Why is my best friend not ashamed to be a 24 year old little lamb?

[Anonymous]

My best friend is so innocent that my cousin in fourth grade is even more advanced than her. My best friend rarely gets dirty jokes, she has never watched porn, she has never even held hands with a fucling man before! She has never been kissed. She has never even blew a guy a kiss before! I don’t even think that she has had a real conversation with a guy before.

I thought she was asexual or a lesbian but she has never she has never showed interest in women and she says her dream is to get married and have kids.

she has never dated either. Another thing that’s weird is that a he says she is saving her virginity for her husband. I try to tell her that no guy will be with a girl who is waiting for marriage and all she says is that she doesn’t mind being single because she would rather be single than be with a man who doesn’t respect her decision.

I don’t know what to do to help her. She would have no problem getting dates if ahe would be less of a Disney Princess and more like a woman of the 21st century. She is so gorgeous and has one of the best bodies I have ever seen in real life. She is so beautiful that sometimes she looks like she has been photoshopped. But guys lose interest as soon as they learn that she is a little lamb. How do I help her?

[sirderpsalot123]

"No guy would ever date a girl who wants to wait until marriage"... I think a man who wants to wait until marriage would do exactly that. I'm actually impressed with your freind for not giving into peer pressure from her "bestfriend". There is someone for everyone and the girl is 24, she has PLENTY of time to find that someone.

[Asker]

What guy waits until marriage? Who waits until marriage anymore?

[sirderpsalot123]

People like your friend. You don't seem very intelligent, but take a second to think about how many men there are in the world. You have not met anywhere close to even most men to be able to confidently say that men who wait until marriage are a myth.

[Asker]

You are way too defensive. I bet you are waiting until marriage too.

[sirderpsalot123]

You're not even smart enough to understand that you just contradicted yourself.

[sirderpsalot123]

I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt here and say you're just a troll. Nobody can actually be this stupid. I'm giving you an out here, please take it.

[Asker]

Stop playing mind games trying to make me feel stupid.

[sirderpsalot123]

@WhatTheHeckkkk 🤣🤣🤣

[Asker]

What does she have to do with this?

[sirderpsalot123]

Maybe she's having a bad day and could use a good laugh

[Asker]

I don’t get what’s funny

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

@sirderpsalot123 I did have a great laugh, thank you lol.

[UniquelyBasic]

She seems to be comfortable with herself and doesn't care what others think of her. This is just the way she is and you should accept her for how she is. No need to change her because your comparing her life to what you perceive as normal.

[Asker]

But she is not normal. She doesn’t use Instagram twitter Snapchat or anything. She doesn’t drink or got to parties. all she does is study read take pictures of nature volunteer write poetry and boring stuff like that. I want her to live life and have fun.

[UniquelyBasic]

Your not her though. Everyone enjoys different things and have different passions in life. Your "Normal" is different from hers and many others in the world.

[Asker]

I have don’t know why everyone is defending her here.

[UniquelyBasic]

She hasn't done anything wrong in this situation. Maybe someone in your past pressured you into changing to conform to what the societal norms were. Were not going to change your mind and you are set in stone in your stance.

[Asker]

But people are acting like I’m a bad friend and all I want is to help her find a guy.

[UniquelyBasic]

At least have the decency to admit that your trying to control her into doing what you want, what you think is best for her and masking it as helping her.

[Asker]

I’m not

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

You do not need to “help” her.
Why does she need to be ashamed of who she is and her decisions?
Let her live her life.

[Asker]

Of course I need to help her. She is my friend! She wants to get married so I am trying to help her get a guy.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Your idea of “helping” is pushing her to do something she does not want to do. You sound like one hell of a “friend” to me…

[Asker]

I just want what’s best for her. She wants to get married and no guy will wait until marriage to have sex with her. She needs to stop thinking like a child. There is no Prince Charming.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

She will find a nice, I am sure she will. You are no friend if you’re trying to tell her to do something she doesn’t want to do. You are not supportive of her at all.

[Asker]

She’s 24 and has never kissed anyone before. People find that weird. People think she’s weird because she is so different and she doesn’t even try to hide it. I just want he to be more ormal

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

No, YOU find that weird. You’re living up to societal norms because you and others your age feel pressured to fit in. She does not need to hide it. She is comfortable being who she is, and who she wants to be. She has more self control, strict standards, and great boundaries than most people today. That’s incredible. The more you keep talking, the more of a negative feeling I have towards you because it shows you could care less about your so called “best friend” and more about other people.

