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Why is being a slut such a bad thing? I mean seriously this is isn't the 1950s anymore, these slut shamers need to grow up and stop being so immature and sexist and realize that women want sex just as much as men, so stop being such fake Victorian prudes.
When a guy sleeps around he's a stud but when a woman does it she's a whore. Talk about double standards.
And why is slut even a word? I don't see any words that specifically defines a man having many casual sex partners yet a woman does. This is the purest form of sexism. The fact that this word is even in the dictionary is revolting.
Society has created this twisted image of approval to abide by, when there's no apparent reason to. Yes you can get pregnant or get an STD but you can also do both of those without being a "slut." This debate about promiscuity is about judging and shaming people, thinking that you know what’s best for them better than themselves. Well, sluts don’t need your disapproval or advice on how we should live our lives. We’re quite capable of making our own, terrible drunken decisions. What I can't however deal with, though, is your disapproval. I don’t know why, but for some reason people just love to cram their beliefs down your throat.
I like getting compliments and attention from guys, I like being desired and I like having sex. And to shame someone for doing something that comes naturally is just beyond absurd.
So what if a woman has sex with more than one man or likes taking it up the back door. It's their life, they can do whatever they want with it, and that does not make them a whore. Heck a woman can have sex with a hundred men at once and you still shouldn't judge them. Unless that woman is genuinely a bad human being, you have no right to judge her as a person. Yes you're entitled to your opinions but that doesn't mean you have the right to flaunt it around.
Yes being promiscuous can result in you getting hurt, you can get STDs or become pregnant or worse, but there are preventative measures you can take like using condoms every time and getting on the pill. If you take proper precautions you'll be just fine, there is however always a slight chance of getting pregnant or catching a STD but you probably have a higher chance of dying in a car accident than getting either of those. It's like saying you shouldn't get on a roller coaster because it could derail and get you hurt or killed but that doesn't mean you should stop having fun just because there's a less than 1% chance of it happening.
The word slut has been taken out of context so badly that it's used everywhere without people even being aware of the meaning. A woman dressed provocatively in public? She must be a slut right. A girl who flirts with all the guys in school? Oh she's definitely a slut. A girl who posts half-naked selfies? Oh man she must be a whore. I mean seriously what does clothing have to with being a slut or flirting or taking selfies. People are so conceited that they resort to calling women sluts (a word that obviously has a negative connotation attached to it) so they could shame them just because their still stuck with views from the 60s.
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45 129Girls do get criticized more for their sexual choices than men but it is wrong to assume guys don't get criticized at all.
Men will only sometimes gets congratulated for sleeping around, and it is only by other men. Women DON'T congratulate men for sleeping around. They are either indifferent or in many cases they will write the guy off and not want to date him.
Everyone has a right to make their own choices but nobody is immune from judgement or criticism. Just like you have a right to eep around, other people have a right to form their own opinion about your actions and potentially refuse to date you.
why are people so obsessed with this on this site? Like seriously just read up on the pertinent info, like the odds of being depressed being higher and very low chance of getting married, and go make your life choices, NO ONE CARES.
"When a guy sleeps around he's a stud but when a woman does it she's a whore. Talk about double standards."
Can't believe some people still don't get WHY that is. Feel free to create a male online profile and find out for yourself.
Ask yourself this, why wouldn't a group of female friends be so extatic at one of them announcing that she scored 7 guys in the last week? Because they know how little is actually required to do such feat.
It's true women can get it more easily, which also means they turn down more opportunities, thus making it less of a big deal that she has more sex than a typical guy. Even if she has more sex, she's also turned down more sex.
I completely disagree with all of this.
However I like this part: "When a guy sleeps around he's a stud but when a woman does it she's a whore. Talk about double standards.". When I mention this, no one has the answer.
I think you wrote this just to justify your own actions... you can do all you want.. people can judge all they want.. at the end of the day.. sex is a huge thing.. at least for me.. and I would not want a guy who fucked every hole he could find.. if there was likeness then that's another case..
