Why is my boyfriend not cumming?

Why is my boyfriend not cumming?


So I’ve been seeing this guy for a while and we have had sex a handful of times. Only one of these times did he actually cum (which was the only time he had a condom on). Some of the times he had had a couple drinks and we smoked a bit but nothing too crazy. Most of the times we tried for quite a long period of time but he just doesn’t seem to cum. He usually doesn’t get more than five hours of sleep a night though, could this possibly be the reason? It doesn’t seem to have anything to do with him getting hard though because shortly after we start making out he gets hard. Opinions appreciated!!
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Most Helpful Guys

  • You shouldn't worry about it; the issue is that any one of a wide array of things can cause him to be unable to cum - stress, anxiety, fatigue, etc. The unfortunate thing is that not cumming increases stress and anxiety, as he's probably worrying about what you're thinking.

    Just ignore it. If it's a long term issue, maybe go to see a psychiatrist; but if it's only been a few times, you're better off ignoring it for now.

  • While samples of one are notoriously misleading, I'm thinking that since he came with a condom he has serious issues coming inside you, maybe due to pregnancy concerns.

Most Helpful Girls

  • A combination of factors. I was with a guy who had this problem. He masturbated to much, so he cut down on that and eventually he cums regularly

  • He ain't coming because he's going. Just like a one eyed cat.

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  • if its still early days it could be performance anxiety or he could be using porn still and masturbating a lot. neither situations suggest he doesn't find you sexy so give it a little longer

  • Maybe when he's not with you he's masturbating frequently so there's not much left in the tank. Drinking doesn't help either.

    Is he on any medication? SSRIs (Prozac, Welbutrin, etc.) are known to suppress orgasm.

  • Both alcohol and weed can affect a guys ability to stay hard and/or cum.

  • Maybe he’s on new SSRI medication that’s the cause
    Maybe he’s addicted to porn and can only cum with his own hand

  • Sometimes like th last 2 times I've hooked up with women i haven't been able to cum cuz they pussy was too loose and th condom block 60% of the feelin even when i took th condom off. Didn't feel shit now I understand the saying ut was like throwing a hot dog down a hallway

  • possibly he masturbates too much so he's too used to cumming from masturbation.

  • Maybe he's a poof.

  • Weird he came when he was wearing the condom.
    But it's not your fault, if we closed our eyes we probably couldnt tell you apart

  • Maybe he just wasn't into it or you could try and spice things up bit.

  • i can't believe you smoke. kissing someone who smokes, is like kissing an ashtray, ITS JUST NASTY