Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
Have you ever been to a party and thought: "Wow this chick is a slut"? Probably.
Have you ever been to a party and thought: "Wow this guy looks really easy to get"? Unlikely.
What is a "slut"?
We live in a society where a guy can be open about his sexuality, please his sexual desires and choose if he wants sex a lot and with different partners or if he wants to seattle for one partner. women who do the same thing are called "easy" or "sluts".
Let's think about why it is like this.
So our basic primal instinkt is to procreate. The Strategy for procreation differs between females and males though. Men on the one hand can procreate every day of the year, regardles of how recently they procreated. It´s a really minor effort and a very minor strain on the male body. therefore the male strategy is to procreate as often as possible.
The females on the other hand can only procreate roughly once a year, assuming that you don´t want to get pregnant the day after you gave birth (i actually don´t know how long the down time is but it doesn´t matter for this rationale). in addition to that, dealing with pregnancy and having a child is a major strain on the female body to the point that you could even die in the process, especially thinking back to a time where medical knowledge wasn´t as good as today. therefore the female strategy is to carefully look for a partner that´s willing and able to care for her and the offspring in case they get pregnant.
But since we have a multitude of birth control methods, we wouldn´t need to still have those strategies right ? we could have fun without thinking badly of each other, since sex makes a lot of fun right ?
No. we still have those chains that keeping us from liberating our sexuality.
This guy helps a lot in keeping totally obsolete standards that don´t apply to our mondern life. Don´t get me wrong, i value what he teaches about love and how people in a society should behave. after all we based our society on what he said and it doesn´t run too bad.
though arguably he had no idea about sexual behavior, especially not under todays conditions. so why do we let him dictate what we think is "good" and what not?
It's ok to be a "slut"
Today we can enjoy sex without the drawbacks of a pregnancy. it´s a wonderful thing and both men and women should not be ashamed to enjoy it however they like it. If you choose to wait until your married, that´s fine. if you enjoy sex with different partners that´s fine too! So if you´re a girl and you enjoy freaky sex with a lot of partners and they call you a "slut" for being a sexually liberated, promiscuous girl, then it´s a good word, isn´t it ?
There is one lesson we should remember from our good friend in the picture above. Be consensual. Don´t lie to people and don´t hurt or play people. just be open and honest and it really is ok to be a slut.
If people look down on you for that, they are just jealous cavemen in their mind.
What Girls & Guys Said
32 29As society slowly moves towards accepting women's sexual nature, it's also starting to shame the sexual nature of men by 'player shaming.'
Player shaming is fine though in my opinion because they act exactly like I described in the last part. They hurt people instead of being honest and open.
Define it as you will, but won't change the fact that women will call guys who just want sex (no matter how honest they are about it) as 'players.'
They're wrong then thogh. Because a guy who's open about his sexuality and is honest, not "playing " with a girls feelings, is no player. He's just promiscuous.
A player manipulates. Not all men who want NSA sex are players.
I have to agree with the @Take Owner and @Onlyinit4fun. A player "plays games" they are not upfront about they're true intentions. They change themselves to meet the girls expectations for a short period of time until they score. Most players have multiple girls they are trying to score with at the same time as another. Guys who are upfront about what they want a re not players.
Well if women accepted men's sexuality they wouldn't feel ashamed for wanting sex, and thus would more likely be open about it.
i fully agree.
The difference is that "players" are actually hurting other people... Assuming that by "player" you mean guys who will lie and manipulate to get a woman in the sack...
People tell me I look like a slut due to my butt :/
a body part doesn´t make you a slut xD don´t listen to some idiots opinion.
Why is it because it's real big?, or to round? Or to firm?