As for clothing.. we are visual creatures.. and people make opinion for you as you present yourself.. ✌
If you don't have sex with me you're clever for not taking risks, and feel like our relationship is strong enough for you to be honest with me.
If you use the pill you're clever for preparing for all possible outcomes.
If you choose an abortion you're clever for severely reducing your chances at success with a child at an early age.
Clothing does not have nothing to do with being a slut. They call them "fuck-me boots" for a reason.
There are male sluts, I call them fuckboys. Trust me, my school is full of them ಠ_ಠ
Just my thoughts :)
Nobody is really slut-shaming you. In the west, anybody that wants can have sex. If you really care what batty old women and conservative prudes think, you can be discrete.
Realistically though, 'slut-shaming ' is a made up issue.
You can't force people to accept you. All you can do is be yourself and not care what other people think.
You shouldn't worry about strangers but you've got a duty to your friends and family to behave a certain way. Think about the kids you'll have. Think they'll want to hear their mum was anybodies for a drink? I've seen kids growing up with parents who didn't give a shit and they suffered badly for it. No-one willing to sacrifice anything for others now. They just think I want want want and fuck everybody else
Let me just point this out. Sex in a relationship is okay. However, anything outside of a relationship is what I would consider the "no go zone" for anyone. If a girl had had sex outside of a relationship, I don't care if you're mother Theresa, I will not touch you.
Protip: You are responsible for your own actions. If people cal you a slut, because you sleep around then tough life. You choose that path, now deal with the consequences.
I frankly don't care about your mimimimi
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It's okay to be a slut, because guys need sluts before they move on to date proper girls.
Simple as that.
Why isn't it ok for a woman to be promiscuous when she is not in a relationship? Can you expand? Or are you just a manipulative bully?
@AndrewTroy new4.fjcdn.com/pictures/Why_d6a3e2_2221459.jpg
You don't actually think this meme is correct, do you? Maybe your career isn't going well, but mine is fine and I can assure you that status, wealth and power won't get you laid heh.
@AndrewTroy my career so far is going quite well, actually. As for "truth in memes", there's no smoke without a fire.
You are right. But why is that?
@vyvyn
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As they say, "People look down on what they want but can't have."
The richest man may look down from his house on the hill, just staring at 'ants',
because not even he knows, what makes him happy.
I agree with you all the way!
yes the 1950s are over but still slut shammers will always be around no matter what. the key is to ignore them and rather than taking them serious just analyze that they are trying to shame you for a reason, maybe that reason is jealousy or envy.
but oh well, i never had a problem with a girl having multiple sex partners and whatever, but it kinda enrages me when women say things like "in order for me to fuck a guy I must feel an emotional connection." i think that is all bullshit, to me the women who say these types of things are the ones who fear being slut shame. so they use this emotional requirement to repress feeling or being called a slut.
trust me, if most women could fuck guy for money and favors then they obviously dont need that emotional connection bullshit
So you're ok with your girlfriend grinding on guys and ducking as much dick as possible?
Sucking*
@Albinoninja66 and this relevant too?
That's what I got out of your comment. Or that you're ok with dating a girl that has 20 friends with benefits.
@Albinoninja66 not during a relationship of course but if she had multiple sex partners before me and I love her enough to be committed to her then why worry?
girls have a few double standards in their favour also. The yin and yang are balanced
You can't be a slut. Act like a slut get treated like a slut. Act like a lady get treated like one. If I meet a girl and I heard she's anybodies after a drink I'll do her but there's no way I'll want to keep seeing her. Most guys would just treat her like any port in a storm kinda way. Then again behave how you want but don't go whining when people treat you funny. Some women just can't get their head round the fact that there's compromises in life. No-one can have everything.
Yeah, I usually feel the same about guys too.
