Why is my wife still lying?

[Anonymous]

We've been married for 8 years. My wife is maintaining that no one has ever cum inside her but me. I don't actually care. My problem is I know she's lying. I've seen a sextape of her and her ex. He definitely cums inside her she pulls him out jerks him a little then plays with herself. Rubbing the cum in as they talked about it. I've told her I've seen the video and described it in detail. Her response is "I don't remember that" and "I've never consented to anyone else cumming in me but you". Why is she still lying about shit like this. Should I press further or just let it go.

[PositiveFlight]

Let it go! Is it really that big of a deal that you would let it cause a rift in your marriage? The past is the past. Maybe she honestly doesn’t remember. Maybe she doesn’t want to remember. You have her now, not him. Don’t waste one second on the past. You cum inside her now. Enjoy it and live your life with her in the moment.

[Asker]

Her lying to me is a big deal. If she's lying Bout this what else is she lying about?

[PositiveFlight]

You are assuming she’s lying or trying to mislead you. Do you know for sure that her intent is to mislead you? Maybe her past with her ex is something she has literally put out of her memory for good reason. Or maybe he came in her when she really thought he didn’t. Who knows. But continuing to press something that doesn’t really matter in the grand scheme of things in an accusatory manner when you don’t know for 100% sure that she is intending to mislead you, is a big gamble on your marriage and your own sex life.

[IslaTheWitch]

From your perspective it's lying. From her? Do you know? Did you ever ask her why maintaining this stance is so important for her? What need it secures?

It's not important what really happened as its totally irrelevant to your current situation. What is important is that after 8 years you don't know your wife and her motivations...

Talk to her and find out, WHY some things are so important to her, and be her ally in securing her needs.

[molonski2]

She has changed her words " I have never consented " and " I dont remember "

Of course she knows , and most probably there were others too.

Why lying? Only she knows. Justification to herself.

[Asker]

At first I was upset and hurt because it felt like she cheated on me but those emotions were gone years ago. I just don't want lies between us anymore. It makes it hard to believe anything she says.

[Dargil]

I think you should drop this thinking. It is unnecessarily intrusive and insulting.

[MrCharlie13]

Let it go, or get a divorce if you can't let it go. She won't admit to it even when comfronted with evidence. That's a lost battle

[Anonymous]

How would we know?

[Anonymous]

The fuck is this fantasy, made up story?

[Anonymous]

So much cringe in the one post.

Both of you need to grow up.