Why isn’t sex pleasurable?

[Anonymous]

I’ve seen a doctor and she says that nothing is wrong with me.
While I generally do enjoy the physical and emotional intimacy that sex brings I don’t really ever find it physically pleasurable unless we use a vibrator.
If it doesn’t hurt it’s usually just meh, and doesn’t really feel like much until I get sore. Am I the only one?

[ohshee]

there's nothing wrong with you I would say that it's the lovers that you pick I would say that they are all selfish and they're only making it about them instead of you I gave it to you you find a guy it makes it all about you and when you do that your energy is going to connect to his that alone will make you come that alone is one of the most beautiful feeling she will ever feel and then you add his touch is kiss just the way he moves his body with yours just the way he looks into your eyes you're going to feel something so beautiful and you will have the best orgasm ever
I'm going to say something that is so hard to believe but it's 100% the truth you find a guy that you like and if you could feel his energy and he can feel yours if you can just feel yours even you can have phone sex and you are the best orgasm you've ever had all of your orgasms put together we just having sex on the phone miles and miles away this is 100% the truth cuz I could prove it to you it is
This is something that so hard to believe but it is the truth and I can show you what I'm talkin about with energy if you understand energy then you know exactly what I'm saying but if you don't ask me about it I'll try to teach you I'll try to show you it is the most powerful beautiful thing you will ever feel in your life

[Asker]

Every lover I have had has been attentive and very concerned about my pleasure, so that's definitely not the issue. The issue is that I have never been able to find penetration pleasurable.

[ohshee]

I see that's a little bit different the are you wet enough before it happens for me that is so important to me on how I do it because it cannot be fast it has to be so very slow motion just for many reasons but yeah I tried to make the girls soaking wet before I even try to put it in

[Asker]

I don’t really ever get wet. I have many a hand full of times in the past 10 years

[ohshee]

How open minded are you I would love to chat with you about a couple things if we an. I know 2 girls who have said the same thing but they said they have had an orgasm and never been wet that has changed for one of them

[Asker]

At this point I’d try anything

[ohshee]

You should DM me I can tell you a few different ways I'm trying something seeing something and feeling something that might help you quite a bit

[Asker]

Here is totally fine

[ohshee]

Yeah I can understand that I just wanted to ask you some personal questions that are kind of out there and I guess you are not in this so nobody will know who you are by your answers but yeah

[Fireguy17]

No, it is not that uncommon.
Some women just can't have a happy ending with just intercourse.
I had 1 girlfriend that could only cum when she was on top, so that is how we finished.
Maybe if you want add a vibrator during intercourse.
My wife does that and it makes her eyes roll back even further.
There are a few positions that make it easier to use one, doggie style, and she likes it putting her ankles on my shoulders, but she also likes her feet tickled while she is coming, she says it makes her Os even more intense.
Who am I to argue.
In reality it feels good to me when she is using it.
Some partners may be hesitant to add 1 to the repertoire, but the way I figure it, the better sex is for your partner the more often she will want to have sex.
That's a win win for me.

[Asker]

well I am aware the majority of women can't climax from penetration alone, but it should at least feel good though right? weve used vibrators during and the vibe feels good, but the penetration doesn't really do anything for me at all.

[Fireguy17]

You may want to talk to your doctor about this. Not sure why, but yes, having sex should be enjoyable for all participants.

[Asker]

I’ve seen 3 different doctors, all of them said nothing is physically wrong

[Fireguy17]

Did you feel this way with any other partner, if you have had other partners, I didn't want to be presumptuous, or with just this one? I'm thinking you have tried different positions. Is it at all possible that if you were brought up with strict religious or parent (s) that thought sex was dirty etc, and that is in your subconscious mind and that could possibly keep you from enjoying sex, or a really remote possibly of something happen to

[Fireguy17]

Happened to you in your childhood. My finger hit the wrong button.

[Asker]

It’s been the same with everyone I’ve been with. I’ve been my last one for 7 years though. I did have very religious, strict parents, and I was sexually abused as a kid, but I’ve been married for 5 years.