@danceislife080 ever like somebody and thought they were perfect. You like the way carries homself, the way he smiles, his sense of humour the. You think this is the one for me. You ask around about him and bingo. It turns out he likes beating women up. People that know him remember what he was like. Does he look attractive any more? Does that perfect smile not look a little wolf's? Does that sense of humour not a little strained? Do you think guys don't have the same criteria for judging women? She's perfect until somebody says she's been through half the town. She's the local bike. Everybodies had a ride. Has a guy no right to go frosty the same way you would with the guy I described above. Most of the time it pisses guys off that the woman they think looks beautiful has been with every asshole who's smiled at her and he just thinks why. Why lower yourself. You could have had anybody
Bike sharing is a great idea. It has helped many people...
@Metlahaed get std's. Good call
I've dated hookers with hundreds of partners, none of them every had STDs and neither have I (I have had many partners too). You know why? We practice safe and responsible sex because we are educated and ethical. The people I know who have had STDs are the ones with 2 or 3 partners. They think they are holier than thou and it would never happen to them. They were taught sex improperly and believe in all sorts of random myths. But that is fine, I will take all the sluts and you can keep in it Palmela Handerson tugging to what ever it is you love to watch (sluts I assume)... Good call.
@Metlahaed 26 and you come out with that shit. You can nail 1 girl in your whole life and end up with aids or hep b or anything. Okay stud better stop typing you eh. I'll be keeping you away from your latest escapade. there's still all those millions of women out there dying to jump on you. I'd be depriving them if I kept you here lol
Calling all sluts I'll be your man whore!
I agree. Women have come a long way with sexual independence since the decades past. They should perhaps do away with that word. I would like to point out though, that lots of views in the 60's (and that was before my time too) WERE the same as yours... ours. The so-called "hippies" would have been like "Right-on man. Free love." (most that is.) There has ALWAYS been that sect of any society that pre judges and condemns the liberal "looser" more sexually active. They're the prudes, squares, right-wing authoritarian oppressors who keep us back. Forget them, and let's live our lives our way.
Let's just treat everyone with kindness and stop judging and labeling everyone, ignoring the simple fact that we don't understand what everyone is going through!!
Saying your clothing has nothing to do with being a slut is like saying wearing a gun has nothing to do with my ability to defend myself.
There are things that link up logically in ways that many people understand, there are patterns you can observe that tend to play out the same way, now that sometimes isn't the case, but it often is.
If you follow society then you're always going to be wrong, many people conflict with each other, and many others don't have any idea what they're doing.
What you want to do is completely up to you, but there will often be consequences, and if you choose to ignore that fact then things could become quite hard for you in life. Just a caring tip.
you knew how to defend yourself you wouldn't need a weapon.
@thewanderingme If they have a stick, I want to have a stick, if they don't have a weapon, I don't need a weapon. I'd carry a gun, because I don't know what they have, if I knew, I would plan accordingly.
Sloots gon sloot.
Ask your father.
if my dad asked me about my sex life ever, my jaw would hit the floor.
@VampireEmpress then could you imagine, what would be consequences, when you say your father that you wanna be a slut, I think you would be jawless at the age of just 20. no father wanna see his daughter as a slut. M I right honey?
no, I don't think he'd care. if I was a teen in highschool then he would, but as an adult? he respects that it's my business.
@VampireEmpress you only said that your jaw would hit the floor. I don't care, if it's your business needs u r happy with that then keep up. Keep going. Wish you good luck.
Go on try to change the Society, there will always be double standards whether you like it or not, so you need to start getting used to it and think of a strategy how to counter people who enforce them.
I think you're a brilliant soul.
There is no hope for humanity.
@Albinoninja66 Okay?
@Albinoninja66 I couldn't agree more. *lol*
@thereshegoes1 Again, Okay?
okay you should never judge a person on there sexuality. ( you should never judge people anyways) in a relgion point of view yeah it is a sin, like lying, to sleep with people other then your spouse. but on a non relgion point of view you should never judge a person. what defines a slut? we all have our boundrys, some might be kissing 3 guys at a party and if you go over thats considered being a slut to other people. if someone wants to have s e x with 10 guys they should, its there choice i dont care. its 2015 we dont need this.