It's not okay to have sex just for fun, people.
why do you think sex for fun isn´t ok?
people just want to have fun and that's a wrong thing. Because god didn't create this Universe vainly. A lot of people don't even believe that there's a God. Others don't even give a shit if there's a God or not which is stupid and here's why : because if there was a god existed, then It's the most important thing to know and there's no god that's ok with ''sex for fun'' thing, only after marriage. God created us and gave us a life for a purpose and that's to test us in a lot of things and that is what's going to lead us to Heaven or Hell. Sex is fun of course, but that's actually the point, to really test who's going to be doing good and who's not.
don´t you think it´s a bit condescending when you impose your view of what you think "god wanted" onto others? some religios people don´t realize that saying:"that´s not what god wants" is nothing short of: "that´s not what i want"...
or do you accept that others want that and are ok with it?
It's not like the '' that's not what I want '' thing. The problem again is that people deal with things with with a wrong approach and not dealing with it from the roots. Believe me, all I want is people to be right guided.
yeah but it is you who says that their approach is "wrong" you think they need love for one person which will lead to a happy life. that might be right for some people but some people enjoy a little fun while not being unable to acchieve what you think is only possible the one way. everybody should be able to choose the path he wants to go. you can´t tell them your path is better, because you´ve not been on their path.
If God gave us intense sexual urges and then expects us to never, ever act upon them then, frankly, God's a dick.
He's not imposing any belief when all religions abide by these very common beliefs.
@Sara413 made me laugh so hard :D it´s true though.
@Sara413 It must be hard so you know who is good and how good he/she is.
social norms of bronze age people apply today... maybe Hammurabi and Ramesses should run for US President.. or maybe Ramesses reincarnated as Trump... sorry, i donb't give a fuck who fucks who... there are no absolute social norms...
well in the stone ages it was fine to rape women... speaking of old social norms.
yes, that's nice...
It sucks that in today's society there is a double standard meaning that men can sleep with as many women as he wants and be called awesome but when a girl sleeps with just one guy she can be called a slut? I think what your saying about 'its ok to be called a slut' is something completely new but also something that we should use. If we want to have sex as much as men do, then that's what we'll do and without being judged by a community. Girls just need to learn to instead of taking other people's opinions as an insult, they should take it as a compliment.
and in the end, if girls would be like this, men would more often get sex too, because women are open for it and both sides will be more pleased... no need to be jealous and call women a "slut" just because you as a guy don´t find so many partners that are up for a little fun...
Maybe society would just be better if we were all pagan xD
Yeah where rape was fine xD sounds good.
Lol... until you convince men that it's great to commit to or marry a girl that has been fucked by a bunch of guys... well, the judging will keep flowing lmao
@RationalMale if you have an opinion, then post your own one instead of puting it as a comment to a random person xD it´s hard to discuss stuff within another conversation. so you think it´s hard to commit to a girl that has been fucking a lot of girls? still you think it´s normal for a girl to commit to a guy who´s been fucking a lot of girls. even if you don´t have that double standard: i think it´s about being honest and open. if i can trust a person, because she´s honest, i have no problem with how many partners she had before me.
You're right about that double standard, but what about the double standard about virgins? I mean, a girl is praised to be a virgin, but if a guy wants to be a virgin he'll be shamed and embarrassed. People just never mention this. When I was a virgin I somewhat felt pressured to have sex, even when I didn't want to.
i´m a virgin but i never felt pressured to have sex. i just feel like it´s a minor hinderance if i actually want sex.
You guys really got into a rant about this XD
I don't think a guy who sleeps with a lot of women are "heros". No, they are simply sluts trying to increase their moral and justify their actions by boosting their ego.
well if sex boosts each others ego, i see another reason to have it :P
Every human is a slut.
word!
I've never fully understood why so many people are against casual sex as a whole, like I understand personal stances about it and like you said - that is great for them! But for me, unless I'm in a relationship, I love learning new things and experiencing different people but just because someone else isn't interested in that or me for the fact that I have explored doesn't mean I judge them over it (unless they are an ass hole about it, then they can go fuck themselves). In all honesty I think it's benefited all my partners and sexual aspects of long term relationships as I know what I like and want and have seen so many different things in other people that nothing is weird or will make me run for the hills (though they may still get a big fat no in their face).
i mean i see, there could be problems when either side accidently catches feelings. but that happens in sexless friendships too xD so fuck it... literally :D
it makes sex less special. Casual sex is very close to simply being controlled by your lust and primal instinct ( which I would say in a lot of cases it probably is the case).
