Why is my friends with benefits doing this?

[Anonymous]

he's been on 2 dates with the other girl and he seems like he has a crush/liking. He stares at her a lot.

They are both university students, though she graduated 2 months ago but still goes to the library. He studies philosophy and she studied economics. Last week, while she was passing by the bookshelves in the library, she saw him standing and looking at the shelves of books which were related to economics. He was kind of smiling but looked a bit awkward , as if he was scares of being there. Thet saw each other but she didn't go over to him. She waited for 2 mins to see if he comes after her but he didn't and when she went to check, she saw that he had dissapeared. He probably went the other way or took the lift upstairs to get to the philosophy section.

Later on, she saw him again, looking through the 1 book he got and he saw her and just said hi.

Prior to this, he also asked her what else is going on in her life in terms of personal life 2 times. She also mentioned how her lecturer wears a beanie and a few days later when I saw him, I saw that he was wearing a beanie too.

Could this mean anything?

[Anonymous]

See i am not mad or being rude but tryna put some things in front of u... ik u just asked this thats fine but also lowkey seems like u kinda dont like what he is doing with or related to her... i might be wrong... and also he is friends with benefits to u so whatever he does it is fine y'all are nothing else to each other... im not saying urr stopping him... but something is not okay on your side it seems... and there is potential of u feeling like this more if u spend more time or have more sex w him... also there is a little vibe of him kinda likin her in this description. Id suggest just dont bother yourself n before anything just stop seeing... that seems like best case scenario for u from now onwards in my opinion on basis of whatyu wrote... i can be possibly wrong too

[Asker]

But he never texts her, meets her but texts me and sleeps with me?

[Opinion Owner]

See... he texts u and sleep w you... or... he texts you so he can sleep w you... which one seems more accurate? U choose cuz I don't know what n how y'all talk And if he dont text her there is possible there is shyness on kne or both sides... or he does just a bit but it hasn't reached the point het where u start talkin more on texts.

[Opinion Owner]

N he meets her cuz he likes that to have little minute or two conversation face to face in library by chance or somewhere else

[RobT312]

Well obviously he likes her.

1. you are just an friends with benefits
2. you sound jealous. If you are only an friends with benefits you shouldn’t be jealous
3. if you want more than friends with benefits then only you can change that by saying something
4. he has the best of both worlds, someone he can fuck while he finds a real girlfriend

[Asker]

But he's been on dates with her and alsowanted sec from her but she didn't screw him. She still talks to him and is friendly to him but he never texts her and wants her to text him

[RobT312]

If they keep dating , maybe they will eventually have sex. He is obviously excited to see her whenever he gets the chance. The texting bullshit doesn’t matter

[Asker]

No he was cold and resentful that she doesn't text him

[Asker]

But why wear beanie and look at the rack of the subjects she studied?

[RobT312]

Because he likes her

[Asker]

Then why not text?

[Asker]

Say something

[SueShe]

It looks like he is benefiting not only from your favors but from other girls' favors as well.

That is fine since you only use him for fornication and copulation. He is perfectly fine with it and he is probably wanting the same treatment from other girls.

Don't think too much into it since your relation with this gentleman is limited to the sexual part. He is probably just trying to get yet another girl on his body count and trophy list.

Nothing to worry really. Those kind of superficial relations come and go and that seems to be the rule rather than the exception in today's society.

[Asker]

But he never texts her, meets her but texts me and sleeps with me?

[SueShe]

You may not be aware of it. Does he tell you everything? Do you have no secrets that you hide from him? Perhaps he is not as open as you are with telling private things.

[Asker]

But he's been on dates with her and alsowanted sec from her but she didn't screw him. She still talks to him and is friendly to him but he never texts her and wants her to text him

[SueShe]

Are you jealous of her?

[Asker]

First tell me at least why would he stand near the ranks or books related to the subject she studied when he doesn't even talk to her?

[SueShe]

There could be chemistry between both of them. You don't need to talk if there is a certain chemistry.

[Asker]

But he never texts her, meets her but texts me and sleeps with me? What chemistry?

[SueShe]

body language, eye contact.

[Asker]

But he doesn't text her

[PrettyPriya]

Sounds like he has a thing for this girl and possibly wants to date her. Not sure what the problem is since you are just friends with benefits.

[Asker]

But he never texts her, meets her but texts me and sleeps with me?

[PrettyPriya]

You sure he doesn't?

[Asker]

Yes he doest

[Asker]

But he's been on dates with her and alsowanted sec from her but she didn't screw him. She still talks to him and is friendly to him but he never texts her and wants her to text him

[PrettyPriya]

How do you know? Trust? I wouldn't take that into consideration too much. I doubt very much he would tell you if he was sleeping with someone else and ruin the potential to hook up with you further.