That's so true. Sadly even some girls don't agree. What's your opinion on my take to this topic?www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a21842-why-it-is-ok-to-be-a-slut
Well, I have only this to say: I love sluts, wish I was one. But women can get it so much easier than a guy. that's why male sluts (who know how to navigate attraction) deserve great labels. they deserve to be called legends, studs etc. women don't. Women getting sex for me is like a male getting a prostitute. That's why I'm an advocate for prostitutes. It's easy. In that sense, a girl who is promiscuous is nothing special. A guy who is successfully promiscuous is something special. There's no double standards there.
I think educating someone on the dangers of sleeping around is important, and shaming is never good. However, I cannot condone the actions. I think everyone would be happier finding a partner to be with than listening to the lies on TV.
There's nothing wrong with respecting yourself.
While I mostly agree with your view, you do fail to talk about history and why the view towards women is what it is. Men as a whole have to work, impress, and "fight" for sex unlike women. Therefore a man would be praised because obviously a "stud" would be someone of high aptitude, physical prowess etc... Although things have changed somewhat, the remnants still remain today. Ceteris paribus, a fairly attractive woman say a 7 or above could have sex whenever she wants unlike men of the same ilk. That being said, how someone lives their life is none of your business unless y'all are dating then you would have the right to object and exit the relationship.
Wow, I'm really amazed at how much sex-hating and promiscuity-hating is going on in this thread.
Just admit it. You don't care about the welfare of the promiscuous. If you did, you'd have a tone of empathy and compassion. No, it's all snide, spiteful tones. Humiliation and bullying.
I've date (and date) promiscuous women. And I've dated (and date) non-promiscuous women. And to be honest, their promiscuity-level wasn't the most interesting thing about any of them :P
People should be able to fuck who they want and how often they want so long as its safe, consensual and you're not cheating
Two right wing religious freaks that want "liberty" for all down voted this even though it supports freedom of choice.
I don't call people sluts, I don't have a problem with women liking sex, I don't think people actually have that problem. But addressing the double standard; it's actually impressive for a guy to get female attention, even if he's an asshole. When I see an attractive girl getting attention from a guy it's obvious to me why you're getting attention and I've no reason to be impressed. You can have sex, I don't care, but why should I be impressed?
I think men can be sluts, and frequently, many are. My opinion is that sex should be had because it is a part of a relationship. That it brings pleasure should be the answer to what it does, alongside procreate, and not the answer to why it should be done. Simply put, I don't think that sex for pleasure is right. It leads to far too many problems, like the prolific spreading of STIs (I know, wear protection, but condoms don't protect from ALL STIs), as well as cause problems with trust and issues within future relationships (sex does cause changes in brain chemistry), and therefore, it is detrimental to those who practice sex in this manner, and is therefore wrong.
I think that it is wrong to hate on a person for the way they dress, but I think it is perfectly acceptable to judge people for how they act. If a man acts like a whore, and sleeps with a lot partners over a short time, he should be called out on that. I definitely agree that there is sexism that creates unfair standards, but at the same time, I think that the issues the inequality exists over are not wrong. For example, it's racist to say that black people are more prone to stealing than white people. It is not wrong, however, to say that stealing is bad.
wow!!! so many guys are posting on this and it's 3 days old! the guys actually seem semi OK with what you wrote, but so much disapproval from the girls? strange combo right?
I agree with you, although I think you can still act classy and sleep with as many guys as you want. I don't really think posting half naked selfies is much more slutty than posting a regular one. people post them because they want attention, either way. so how's one better than the other, just because there's different clothing?
and I think being an attention whore is the same as being a slut... and the old days' values weren't great in my eyes really, because people used to marry off 13 year olds. how's that moralistic @ all?
Most guys don't simply go after sex, way to dumb us down, could you be any more biased then preach about double standards?
This generation has devolved so much to think this is ok to parade around in public. Surprising enough, we don't want to see your privates, leave it in the bedroom and please for fucks sake shut up about being oppressed.