@ThreeMonkeys sex isn´t special per se. feelings and expectations makes it special.
This is just plain bs.
just plain ignorant offense :*
another poor soul that tries to justify his passions with incoherent nonsense that supposedely collapse all the previous values of humanity that lasted for centuries, just because "in today's world applies another ethicality and other needs than in the past". give me a break.
i never said it was my passion. so we shouldn´t ditch "old values" ? i guess we´d still live in a world, where murder and rape would be ok then.
you distort my words and create strawman arguments.
no i just think we should be able to decide for ourself what is ok and what not. but don´t offend others over their opinions instead of discussing the opinion. that´s the basic rules of giving critique. stay objective, don´t get personal.
not everything is subjective. you either got the truth or not. i didn't offend you, you create strawmen once again. if you are offended by the truth that says a lot though.
"another poor soul..." no, not offensive at all, dude. besides. are you sure you know what a "strawman-argument" is? i think you don´t. truth as in "what you think is true"? no you´re right. i´m not here to tell that thruth.
I think promiscuous men are sluts/whores as well. I wouldn't want a guy who sticks his thing into any and every hole. That's gross and he would not be someone I would be interested in. Same goes for girls who jumps into bed with any and every guy. People need to control their urges.
if you´re that disgusted by being promiscuous, i really hope you don´t get with guys that lie to you...
well no one gives a fuck what you think. therefor, no it is far from ok to be a slut
well you just gave a fuck by commenting sweety :*
I hate when a guy slut shames a girl for having a lot of sexual partners when they themselves have slept with 2 or more girls... Good take by the way.
nobody should be shamed for having as much consensual sex as they want.
You won't be think like that when you go to the clinic an should find out you got the clap 👏
He didn't say anything about unsafe sex.
yeah. condoms. ever heard of them?
Ever heard condoms do not prevent STDs 100% of the time.
What a irresponsible way to live, it's never ok to be a slut. Nothing is 100% in preventing stds or unwanted pregnancies. So why increase your chances of getting either or both?
Are you ready to carry a child for 9 months & birth it?
Do you want to contemplate an abortion?
Do you want to go through with an abortion?
Do you really want to be one of those chicks who doesn't know who her child's father is?
Do you want to take meds everyday for the rest of your life if you contract HIV/AIDS/Herpes? Even the effects of mono are starting to cause other medical problems & the majority of the population has it.
Can you financially afford a child?
Are you ready to mentally, physically, & emotionally invest in a child?
Bottom line, remember your careless actions can bring life into this world. If you cannot see yourself raising a child with this person, you should not be sleeping with them. This YOLO Life Needs To Die Immediately :)
Unless he's having sex with a new girl everyday and or not using bc properly the chances of him knocking up a random chick are really really low. I mean when I think of all the uh oh pregnancies I know of- and there's a lot- its usually people actually in a relationship, not casual hookups...
Lets not make excuses or try to justify this foolishness, its simple, if you have sex you can get pregnant or contract a std. What happened to anyone else doesn't matter, its between you & your partner. So, if you are not ready to deal with the possible consequences (pregnancy or a std) then you should not be overtly sexually active (a slut). It's not rocket science.
driving a car isn´t 100% safe to do either. or taking a ride in a rollercoster has still a chance to kill you. still we do it for fun. don´t be so negative. it´s not "careless" or "irresponsible" if you have fun, while being safe. and yeah of course one should be able to face the consequences.
Really, that's your response?
Does either of those scenarios bring a life into the world? Do you have to raise a child for years in either of those scenarios?
How about some stats:
Nearly 10,000 young people (aged 13-24) were diagnosed with HIV infection in the United States in 2013.
www.cdc.gov/healthyyouth/sexualbehaviors/index.htm
In 2013, a total of 273,105 babies were born to women aged 15–19 years
https://www.cdc.gov/teenpregnancy/about/index.htm
Come back when you actually have a valid argument.
if you´re too stupid to use bc then you shouldn´t do it, i agree with you.
