As a celibate woman who is also a virgin, there are many benefits to celibacy especially spiritually, emotionally, physically, and many more. The thing is women especially do not have to "answer" about being a virgin. Society is the one who makes it a big deal when they promote perversive sex lives and toxic relationships. The celibates are being smart, while everyone is entitled to desire sex, the question is what are people having sex for and what are they doing with it? There isn't a point in having sex if all your going to do is get used and abused. And bad enough you can't trust people. The thing is women aren't as vocal about it, because many feel shamed either way. For somebody like me who is very vocal about it.
I am most vocal because I have been mocked, shamed, abused, and told I'm not worthy or good all because I wanted to have if anything something REAL and not fake. To be careful and not foolish and unwise. To do what is right by God, by my parents, and those around me besides myself, a potential future husband, and my potential future children. I wouldn't want to be responding for sleeping with tons of men and then risk going to hell for fornication and adultery, for God forbid passing the disease to somebody else, for making my children miserable and harming my genetic and bloodline, for hurting somebody else.
How can I LIVE with myself and lie and say I love the person I'm with when I God forbid had many men and can't even keep one nor love just that person, if not either of them. After seeing the damage and one person in my life being taken from a decision that shouldn't have been but because of another who did something irresponsible. Why would any man put a woman through hell is beyond me... Why any woman encourages a practice that was never intended to be perverted, used, and abused this way all while they do is beyond me.
It's not talked about because this world glorifies sex like it's their god as they do others as idols. There isn't anything wrong with having sex. But sex must be between a husband and wife, a man and a woman, between one man and one woman, and it must be within the confines of marriage. Not out of it. It mustn't be abused nor be abusive towards anyone else. And you must have a purpose for it. The thing is for you men, you think about sex every 5 minutes especially after you experienced and had sex.
For women, we do not have the same struggles as you men do, because, well, we're not men. Women can survive without sex more easily than you do. That doesn't mean we can't desire that for ourselves, but that for some of us, we have more self-control as we have more estrogen slightly than testosterone. As you have more testosterone slightly than estrogen. Everybody is healthy must have a balance of both. Some are more chemically imbalanced than others. Which can make some women hornier than other women and some men hornier than their peers. In other words, it's plainly biology and the genetic disposition of a person. Besides diet, nutrition, habit, and lifestyle choices.
Nice long explained. But celibacy is not only about restraining from having actual sex with someone. at least in males it also means not masturbating and hence not ejaculating semen. It's said and believed that it takes a lot of effort and time by the body to make a healthy semen and hence by masturbating and throwing that healthy semen in the drain simply means abusing your own body and forcing it to put lot more effort in producing semen. Which in turn drains the body and makes it weak lethargic and gradually the male looses any charm and health. Also it speeds up male pattern baldness in males who are somewhat prone to it by genetics or otherwise. In females I have no idea what happens when a woman feels horny masturbates or has sex. There is no physical abuse/damage to her body I guess since he doesn't produce semen that takes lot of vital life force in males? Maybe since women don't have semen production and wastage hence there is no need to stop masturbation?
I've been celibate all my life. I very much know and understand what celibacy is. It means having no desire to engage in sexual relations. If you are masturbating you engaging in sexual relations, with yourself. Producing semen has to do with your ability and function to produce. Not masturbation. It is not about charm. But what you're actually doing is ruining your overall physical, sexuality, spiritual, mental, and psychological health. If you're talking about being weak, it has to do with conditioning your body in engaging in unhealthy manners in excess and it also depends on your genetic makeup. Even for women. Baldness may not have to do with that. But a gene that is in the DNA you were born with is passed on by your parents who is prone to baldness. You won't know unless you get a genetic test done. And uh, no. This has 0 to do with semen, etc. It is all about self-control and because we are women and if virginal like myself we do not have the same problems sexually active people do. Unless you have a high libido or its hormones, then it doesn't have to last long. It requires practice and breathing. If you never touched or done anything, it should go away within a few minutes and that's it. You simply ignore it and don't think about it. That is the same for you men if you learn, but the only thing is as a man you may need to develop more self-control because like I said, your primary wiring is based on sex. There is a lot more damage to the female than a man because we're meant to be open. You men are not open there to know what horrific damage could be done. You're meant to release, a woman is meant to receive. So there is a major difference. HOWEVER, some women can be allergic and can get sick by your sperm, besides transmitting an STD.
Celibacy is not the same as abstinence though. Abstinence is the desire to want to have sex, but for some, they say either marriage or a dating relationship. In actuality, it really means waiting for marriage to have sex. So it's best to be very specific while understanding not everybody may have the same reasons as to why they are celibate or abstinent. But one thing celibacy is not, it is not abstinence. That is where people confuse the two. If I for example, hypothetically speaking, decided to want to get married, I know marriage requires sexual relations. Therefore, that wouldn't make me celibate anymore the moment I was dating and seeking a partner. But abstinent. But the person would have to know both. How since before meeting him, I was celibate for X-amount of years, as of recently of desire to want to get married and involved, I am abstaining and is waiting for marriage to have sex. And that is it. Most people who say they're celibate may not actually be celibate. Even if they aren't abstinent especially if they had sex already. Many are not understand what the terminology means. It is very similar to being a monk or a "nun", without actually be called that. A spiritual enuch is basically as close to the term when you desire to dedicate your life more to God than the desire to be married.