[Anonymous]

I love when my boyfriend fucks me, because of the intimacy, but he knows I don't orgasm from it. So he knows what works best is for him to use a dildo and me and lick my clit at the same time. I explode from that, and then he fucks me and gets his.

[summiter]

Have you tried using some sex toys? They can be fun with a boyfriend.

[Asker]

I like vibrators, penetrations just doesn't provide a pleasurable sensation, I feel it but it just feels meh

[Berethor]

Maybe you are asexual.

[Asker]

No definitely not

[DonkeyDan]

Many women have trouble climaxing just from penetration. If a vibrator works, maybe get him to wear a vibrating cock ring to stimulate your clitoris. You need to work together to find out what works for you.

[boggboss]

Somthing must be going wrong here

[Asker]

Not according to my doctor

[boggboss]

Have u tried another Dr

[Asker]

I've seen 3

[FilmGuy93]

I feel the same way. It's not that the sex is bad, just bland.

[Wise4myage]

You must be with the wrong person.

[Asker]

It’s been that way with ever person I have been with

[Wise4myage]

Perhaps you need to see a Gynecologist.

[Asker]

I’ve seen several

[jahaims]

A lot of women can't cum from penetration. How is his oral game? Do you use toys a lot? It can dull you sensations and then you will only be able to cum with a toy.

[Asker]

No I don’t really ever use toys

[jahaims]

Is he bad at oral?

[Asker]

oral if fine, but penetration hardly feels like anything until it starts getting sore

[Juxtapose]

You must be screwing with small dick dudes that don't know what they are doing.

[Asker]

Actually ever guy I have ever been with has been above average.

[Juxtapose]

Then you don't have enough nerve endings for regular sex to be enough. Is he rubbing your clit and warming you up before fucking you? Is he rubbing your clit while doing you? I know the questions will make prudes cringe but I'm literally just trying to help you and not trying to get your pants for the record.

[Asker]

well having my clitoris stimulated feels good but the penetration doesn't do anything for me. The majority of women aren't able to climax from penetration alone. I've been checked out a few time and the doctors say there is nothing physically wrong.

[Juxtapose]

Well I was able to get the women I have slept with off with just my dick, it was just about lasting long enough. If the guy has a decent amount of girth and you're still not feeling anything then you should probably invest in a vibrating toy for your clitoris. There's not much he can do in terms of technique if your nerve endings aren't there for him to stimulate. The clitoris is your best hope.

[Asker]

There isn't anything wrong with my nerve endings. My sensation is just fine, I feel everything that goes in, it just isn't a pleasurable sensation.

[Juxtapose]

If my ass can feel better than the inside of your vagina then that is not normal. Usually women feel the girth of the guy the first few inches in the most intensely and if the guy finds her g-spot it is game over.

[Asker]

I can feel it just fine, it just doesn't feel pleasurable.

[Juxtapose]

Okay then why does my ass feel pleasure even when my g-spot isn't touched but you don't?

[Asker]

Probably because your rectum and my vagina aren’t the same …

[KrakenAttackin]

Maybe you are a lesbian.

[Asker]

Definitely not

[OddBeMe]

1) can you orgasm with just your finger?
2) do you need some type of porn to orgasm? Thats an issue with guys.
3) do you talk to your SO about it? Even during sex, my wife yells out demands

[Asker]

I can orgasm with clitoral stimulation, penetration has never really done anything for me, yes my SO is aware

[OddBeMe]

Some partners of mine have had trouble so they had to ride me differently. Almost like using the base of the dick to get off. Or i’d finger during.

[jimmy2]

Honey first you are good no worries
Now it ok using a vibrator
And use a slick creme so you don't get sore
Just enjoy sex in your marriage

[Asker]

How am I supposed to enjoy sex… having his penis inside isn’t pleasurable? It doesn’t usually hurt, but it doesn’t feel good

[Anonymous]

you sound like a guy who is lying

[Asker]

well the vagina between my legs would suggest that I am not...

[Anonymous]

He doesn't know what he is doing.

[Asker]

I've been with 5 different people, it's been the same with all of them

[Opinion Owner]

Guys are notoriously bad at sex; you have to teach them how you like it.

[Asker]

I've been with this last guy for 5 years and have taught him what I like. Penetration just doesn't do anything for me.