Why is my husband not getting hard , is it me or has he already got bored of me?

So my husband and I would have sex everyday but lately in the past 5 months we haven’t been so sexual the other day I was giving him head and it was soft the entire time and I just gave up and his excuse was that he was tiered then sometimes he comes into the restroom to have a quicky and as soon as trying to put it in it gets soft !!! Or he will start messing with me to lead to sex but it doesn’t get hard. Is it me am I boring now we have been married 12 years!! Help
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  • Yes that’s exactly right! The same sex can become boring and dull. Also it’s often much easier and better to just go for it yourself. It could also be major changes in life or depression.

    I recommend trying fantasy role play, or offer to do something new, or something you have refused to try. All safe sex can be fun. If you really wanna enjoy have him stop and after a few days go at it with gusto...

    • I actually did I bought some toys and stuff and he just looked at me as if I was disgusting and he was like what the hell no

    • What kinda toys though. You can’t start with the strap on gotta work your way up starting with a flesh light or something lmao

    • Just like vibrators and the ring that goes around his piece but he was like wtf is that so low key it did hurt my feelings

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  • Lots of things can cause this that have nothing to do with you. Is he stressed at work? Maybe he has a medical issue. Is he exhausted?

    Don't just jump to the conclusion that he's lost interest in you, but don't dismiss something along those lines either. Not to spook you but if he's getting sex elsewhere, that can cause it too.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Sadly I must ask you if you've ever thought of the possibility that he might be getting it somewhere else?

    • Well he comes home always same time he is always here so I don’t see how he could find time either I’m always calling or he is where I am

    • I seriously think you two need to sit down quietly and talk this through properly.

    • I just feel like what’s the point now I feel really low and feel like I’m falling in depression because if he is satisfying him by himself how will I satisfy myself a toy won’t do that

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  • It sounds like he has Low T; he should get his testosterone levels checked by a doctor.

    • You would think as a guy if your not getting hard with your girl I would assume as a guy you would think maybe like oh shit why aren’t I getting hard but him he just makes a excuse stays in the restroom says that he has to take a shit but he gets hImself hard doesn’t cum and then gets out of the restroom and he thinks I haven’t seen him but I have so I’m just like

    • Guys are pansies when it comes to go to the doctor; and even more so if it is for their penis.

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  • I don't see how any guy would get tired of a good looker like you sexually. He must have some problems.

  • Share your current pic, I'll better know the reason!

    • I added one go see and tell me

    • Seriously, if I were your husband, I'll be fucking you wild and dirty. You look damn hot. There's some problem with your husband, either he got some disease or he's involved in someone else!

    • Yea well looks like wanting to do that is not on his mind and he spends so much time in the restroom and I don’t even bother checking because if he pleasing himself it would just hurt me

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  • Anxiety can cause this and so can depression or unknown medical issues or low testosterone. You should encourage him to see a doctor.

  • It's impossible for us to know what the issue is. That's something you will have to find out with him.

  • I would guess he has a medical problem that is causing ED.

  • Do you nag him constantly? Nothing makes a cock go limp like a nagging, bitchy, woman.

    • I never nag I actually keep everything bottled up which now it’s getting to me as to why this is happening

    • It could be a health issue with your husband. Blood pressure, heart issues, etc., can all cause lack of sex drive and/or ED.

  • It could be a number of things for me that's only happened to me one time with one person I was with and this is probably because she was drunk all the time but either your husband is messing around which I doubt but the other reason it could be that he might have lost interest or he may drink a lot so I don't know it could be anything

  • Most likely something else

  • Nope if he's not up to the task. Leave him or cuckold him

  • Maybe he is have kind of health problem or maybe he is lost interest about sex, did you try to go hospital with him?

    • At 29 years old? What problem could he possibly be having I mean he gets hard if he does it but I don't know like I just feel really low and he has to much pride for him to go get checked or get help if we need it

    • Yes, that is nothing to with age, could be happen for everyone, that is call erectile dysfunction, some kind of erection problem, also I understand you, you are young woman and you want to have sex everyday, that is so normal, first you can try new things, different positions, bring excitements to your relationship after if problem isn't finish, better for him to go doctor..

  • He may be cheating

    • But he is always here nothi g has changed schedule is. Always the same

    • I don't know then

  • Does he get erections a few times in the middle of the night while sleeping? All healthy men do. If he isn't getting erections during the night it could be a medical issue.

    • He does and he will go to the restroom and get hard but not call me in so that’s why I’m like why is it that he just had enough or what

    • Wow I don't know what to say. Maybe talk to him about spicing things up in the bedroom. See if there is something you can do as a couple to bring the heat back into your sex life?

  • could be ED

    • What’s that

    • erectile disfuntion. can be caused by hundreds of things, maybe more

    • But what if he can do it by himself is that still considered that

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