I think it has to do mostly with societal views.
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"Frequent male masturbation isn't likely to have much effect on your fertility. Some data shows that optimum semen quality occurs after two to three days of no ejaculation. But other research suggests that men who have normal sperm quality maintain normal sperm motility and concentrations even with daily ejaculation."
There are no harmful effects of frequent ejacultion, and there are no harmful effects to retaining semen either. There are benefits to both. It just boils down to personal preference. I saw your other comments and just wanted to insert this before moving onto what I think about female celibacy etc.
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(I am only stating soiceties views, these are separate from my own personal opinions, don't attack me lol)
Women are shamed for having lots of sex, whilst for the most part men are praised for it.
Ofc in general... sleeping around is not really seen as a good thing for anyone regardless if you're a man or woman. But sadly it is more acceptable for men to have lots of sex in their lifetime than it is for women.
So I feel like female celibacy isn't openly talked about because it seems that women are already expected to stay celibate or pure, and men are expected to be a lot more sexual than women.
And as a result the conversation seems to be aimed more towards men.
The truth is that both women and men are both equally sexual by nature. And women can be just as horny and sex driven as men! Society has just taught women to control, and repress their sexuality. For modesty reasons you know? Because it's more "womanly" and more "feminine".
That's my take on it. :)
I don't know where you live that talks about the benefits of semen retention. Studies show that regular releasing of semen is good for prostate health. Orgasms also improve mood.
The only people that I've heard speak even remotely like that are people trying to control your morality.
Semen retention has multiple benefits dude don't deny it
Not sure what they would be, but here are a host of things that sex and ejaculating can improve:
www.mdlinx.com/.../QJfDOsezDBwUc1mzODfqr
So, again, not sure where you are getting the info on semen retention but I'm gonna side with the science I have seen.
Until I joined this site, I had never heard about this bollox of male celibacy.
i find it hysterical really.
i cannot think of a single positive reason for not having sex in a relationship.
it’s like glorifying a bloke that lives in his mums basement.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Are you kidding? It IS! Thats all we are told, save it for marriage, save yourself until marriage, no man will buy the cow if he's getting the milk for free!… name a similar saying about male celibacy? Even guys on here have equated women who have already had sex to a used car (”used cars are just not as valuable as new cars”). Believe me female celibacy is HIGHLY stressed, even in the western world, but not as much as in the east, or Middle East where women are executed for having premarital sex!
See there is a huge difference between promoting virginity etc and celibacy. Celibacy is promoted as something that benefits you spirituality physically and emotionally. You don't even masturbate if celibate.
Yes… celebrated by certain religious groups with whom I do not share beliefs. I respect everyone’s right to believe whatever they want to believe. Where I draw the line is when people start in on me that THEY believe something, therefore I need to believe it, or practice their beliefs! Then I object!
Because if you're female and don't have sex right away, you're a prude.. If you do, you're a slut.. Ask the men with these bullshit double standards why, not females who are damned if they do/damned if they don't.
You seem to be hurt by something in society and that's ok. But celibacy not just means restraining from sex with men or anything like that... it also means not masturbating and retaining semen in males
I'm not hurt.. people can be idiots, I just avoid those idiots🤣 and people who chose celibacy, of that works for them hear, but it's exact person's choice to decide that for themselves.
Excuse the typos think you get what I was trying to say
I have seen it promoted as the best way to prevent pregnancy but it isn’t realistic.
But in males it is promoted as having immense health benefits... In females it has no health benefits?
That is bogus. No health benefits to males. Actually detrimental to be deprived of sex.
Do you know how it feels when a male ejaculates semen... surely it's pleasure at that particular moment but it's physically draining/damaging to waste semen. also it enhances /speeds up male pattern baldness in men who are already prone to it because of genetics
Female celibacy is more promoted than male celibacy. Men usually don't hear that they should remain virgins until marriage.
Promoting virginity is different thing. Being celibate means masturbation and no semsn loss too...
🤔Are their benefits? If so I'd like to know.
I'm mostly kdding for those that are staying celebit for a reason.
Celibacy not only includes staying away from actual sex but also staying away from masturbation.
I have no idea of female celibacy for sure but there have been many proven benefits for male celibacy which basically is semen retention. Males have benefits of not wasting/throwing semen away from their body , female doesn't have anything as ejaculate/semen so I don't know if celibacy helps women
Oh okay, well that doesn’t include me then.
To me, it's the other way around. I never hear anyone say that guys should try to stay virgins.
It's not just about being Virgin even for men. It's basically about semen retention and hence it also includes abstaining from masturbation and not wasting semen
It IS talked about... in some circles. Catholic nuns take a vow of celibacy, just as priests do.
@loves2learn I love Monty Python... this is classic... and so true! ;-) ;-) ;-) ;-) ;-)
There’s no physical benefits to either. There may very well be emotional benefits to single women (and possibly single men) from being celibate.
There are immense benefits of male celibacy i. e semen retention
Bullshit
@loves2learn bullshit to semen retention benefits?
Why would we want to? 😂
To reap it's immense benefits
No benefits... Lmqo
How is the longest you have gone without sex/masturbating?
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