Just a little more info:
Birth control & condoms are not 100% effective.
Certain medications & herbs, missing days or changing brands can make birth control less effective
www.everydayhealth.com/.../...ol-isnt-working.aspx
According to the CDC, when used Consistently and Correctly, latex condoms are "highly effective" in preventing the sexual transmission of HIV and many other STDs.
www.cdc.gov/.../CondomFactsheetInBrief.pdf
But what if:
they're expired or
left in a hot car or
not the correct size or
it breaks or
someone punctured a hole in it or
it comes off (google: condoms stuck inside vagina) or
what if the semen spills out or
your partner has HPV/Herpes/Syphilis which affects areas not covered by the condom?
Map of America showing areas affected by HIV from 2012:
photos.prnewswire.com/prnvar/20150624/225437-INFO
No one is invincible or immune, you can be infected. So why increase your chances by living recklessly?
girl i know about bc and if 99.9% security isn´t secure enough for you, you can´t live in this world.
Oh, so you think just because you know something everybody else does too. I'm not posting this just for you, this is for all who believe casual sex is fine. If you're going to do it, might as well know the possible consequences. 98% isn't 100%. That missing 2% could be a baby or std. See the bigger picture.
yeah but sexual education and responsibility are different topics in my opinion. sure it´s important and i kind of expect people to have all that before even thinking about sex.
Yeah, well the majority aren't educated on sex before they start. Most people learn about sex through experience, which is backwards.
yeah i agree that´s bad :D i still think it´s a different topic.
No, there is no difference. These aren't two different topics, they are one & the same.
i guess we won´t strike an agreement then ;) but that´s ok. i respect your opinion.
I totally agree with you.
this is not an argument about protection only be it 100% or 2% risk, but if you are the one who just want to use her for sex temporarily just because you are high on sex hormones level and are not ready to bear her responsibility and you don't have emotional bonds and affection with her then why she should sleep with you and give you pleasure? better she be honest to the guy who will be ready to be with her and take her responsibility for ever, why she should risk all that and use protections just to fulfil your desire when you are not going to last with him? wouldn't that be unfair in the part of a responsible guy compared to irresponsible one? it sounds totally insensible to me if a person enjoys all without responsibility and a responsible person get left overs, such unfair people should be thrown out of society for spreading mental corruption and wrong words to astray people, be it girl or guy slut it equally applies to both.
when you are not going to last with her*.
its not... a cheap/easy woman is not "ok".. you just wanna increase your chances of getting laid
and one of the women who agreed with you wrote a mytake about how sex is not different from a hug...
disgusting...
good luck finding someone special with that mentality
It doesn't have to be a special someone its just about having fun
i dont mean WITH those people... i mean when you actually want the real deal and are done having "fun"
you see that "mentality" isn´t "special", nor is it disgusting. we simply don´t agree. you´re kind of low for just assuming i have nefarious reasons for my opinion. it makes you worse than me who doesn´t even have those ulterior motives. i do see though that it might be hard to believe me but that´s not my problem, it´s yours.
This girl ^^ 👍👍
@take owner... no comment really @cinderelli thank you :) <3
yeah no comment... i´m sorry that your presumptions didn´t apply to me.
hahaha yea sure if thats what you wanna believe buddy
it´s not about believing it´s about what has become evident through what you said.
uh-huh
"you just wanna increase your chances of getting laid" if i want to increase my chance of getting laid, i get drunk or fuck a hooker. this take is about being open about sexuality and not feeling surpressed. but you can go on and insult me all you want.
alright fine if that firt sentence is bothering you so much scratch it but still... its NOT ok to be a slut
yeah of course i accept your opinion. ^^ i don´t have a problem with disagreement.
alrighty then :) sorry i was so on attack mode... GAG usually bring out the worst in me lol
you just restored a bit of my faith in people of gag :D a lot of people don´t have the decency you have :) they just go on insulting, ignoring that they might be wrong for attacking the person instead of discussing the topic.