Preach it!
While I may agree with you, she never even insinuated that guys should be ashamed of having ferocious libido. All she said was not to be ashamed of it. No need to have a chip on your shoulder, bud.😊
@TaylorWD She conveyed that completely bud.
Thank you! Jeez, if I don't whip my dick out in public you don't get to strip down either!
I agree with your take , slut shaming causes sexual dysfunction in women , plus it's double standard BS , I slightly disagree with your statement " women want sex just as much as men " on average men have far higher sex drives than women , slut shaming causes this repression & guys that haven't learnt how to pleasure a woman don't help either. My golden rule , get HER off at least twice before I have my fun too , giving a woman a huge orgasm IS great in itself , I can't believe there are still " wham , bam , thank you ma'am " guys still around , they are missing out big time !!
it's fine to be a slut.
it's not fine to rant about how 'ignorant' or 'misogynistic' men are when you get told repeatedly, 'sorry, but i want a relationship with someone who doesn't have 15 past partners...'
Yes, if it's okay to be a slut, you should have no problem with women being called a slut.
"you should have no problem with women being called a slut." Yes I do have a problem with it, slut maybe defined as "a woman who has many casual sexual partners." but people who use it always use it as form of insult. Yes it's okay to be one but it's not okay to deride for being one.
So... you cannot call a person what they are? You cannot call a businessman a businessmen. You cannot call a broker a broker.. can't call a rapist a rapist.. can't call the President, the President. Can't call a slut a slut.. what kind of fucked up logic is that.
lol @ slut shamers.
What's so funny?
sup slut
if its ok to be a slut, y the anonymity?
Prude bitch and proud.
Uptight guy and proud! Most hoes don't waste their time with me because I don't give out sex to everyone. Call me old fashioned but I am disgusted by girls that sleep around and get drunk all the time.
I salute you 🍷 @Albinoninja66
@Albinoninja66 I salute you too pal. I wish more people our age were like you.
LOL A guy is a whore when he sleeps around. Didn't you know that? Being a whore and a slut is still not great of a thing. Especially with those pesky STDs roaming around.
Am I the only guy here who doesn't mind how many guys a girl has slept with?
I seem to understand guys themselves less and less every day.
I had a boyfriend who was absolutely horrified with how many guys I had slept with -- he was a virgin, and he wanted his first time to be with someone pure and wholesome -- and he thought I had fit the bill. We had this conversation long after the deed, and he didn't even mention being a virgin or anything.
@danceislife080 Yeah who cares how many people a girl sleeps with. Guys do the same thing.
Your a liberal numbnut like everybody these days trying to make all the right noises so you can sit on the proverbial fence and disappear in the crowd. Is it so mind boggling why there's double standards? Women get pregnant, sex comes with a lot more risk for a woman. Men give out and women take in. Is it that hard to understand? Women should be careful. Most men get girls pregnant and they're not in the slightest way interested in hanging about. Another kid with no dad. Are they not reasons enough for a woman to not be promiscuous
@bluenose1872 men shouldn't be promiscuous either then. maybe we should be teaching both men and women about consequences. Consequences of sex should not be on a woman alone and it is that mindset that perpetuates men thinking they are free of blame and could walk away and leave a woman to clean up the mess that they both created
@nymous1234 women don't have to sleep with men. They choose to knowing the risks. I don't sleep with everything in a skirt either. I've slept with 1 woman in nearly 12 years. Everybodies fukin everybody else now. Too dangerous. I never liked these cunts who boasted on about sleeping with a different woman every night. I just thought what a prick. If he can bullshit and use woman then I wouldn't trust the fucker much either. It speaks of real problems that behaviour. I'm happy sleeping with 1 person. It would amaze you the amount of guys out there who are the same. My mate ally has been with his missus since they were 14. They just got married at 38. 4 boys. Couldn't be happier.
