harm anyone. Gender expectations are silly.

  • It's to do with the difference between masculinity and femininity. In more dangerous times masculinity was important in men. Men were the protectors. Whether women were feminine or not didn't really matter, women have and always will be valued for their reproductive ability, a man was useless if he couldn't defend his tribe. Even though we live in a relatively safe society (for now) many still hold men to this code of masculinity. Its in our nature, once it was a survival mechanism. I don't think men dislike homosexual men as they dislike men who refuse to be men.

  • Yeah that's pretty much the source of the double standard. This is a man's world. Most men like watching two women get it on, but usually get uncomfortable to grossed out or even hateful, about two men getting it on.

  • Yeah i think you're right. A majority of lesbian porn, for example, was made for straight men.

  • Because girls don't act like faggots.

  • I don't agree with it at all regardless of wether its women or men.

  • Its because guys think its hot. It is way more accepted.

    • can't get off to two chicks but 2 guys 100%

  • Even straight women think it's hot.
    Women are the more beautiful sex that's why.

  • Please don't think about enjoying dicks.
    If you do, You may as well f*ck up your life now and enjoy it in prison.

    I've nothing against queers but keep it far away from me, pretty please. ;p

    • Prison isn't actually like that. That's just in the movies. You sound like a homophobe, which means you are probably gay.

    • The presumption I get for being nice with "Pretty Please " & the casual Please. Fairly insulting, but not enough to reach the abyss which lies my feelings. They'd do anything in there to find out your soft buddy. Movies are usually based on life itself, cause I sure know America can be only so far in the creative zone. #F4ntasticMovies #Remake ;P

  • I think it's the actual sex act that makes it less acceptable by some. Also, as you said, lesbian sex can be a fetish amongst men (and women).

    • You're right. That is really delicious to know that there are even straight women that arouse with the sight of two women kiss each other on the lips and having sex.

  • Because girls are pretty.

  • Hey the Bible never said anything about 2 ladies getting it on.

    • Fuck the Bible

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