Why is teenagers being sexually active looked down upon by parents so much?

Question

I get the risk and safety parts but past that no I don’t.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It is hypocritical as well, there are plenty of parents who had their first sexual activity or even their first child before the age of 20 and yet when their child is doing the same thing, they tell them they are doing something unbelievably obscene and should not be doing such things and they don't understand the consequences of their actions etc. well what about you when you did it? -___-

I suppose parents and maybe just society as a whole, treat early age sexual activities with slight unease because they perhaps are concerned about the young generation and how they may handle the future if they do also get pregnant at a young age and if they are capable of handling it the same way that the older generation did, so it might make them just overthink things. And as for the LGBTQ+ sexual activities, I would say that people from older generations are probably also worried about that because back then it was a lot less accepted and even now it is a bit of a awkward thing for some people, but much more openly talked about, but the concern about stds on that subject may be something that never got mentioned because it is not the typical form of sexual interaction, so they would be more worried.

I won't say they are entirely in the right, teenagers have the right to do those things once they are of LEGAL age, but I do understand that there may be concerns they hold from previous generations who either experienced the same thing and wanted to prevent others doing the same or older generations who did not experience the same thing and want to prevent it because they feel it would be safer for them once they are older, I respect those concerns, as long as it is not controlling and only a opinion they give.

normalice · Accepted Answer

It is a leftover instict from when young women were considered the property of their father. As a species we still haven't quite adapted to the requirements for maintaining a civilization that transcends our natural instincts. So we under/over estimate the importance of many things and the distractions of sex are considered an obstacle to getting teenagers to use their peak development phase to develop some intellect. We still haven't learned there is no one-size-fits-all approach and that is true for some people, but for others being horny all the time is a far greater distraction.

JustAnj · Accepted Answer

Let's see, for me as a parent I have told my husband that as soon as our kids become sexually interested, I'm a mom I'll know. They will be on the pill and I will teach them more about sex, love, hormones, challenges of being a teen, and have them care for a baby.

I can't stop my kids but I can educate them, telling them no will just make them more curious instead of just allowing them to grow up.

Knowing me as a teen I was hormonal like bad to the point of wanting a baby, until it passed after the age of 18 cause I was growing into a woman.

So I can understand the arrogance of a teenager and failure to be careful because of hormones. This is more then likely why parents worry. They just don't want their kids to screw up their lives for someone who will not be a permanent or serious part of their life.

They also know that they will get to have a more sexual life as they become adults with less insane irrational hormones.

Daniela1982 · Accepted Answer

Apparently they don't pay attention in Sex Ed as over one million teen girls get pregnant every year. Isn't that enough to be looked down on by parents who will most likely be the ones who will have to raise the child. My mom looked down on me but oh well.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Of course you don't understand.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

A lot has to be for jeopardising their future. getting pregnant at say 17 would likely put paid your college / Uni  it’s this type of things I think about

Flower7 · Answer

The parents want them to remain pure because they still think of them as children. And have all the memories of them being little.

summiter · Answer

Lone... I do not think it is right to "be looked down by parents" They should educate their kids about sex and certainly birth control but let them explore and have fun. My parents never discussed masturbation with me and I kinda learned about it from the internet when I was bout 13

Apple1996 · Answer

It's because they think their kids aren't responsible enough to be having sex yet.

ZackBan · Answer

For the same reason they might have reservations about you skydiving.
Parents can't help but imagine the wrost case scenario and then act as if it's likely to happen. Sex is dangerous partly for stds and partly for life-ruining pregnancies. No parent wants eithrr for their kid and usually teenagers are more emotional and could potentially make the rash decision to have a child because they think they found the one

abc3643 · Answer

It's primarily the risk and safety parts. However, if you are having sex with several different men over a short period of time, well, no one likes a slut except a hard-up, horny teen boy.

DonkeyDan · Answer

People judge others by their own standards. If they weren't ready for it or didn't do it when they were younger then they can't see how other could be. I don't have children so I can't comment on how I'd feel, but I think as long as they are being safe, I think I'd rather they were doing it under my room with my knowledge rather than in some back alley somewhere.
It might be a bit more common these days but it wasn't uncommon when I was young.

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

Jealousy?

Bjornasey · Answer

Adults are dumb, but have experience Teens are usually dumber and have very little experience. That is why.

exitseven · Answer

They do not want to see an unwanted pregnancy or an STD especially in the age of HIV.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Maybe they know what it's like to want their youth back so badly and are just trying to see to it you don't throw yours away too soon. Once you step into adulthood, you can't go back! Stay a kid as long as you can!! In adult world, you'll wish you had it back all the time!!

SunnySensei · Answer

Parents are always worried about our safety Miss, maybe that's the reason.

cleareyes · Answer

The risk of getting pregnant when you are not ready for it

Browneye57 · Answer

Cuz you're not mentally or emotionally mature enough.  But you'll do it anyway. :)

es20490446e · Answer

Cause casual sex is wasting your youth.

Wise4myage · Answer

They probably think you're too young and not ready.

vald9inches · Answer

I don't know they act as if they are not human too? 🤷

kellytheman · Answer

I don't think that they don't look down on her much but her parents. I also think older people think of teenage girls having sex they label as sluts or easy because they didn't have sex when they was a teenager.