@bluenose1872 Couldn't you just eliminate those risks by taking precautions? Doctor, Condoms, Pills, etc there are so many ways to prevent them?
Contraception is how I ended up with kids. Nothings 100%.
@nymous1234 I like to think I'm pretty careful, I've been on the same reliable birth control for years, I routinely get checked -- how much more careful do I need to be? I am fully aware of the consequences, but sex is fun...
I agree with everything you are saying.
Sexuality and our bodies are belong to us and we should be allowed to do with them what we please.
The double standard is wrong. If males or females enjoy sex and want to have many partners so be it. It is their decision and they will have to live with the good and that bad that may go with it.
If you want to have no partners, only 1 partner or many partners, that is your decision. People will always chose to comment on how others live. I am a fan of live and let live.
We are creatures of free will and can chose to do what we want.
Don't let others comments and opinions interfere with what is right for you. Likewise don't let your opinions interfere with what others want to do.
If people want to continue to label those who enjoy sex as sluts there is not much you can do about it. If you like sex, enjoy it with who you want when you want.
Never called anyone a slut. Sexual conduct Is no one's buisness
I take it you're an atheist? 😕
That would explain her irrationality. Common sense states that if your body and what you wear communicates a message to those around you, who will be affected by the messages you send, then you owe it to yourself and them to send the correct message. What she calls "common sense" is really just open rebellion against 1 Cor. 6:19-20, because she finds the implications offensive. Her first picture also begins its narrative breakdown with a false assumption; namely, that the guy will condemn her for refusing to sleep with him, implying that must be his true motive, when she can't know that. This is misandrist, and assumes all men are dogs. Everything in the images is either denial, defiance, or a straw argument.
@ObscuredBeyond I dont think bible and sense should be in the same sentence. LOL.
@Elena_the_Star: If someone bailed you out of the worst dungeon on Earth, would you not owe them at least a hint of gratitude? That is what the verse in 1 Corinthians 6 is alluding to. To say that makes "no sense" means not that you cannot comprehend, but that you're offended b the prospect that ANYTHING could trump you regarding rules and boundaries of your own sexual desire. That's humanistic, and it's emotional rejection, not rational.
@ObscuredBeyond I am not trusting what a an outdated book says about how my sexual desires should be. If it does, ask your god to stop being a control freak. Bible says the most illogical things ever, God magically gets up one day and decides to create an earth out of nowhere and needs to "rests" on the 7th day, why does he need rests if he is so powerful? It is apparently wrong to have pre marital sex but perfectly okay for Adam and Eve to bear kids outside of wedlock. They never got married. Next up is god decides he is not happy with his creations and goes like " how the hell could those shitheads live exactly like I want them to? I am gonna flood the whole damned earth and kill everyone except Noah and his family amd other creatures! !" And Noah builds some weird boat so large that ALL the animals, his family and him can live in it and survive a supposedly earth-destroying flood. I can go on and on Explain to me again why bible and sense are even distinctly related to each other?
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@Elena_the_Star : When did anything come along as an update to make it obsolete? Never? The Bible is not Windows 3.1, dear. You just don't want to face facts, ESPECIALLY if they agree with that book. And please don't go into a spiel about carbon dating, which relies on circular reasoning and poor assumptions. By the way, your emotional rejection is, by your same logic, also obsolete. Following Cain's folly does not make you any more modern than abiding by what has been said before it. There is no magic in a calendar date.
@ObscuredBeyond Lol I am the one who is rejecting it? You are going to everyone's comments about this post and trying to make them agree with what you want because you are desperate. You are desperately trying to find someone who will agree to your outdated thoughts. If you are such a believer in old age rituals find a poor animal and sacrifice it to to yout sadist god to make him happy. The very fact that you need a book to guide your life shows just how much capable you are. Peoplr and society and everyone need to CHANGE with time. Time has a relationship with development. If you can't can't keep up with the world that'shyour problem.
I never liked sluts, even for having sex.
Dat balance xD women don't approve here!
@Sjeggy I do haha
but did you still fuck them?
