Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
So you are a single adult and you don't feel like staying sex deprived until you are ready to meet your next serious partner. One night stands are not really practical. You have an attractive trustworthy friend who is available for low-key sex and you're like "why not?"
I will tell you "why not?"
1. The last thing you want is unrequited feelings.
Avoid as much as you want, this is inevitable. Bad news is, it is much more likely to happen to women than to men. Ladies, our bodies produce an abundance of chemicals in anticipation of and in response to sex, creating mood-boosting properties similar to anti-depressants. These include, but aren’t limited to, oxytocin, vasopressin, and norepinephrine. And the more often we have sex with any one partner, the more of this Chemical cocktail our bodies release. And guess what? That cocktail is highly addictive.
Meaning? We get stuck on partners even when we don’t want to. While this happens to more than 3/4 women, it only happens to 1/4 men, usually inexperienced/virgin men. Worse, if you're not condom fans and he usually nuts in you, about 97% of what’s in semen isn’t sperm; it’s biochemical warfare that gets you uber-hooked on him, but doesn't do the same thing to him. For the other 3/4 Men. Their bodies produce the chemical cocktail, too, but only if they have a long lead-in before sex. Evolutionary psychologists (not me) say it’s a mechanism that protects men from investing their hearts, wallets, and parts further south in temporary women who are likely to cheat; factually, she who is Hard To Get is usually more faithful post-commitment, (according to them) so genetically, men are primed to value the chase.
So long story short, ladies, sex will make you catch feeling that your partner will not be happy with in 75% of the cases.
2. You will never communicate enough, which automatically means it will not last.
You don't want to seem vulnerable, weak. You don't talk about your link, you don't discuss your relationship. You are afraid your honesty will freak your partner out or push them away. You don't ask them to stay over although you want them to. You kinda just want to cuddle but they might misinterpret it. You don't talk openly, you supress your feelings and don't express yourself. You end up frustrated. It isn't good for your mental health.
3. By the time you start being friends with benefits, you stop being friends.
Yes it's cool at first, you hang out and laugh and be great friends and just have sex when you feel like it, but then things change. In a relationship, you are your partner's only gf/bf, they make time for you, and it is psychologically reassuring. In a friends with benefits thing, you are not your friend's only friend. Eventually, they will go and spend time with their other friends and do their thing and only hit you up when they are horny. At this point, they become your selfish fuckbuddy instead of friend, and you start feeling used, and it crashes your self-esteem, and ruins your link.
Eventually, after your thing ends, you have very little chance of re-establishing the friendship you had in the past.
4. You probably don't want the drama of an non-exclusive relationship either.
Your partner is free to see other people and so are you. You probably don't want to ask them to avoid seeming desperate but you have high risk of catching an STD when you are in a non-exclusive relationship. Let's not imagine the dramatic question of "whose baby could this be?". Yup it happened before. It could happen to you too.
5. You deserve better than that.
Yes. you deserve better than a person who is not willing to make the slightest effort for your wellbeing. You deserve someone who thinks you are enough. You deserve someone who thinks you deserve to be committed to. Anyone else is a waste of your youth. And if you are a person with commitment issues, do not take them out on another person. Heal your commitment issues and insecurities Individually or they will spread like a disease in your togetherness.
Gentlemen, do not waste your best testosterone years on lame girls. Ladies, do not waste your best boob years on lame guys.
What Girls & Guys Said
15 44Only sloots have "friends with benefits"
Are you a ugly feminist by any chance?
No, "handsome guy", I am not ugly nor am I a feminist.
Then why are you hiding your face?
I am not hiding my face. I always write mytakes anonymously because I don't like my identity to interfere in people's interpretation of my thoughts. - @iuoala
Amen owner. We can hide if we want. And great take
You're probably really ugly, that's why you're hiding.
Some people don't choose to have pictures up for whatever reason, I can't blame them
great
I Had A Friends With Benefits For Years...
We Had Been Best Of Friends, Both Not Dating Anyone, Both Wanting Sex, But No One To Fuck...
