Why is sex painful for me?

It’s my third time and I still get extreme pain. I heard after 3rd tule pain goes away completely? wirh lube it still hurts a lot I almost cry but then sometimes with lube it goes in without feeling much pain. We can’t do cowgirl it doesn’t go in pain us worse but some reason we can do reverse cowgirl?
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  • There could be something medically wrong but more than likely you need more time to warm up. That coupled with the fact that it hurt the first couple of times might make you more tense and less likely to become aroused like you need to be to accommodate him. I'm not huge but above avg and thick and when I was inexperienced and younger I ran into this issue with a couple of girls. When I joined the AirForce as a medic surrounded by women I learned I was setting myself up for situations like this that could have been avoided if I took more time with foreplay. I prefer to pleasure orally to at least one orgasm if she can have more than one. I've never had any issues or complaints. Just communicate its not a race spend some good quality time exploring. Different lubes Condoms if you are using them try non latex just take your time and relax and enjoy everything there is to offer other than penetration until you are ready. If there was something medically wrong you probably would know based on your age and presuming you are keeping up with your female dr visits

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  • Ok. Cut me some slack here. Im gonna use words that I've heard others use while diacussing such matters.

    1. Try a different lube. Perhaps you are allergic to the brand u use. What brand is that, exactly.

    2. Maybe you have a misshapen vulva. Translated, perhaps your pussy isn't shaped exactly right.

    3. Maybe you just have a tight vagina. Girl i knew years back. Je-sus! Im not saying that i have a mini dong. Or that im this John Holmes motherfucker. I've gotten good reviews. Anyway. It was like trying to thread a needle.

    4. Maybe his dick is too big. Even though a pussy is designed to pass incredibly large objects, such as a baby, its all warmed up while doing so. And it still hurts lile hell.

    Honey, maybe... just maybe... everything is positioned and greased up enough. Maybe his cock isn't a monster. This may be something you just have to work through. A gyno will be able to give you better intel. Id really start there. But id very much knock off the sex until you get some answers.

    I hope this helped a little.

Most Helpful Girl

  • I get pain with sex and I find the cowgirl position hurts the least. It's because I am in control and can control how deep it is

    • Why it’s less painful for u?

    • As I said, i control how deep it is

    • I can’t seem to go inside like push my private part in him

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  • I'd ask a doctor about this

  • Get tested for a semen allergy

  • Getting a "bad angle" could be the problem.

    Reverse cowgirl angle is different, more straight in.

    If it's only your third time, you may still be tense because it IS ONLY your third time!

    Experiment with different positions. On Healthline. com, they have an "8 Comfortable Positions for the Most Satisfying Sex of Your Life" which you might find helpful, that and a BIG pillow.

  • it's your man who must enjoy it. what you feel is irrelevant.

  • You may need to heal, it sounds like you bruised your pussy!

  • It depends upon his size... If his size is big you would have the pain..

  • He had a big penis

  • So good

  • I was painful for me in beginning

    • Either underlying medical issues. Should always tell your doctor these things asap. Or Your partner should spend quite a bit more time warming you up... drip.. drip

  • Probably because you're malnourished.

    • Huh?

    • Because of your difficulty eating food without choking, you're underfed. As such, it is taking your body longer to adjust to the strain of sex.

    • do I know u? Weird you are anonymous

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  • Maybe he’s too big for u still.

    • Wdym by still?

    • Was just curious