@VampireEmpress No. I never has the desire to have sex with slutty girls.
how do you know if they're slutty or not when you fuck?
I do not fuck slutty girls. @VampireEmpress
Alright. If you're against slut shaming then don't complain about men objectifying women. The way I see it and judging by what you say, your only worth is located in that hole you have between your legs. You're a sex tool.
Those who protest most strongly to being criticized over how they mistreat their sex organs, are those who lack insight on how to use their brains more effectively. Their sex organs are the only thing they've learned to utilize particularly well. So by that reasoning, telling them that boundaries with the use of said organs exist for a reason is like a house builder receiving a cease-and-desist letter on their pet project from the EPA. Resentment is the only reaction they'll know how to give.
It is totally okay , u can do whatever u want , i dont even know u ; p
Your lifestyle is your business. If you like casual sex, more power to you. Haters criticize because they want some, too.
Or because we don't date whores.
@Albinoninja66 ... and you objectify women.
Ok in your bullshit "politically correct" mind explain to me how I'm objectifying women? I hold myself to a high standard and I expect a girlfriend to do the same. If she's sleeping around with a bunch of guys and using some dumb mytake to justify her shitty behavior thend she is a slut. I'm calling a spade a spade. A girl can be a slut. I don't give a shit, but when she complains about not finding any good guys or always getting used then she's an idiot. If she wants to be slutty she should have fucking known the concequences. So try fitting that into your "open mind". Even the guys are sluts these days, smh.
@Albinoninja66 Slut and whore are derogatory terms, that's how. And you might want to tone the ad hominem down, doesn't help your case. Mkay?
You clearly don't even know what objectifying means then.
@Albinoninja66 Yes, I do. And I'm not the one using the term, so come back when you're done using logical fallacies.
Ok then define it
@Albinoninja66 Any idea or term of phrase that subtracts the human value of a person, often by sexual means. Give me a hard one!
Lmao that's not even close. Objectifying is downgrading someone to the status of an object hence the word OBJECTifying. Google it if you think I'm wrong. Learn some definition s before you start trying to enlighten me.
@Albinoninja66 Actually, you're incorrect. You basically just said what I said, in a different wording. What you're experiencing is the Dunning-Kruger Effect. If you don't know what that is, Google it.
In order for the objectifier to see the other as an object, they must first develop the artificial construct that the person in question isn't a person, but a thing. Thus, SUBTRACTING human value. Read the dictionary, makes a world of difference.
@Albinoninja66 Here's an idea: why don't YOU Google it?
@Albinoninja66 you're not a girl though. its not that easy to say no. and don't give me a bunch of shit for that, when a guy wants you, theyre REALLY REALLY fucking manipulative. REALLY manipulative. they know exactly what to say and do to get you to fuck them. they play it that they want to date you, and then they touch you up and get you horny and say nice things to you and give you lots of attention and know exactly what to say to make you feel good, then when you're good and prepped feeling happy and turned on they fuck you, then ditch you and now its another guy who's added a number to your list and you're still alone. yet future guys look at you like you're gross because youve had multiple guys treat you like shit. i would have had a relationship with every guy I've had sex with but only ONE of them actually wanted one. the rest were manipulative bastards. stop thinking women are the bad ones when its the guys who spout shit that they really like you when they only wanted a fuck.
@Albinoninja66 and you can call girls who fall for it dumb, im an intelligent person and looking back i probably was dumb, but when you're in the moment you don't understand how these guys make you feel. they ALWAYS play it like they actually want you seriously. im wising up to it more a little as i age and realising that all guys are full of shit and not worth my time, but when i was younger and more niave i thought the best of guys. i believed what they said to me and didn't think people would be cruel enough just to say shit to get in your pants. but they actually do. so stop blaming it all on girls for being "sluts" and start blaming guys who go around shagging girls casually when the girl NEVER wanted casual. I've never wanted casual and always been clear about that but still have had lots of casual sex unfortunately. because the guys made it casual. girls aren't all to blame, a lot of guys out there are dicks.