She Asked If We Could Have Sex As Friends, With No Expectations From Each Other...
We Talked About It, And Agreed We Could Do This For As Long As We Like And Still Be Best Of Friends...
We Had Amazing Sex... After Sex, We Would Either Go Our Separate Ways Until Next Time Or Go Hang Out Somewhere...
We Fucked For A Few Years, Sometimes Just Hang Out Naked And Talk...
We Stopped Having Sex, Mainly Because We Started Dating Someone Else, If That Relationship Failed We Would Fuck Again, This Continued Until She Got Married, I Dated Others, Then She Divorced, We Fucked Again... Today We Are The Best Of Friends, We Are Very Close, Because We Never Expected Anything Beyond Sex From Each Other, We Communicated With Each Other, We Never Got Jealous Or Mad At Each Other When We Found Someone Else...
Yes, Friends With Benefits Can And Does Work, When Both Respect Each Other And Never Expect Anything Beyond Sex...
I think i'll skip the friends and just take the benefits.
I currently have 3 FWBs that I see every other week or so (so that I get sex on average twice a week). I say friends with benefits because it sounds more polite than fuck buddy. Even though I met these women online specifically to have NSA sex with and never see them anywhere outside of planned sex meetings. I've kept 2 of the 3 for over 3 years now and the newest has been well over a year. So it seems to be working out.
As far as the negatives listed in the MyTake:
1) By the time a woman has had more than 4 dicks in her, she has effectively lost the biological ability to form pair-bonds. Thus, why the divorce rate is so high.
2) I never spend the night, but I always cuddle and nap for an hour or 2 afterwards.
3) Was never friends to begin with.
4) I'm 99% sure that none of my FWBs are seeing any other guys. And, what they don't know about my other FWBs won't hurt them. (although a few years back I gave a previous friends with benefits an STD that I got from a prostitute. Luckily, I found out and she got treated before she had sex with her husband).
5) You get what you can.
i don't think there's anything wrong with FWBS and all your points are pretty irrelevant other than the one about catching feelings and drama. "you deserve better"? some people just wanna have sex, give us a break lol.
I don't know about you guys but its easier to just have sex and move on with my day. Dont tell me what i do and dont deserve, you dont know me, im happy to have what i have and i suggest you stop hating on people who make FWBs work. Sounds like youve never done it or have tried and failed, honestly.
It is, good take
So it's better to by lonely than to be with someone even though you may never get a boyfriend or girlfriend? Did you think that perhaps the reason why friends with benefits exists is that people who aren't meant to have a boyfriend or girlfriend can at least get with someone and not be lonely?
if you have a good enough personality to make friends and an attractive enough allure to make one of them want to fuck you, you are certainly capable of finding yourself a partner.
That is just not always the case.
I didn't try it yet.
Let's experiment it, I'll tell you afterwards how I feel about it.
YES!!! Thank you!
Some good points here. I'm currently in one, and while I agree with a lot of what you said, I do think they can work, but it takes total honesty by both people, all the time, and communication. If feelings develop (any and all), you HAVE to talk about them, no matter how "awkward" or "uncomfortable" it is. But I do have to agree with some of your points. Most don't communicate enough at all. And in my case, I like her and would love a committed relationship with her, while she doesn't want it. But, I know this and we've talked about it. Knowing this, I can accept it and am fine with it (I think? lol - so far anyway). I've already kind of experienced the feelings of your 3rd point, in that I kind of feel used, but again, I remind myself of the situations we BOTH agreed to and I can so far "get over it" lol. And lastly #5, sure, maybe, but "better than that" isn't being offered and I'm horny and lonely!! lol So... for now... I'll take it.
this concept is so weird to mee
Yes agreed!
well its pretalk about non emotional things
I am friends with benefits with my best friend. We wet from normal friends to best friends to friends with benefits to a couple and now again to friends with benefits. Maybe we'll return to friends some day. But what's said in this take about us getting attached easily because of the sex is pretty true for me. And I'honestly a bit scared exactly of not ruining our friendsip by being friends with benefits, but I hope for the best :)