[Asker]

I just don’t want her to be an outcast.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Yeah… Okay. Let her be, that’s the best thing you can do for her…

[Asker]

Fine. It doesn’t matter what I do anyways. She’s way too stubborn to listen.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Good. She seems like a good person who has great boundaries put up.

[Anonymous]

There is no need to help her or change her. It's her preference and life. Better stay away from that.

[Asker]

But her life is boring

[crmoore]

Find her a man who actually does like a woman like that. Not that I'm suggesting anything between her and I, but we exist.

[Asker]

Really? They do?

[crmoore]

Yes. Some guys like the good girl types. It's cute and endearing.

[Asker]

So you think a guy would wait to have sex with her until they are married? :\

[crmoore]

Plenty would, especially religious people. Or maybe they could persuade (not manipulate) her into considering otherwise.

[Asker]

But they will cheat on her because they are not getting what they want

[crmoore]

Unless it's a guy who gets off to the idea of trying to manipulate a good girl into having sex, the type of guys who would cheat on her aren't the type of guys who would be interested in someone waiting for marriage in the first place. Also, there's always maaturbation to satisfy your needs.

[Asker]

I just think what she is doing is cruel to her future boyfriend. It’s so selfish.

[crmoore]

Yeah, I can see where you're coming from.

[Asker]

Thank you at least someone on here does

[crmoore]

I figured more people would.

[Asker]

People were telling me to mind my business

[crmoore]

Not sure why people feel so strongly about it, lol.

[Asker]

I know. It’s like everyone wants to protect her. Even people who don’t know her. It’s so annoying.

[crmoore]

I mean, if I'm being honest, I totally understand the compulsion to want to protect delicate women like her.

[Asker]

Why would people want to protect delicate women? If people keep protecting them they will always be delicate. They need to learn the hard way how to be strong. She is my best friend and I love her but she’s weird. She talks to animals. When we are walking and a butterfly flies by she will wave to it and say hello. If I just let her do it without saying nothing she will keep doing it and people will think she is crazy. I need to tell her even if it hurts her feelings right now it will help her later.

[crmoore]

Because the world can be harsh, it hardens people. Delicate women are rare. I think it's pretty cute that she waves and says hello to butterflies, lol. I wouldn't mind that she's a bit weird. It's cute in a way.

[Asker]

I don’t understand why people like weak and needy women. It’s cute when I 5 y/o does it not when a grown women does it that’s just childish.

[crmoore]

I think it's an instinctual desire to provide and care for. Independent women don't need to be provided or cared for.

[Asker]

I don’t have that instinct.

[crmoore]

I certainly do

[Asker]

It seems like most guys do 🙄

[crmoore]

I guess there's no problem, then. She should be able to find a man who loves her, right?

[Asker]

I guess :(

[crmoore]

You don't like that? 😯

[Asker]

I do. I want her to find someone but I don’t want him to be rich or good looking.

[crmoore]

Why not?

[Asker]

Because she doesn’t need them.

[crmoore]

What does she need?

[Asker]

An ugly or average looking guy

[crmoore]

Why?

[Asker]

She wouldn’t care. She falls for people based on their personality and morals and all that crap. 🙄 Her parents are filthy rich and they buy her everything she wants. She has 3 cars and a huge house all fully paid for. She doesn’t need a rich guy. Save the rich man for someone who doesn’t have money.

[IHateBeingaMan]

so is she straight, heterosexual?

[Asker]

That’s what she says she is

[OddBeMe]

Is she religious?

[Asker]

Yeah Catholic. Went to Catholic school her whole life.

[OddBeMe]

Bingo. I married a super religious catholic Latina. She’s a freak in bed. It will come out. Hopefully healthy.

[Asker]

You waited for your wife?

[OddBeMe]

I did. For months. And took a lot of flak from her South American parents who weren’t keen on a gringo banging their daughter. But now we’re cool.

[Asker]

And you never cheated one her?

[OddBeMe]

Never cheated on any girlfriend. I think that’s a certain type of person.

[Asker]

Wow your like a saint

[OddBeMe]

That’s a low bar for saints. I have only dated friends. So that may have something to do with it.

[Asker]

That’s cute.