haha thanks lol and thank you for not fighting fire with fire :P GAG can be really toxic actually lol it can really bring out bad stuff
yeah i sometimes enjoy a bit of flamewar too instead of just being reasonable ;)
hahaha xD
Just be safe and have as much sex as you want. Reminds me of that book the ethical slut.
i didn´t read that book but it sounds like it has a good message ;)
You just want women to view sex as nothing so it's easier for you to get laid. You ain't fooling no one.
lol its soo true 😂
i´m a virgin by choice so you couldn´t be more wrong ;)
i just don´t like a negative stigma to things that are beautyful and shouldn´t be frowned upon.
Anybody that says 'I'm a virgin by choice' at 25-29 is full of shit. Especially if they view sex in the way that you do. Furthermore, you're right, sex is beautiful. The only one who's devaluing it, is you.
yeah i guess some people just go anonymous to insult others :/ if you don´t believe me anyway then spare me the discussion there´s no point for you to talk with me.
I quit reading after the Jesus part. Bad image to prove your point lol.
then you didn´t get it...
That Christianity forbids promiscuity?
christian values that our society is based upon. we simply don´t reflect it anymore. we are just stuck with that way of thinking and with that interpretation of what the bible says when really the bible says nothing against promiscuity.
Yeah I got that part. You didn't get what I meant. It's okay though. Most people don't.
well then explain what you meant so i understand :D
It would take forever, but basically that type of Jesus would probably support promiscuity. That's a child's version of what I mean, but like I said it would take forever.
i agree with that though xD
Yeah but that beats your point. You said "This guy helps a lot in keeping totally obsolete standards that don´t apply to our mondern life."
yes as in peoples interpretation and "reading shit into things" but i didn´t want to have that discussion xD i just think that most religious people would preach modesty and not having sex without love or marriage and all this... do you agree with that?
Yeah. Why the down vote?
wasn´t me XD see i gave you my upvote now.
Oh okay thank you kind sir.
A man Cannot just choose to have all the sex he wants. He hasn't work for it exponentially harder than woman do so thier would still be a major power imbalance. The "liberation" would not help the common. Hypergamy dictates that females go after the very top of the food chain, especially for short term mating prospects. What you would not see is men getting more sex, but the top of the barrel (who are already getting as much sex as they want) wanting harems with the girls. Most women would rather share a high value man then have a low value man all to themselves. I will keep my perceptions of "sluts"
yeah but men do the same too. a top tier man wouldn´d have sex with some fat, ugly girl. it goes the same the other way around.
No but he probably would have sex with any attractive girl, even if they are not top of the barrel. Women would not. Men go for variety, women go for te highest value man they can get, and they would rather share him then go lower. Men don't care about having a partner of higher value then themselve.
no women do not in the society like it is now. if it would shift to the "slutty is ok" paradigm, they would start going for a variety of men.
because they now search for a guy that "compensates" for the slut status by being top notch. if slutty is normal, you wouldn´t need that.
You cannot rewrite thousands of years of evolutionarily benificial psychology with a new social paradigm. It doesn't work like that. Women will always be predisposed to mates of higher value then themselves. Liberating women's sexuality won't magically make women want to have sex with you. they will still have all the primal instincts and desires as before, except now they will run rampant.
no you´re right we shouldn´t try to change anything, we should just accept the crap that´s given to us... way to go.
Once you understand women, they become easy. Hypergamy doesn't have to be bad for you, you can use it to your advantage.
no i don´t want this shit in the society i live in. i know it exists and i could use it but i reject the idea.
Exactly and I love when some girls on dating sites say not here for a hookup, those are easy to get and if you can't get one like I can then you're pathetic. It's like they don't realize how easy they have it.
@bloodmountain1990 if you were on a dating site to find the love of your life but there´d only be a lot of girls wanting sex only, you´d be disappointed and pissed off too. that´s a whole other story. for a girl it´s hard to find a guy who doesn´t "just" want to fuck her.