[Asker]

Because I looked through his phone and she stopped texting him since Dec last year but still talks to him in person

[OlderAndWiser]

If he is a friend with benefits, you are not spposed to have any feelings about it. So why do you care?

[Asker]

But he's been on dates with her and alsowanted sec from her but she didn't screw him. She still talks to him and is friendly to him but he never texts her and wants her to text him

[OlderAndWiser]

Okay, but that didn't really answer my question.

[spartan55]

Why the hell would be scared to be in the library?

[DonkeyDan]

Yep, he's interested in her.

[Asker]

But he never texts her, meets her but texts me and sleeps with me?

[DonkeyDan]

That's because he's shy with her, tell tale sign of romantic attraction.

[Asker]

But he's been on dates with her and alsowanted sec from her but she didn't screw him. She still talks to him and is friendly to him but he never texts her and wants her to text him

[DonkeyDan]

Yeah, I'm still going with the attraction thing, in a guys mind if he has minimal contact with her he still has a chance, if he says the wrong thing when he's talking to her a lot he's stuffed it for good and there is never a chance after that. If he's only a friends with benefits to you, why does it matter to you so much?

[Asker]

But he never texts her, meets her but texts me and sleeps with me? Why

[DonkeyDan]

Because he is comfortable with you.

[boggboss]

Sounds like he likes her

[Asker]

But he never texts her, meets her but texts me and sleeps with me?

[boggboss]

Because he wants sex from u but is crushing on her and scared to mess anything up sex dont mean he wants anything real with you

[Asker]

But he's been on dates with her and alsowanted sec from her but she didn't screw him. She still talks to him and is friendly to him but he never texts her and wants her to text him

[boggboss]

Because he wants her but she wither don't want a relationship or wants him to chase her which still shows he wants her

[Asker]

How he wants her? He was only looking at books

[boggboss]

No qe both know he was looking at her u wouldn't be asking if u knew he didn't like her

[Asker]

When he saw her he left and then only said hi

[boggboss]

So? Qhat

[Asker]

That means he doesn't like her. If he did why run and only say hi?

[boggboss]

Sure thing lol if thats what u wanna think I dont care your the one that lasts for him not the other way round

[Asker]

Why do you think he run away yhen?

[boggboss]

Because he clearly has no clue how to approach trying to date her

[Asker]

What he has been on 2 dates and she always talks to him?

[boggboss]

Yet he can't get sex from her so he dont know how to act

[Asker]

But why wear beanie and look at the rack of the subjects she studied?

[Asker]

Hellooooo

[boggboss]

There is no point answering u are nit looking for truth u are looking for validation

[Asker]

What is the truth?

[boggboss]

Everyone has told u but again its not the answer u wanted to hear so your ignoring people

[Asker]

Can you explain how a guy who never texts her, runs away on seeing her, sleeps with other women likes this girl?

[boggboss]

Because he clearly is still intrested in her because he still follows what she is doing u are not capable of separating intrest with fucking so u assume he likes u he dont u are sex when he is horny

[Asker]

Why does he still have her number? He is resentful and cold towards her. Its her who chats with him in person

[boggboss]

Lol sure thing if that's what u already think then why are u asking for if u have already decided

[Asker]

You tell me since you think he likes her?

[boggboss]

How can I answer why he has her number u are claiming he is resentful and cold yet he follows qhat she is doing

[boggboss]

If she offered him sex tommorw qhat do u think he would say?

[Asker]

First tell me why you think he likes her

[boggboss]

They went in dates he wanted to fuck her she didn't give in and he was still intrested in following what she does

[Asker]

Without texting?

[Asker]

And sleeping with other girls?

[boggboss]

He ain't texting her because he is salty he didn't get sex

[boggboss]

He sleeps with u because he is horny

[Asker]

So when he's salty how he likes her?

[boggboss]

Why is that hard 4 u to understand

[Asker]

Salty and resentful and not texting doesn't mean liking?

[boggboss]

U can be resentful and salty u didn't get what u wanted and still like a person

[Asker]

But she talks to him so what does he want then?

[boggboss]

I have told u multiple times

[Asker]

No you didn't. You didn't way why he run away when she saw him

[Asker]

Heloio

[noohair]

Men used to have to make a commitment to a woman for sex.
It was usually marriage.
Women wanted freedom and equality.
This could be an unintended consequence.

[TrillXHippy]

Why don’t you freaking ask him

[CharlieDMX]

He's an friends with benefits. It doesn't matter if it means something or not... Unless you want to be something more, which means you should stop being FWBs

[PL2022]

It does. He wants to fuck both

[Amur8711]

Maybe he is stuck between you two. Maybe he feels like you may be jealous and is worried of losing you. I think he may be putting your friends with benefits over a relationship with her because she doesn't seem to be a definite partner for him. Or he is confused as well that she isn't texting back but talks to him in person.

Best thing to do is talk to him about it.