@Albinoninja66 And you're rude and suck at debates. You had the chance to calmly explain, but let my response register at an emotional level. You ignored logic and went straight to ad hominem. You have this erroneous belief that because that you were successful with a few girls that you know how women work, despite the fact that these women were most likely have low standards (a very fine example of the Dunning-Kruger Effect). You insulted a kind stranger who simply wanted to set the record straight and brushed off any sense she was trying to talk into you. And to top it all off, you resorted to the childish tactic of down voting my comment because you didn't like what I had to say, which I shouldn't expect any different from an 18 year old who's likely still in high school. Send me hate mail, if you like. You're impotent rage amuses me.
Lmao the stupid just keeps coming. How is down voting immature anyways? It's there for a reason
@Albinoninja66 Good, good. Let the hate flow through you!
@Albinoninja66 Stupid? By what quantifiable metric? Those hormones must really be a trip. 18? So, tell me, how, exactly, does your limited experience with women and obvious lack of social skills qualify you to be the judge of what is considered misogyny and what is not? How does your absence of any logical merit make him stupid? Or her, for that matter? by the way, objectification includes referring to women as "Whores" because it reduces their value that of, you guessed it, a SEXUAL OBJECT! Derp! "Even guys these days are sluts, smh.", that's a red herring. You said "whores" in referrence to women, not men. Your logic was perforated by SIGguy, yet you foolishly laugh it off and call him stupid. You must really be desperate to be right, which is a telltale sign of an inferiority complex. You're a perfect example of the psychological phenomenon SIGguy made referrence to. So, you go ahead and call me stupid, too. At least I'm not trying to compensate for a sensitive ego.
Yup, so you should just fucking cheat on your boyfriends, because, society or something, hooray for feminism!
People catching stds like the common cold. I'm happy being a prude.
Sluts have no peace. That is why their a slut.
I have no argument, but next time don't use the term "Slut". Slut is an insult, so it could be like saying 'Why it's okay to be stupid". Both are insults, so both of them sound idiotic. Next time use a more intelligent word such as promiscuous.
I had to use it to draw attention to the issue. The definition of a slut is "a woman who has many casual sexual partners." The word was invented to specifically shame women who have many casual sex partners. There is nothing wrong with a woman being promiscuous, the word slut is only an insult because of the negative connotations attached to it.
I see, very well then.
By being a "slut," you are sending men a signal that their children might not really be theirs and women a signal that you might steal their husbands. My definition of a slut/whore is someone who sleeps with people who are in a relationship or if they are in one too. there is a huge difference between getting attnetion from guys and being a slut, so make sure you understand.
1. its bad because you have no respect for yourself or your body. Girls think its ok to sleep around with guys and its not. ask yourself... what will your future husband think?
Our brains evolved to be adaptive in small tribes, where forces like jealousy and sexual competition could be fatal or, at least, extremely disruptive. There is only one reason people slut shame, anger. If you are a guy, she dumped you. If you are a gal, she is after your guy. If the first two don't apply, you are just jealous. Damn sluts!
By all means slut around all you want. But when the time comes to find a quality guy for marriage you can kiss that thought good bye.
They're good for sex, but never as a companion
Nothing wrong with having sex when done safely and consenting, but "slut" is such a derogatory term, I wouldn't exactly use that in a positive way.
Well just walk around naked and you expect guys not to objectiy you? You are so logical (!)
sure go for it if it makes ya happy just dont go around like the other gilrs blamming every one else for their situation at the end of it is all I say : D
Do whatever makes you happy. I don't believe in the word slut. If a girl is happy when she has sex with multiple partners, then she should keep doing what makes her happy.
Thanks :)
You're welcome. :D
You can marry such a girl then and have babies with her and tell us how it went in the end.
@openwide Guys who think like you are the reason why poverty, famine, and war exists today. Mercy is stilling a chaotic mind.
I think you missed my point, everybody can do whatever they want, but when doing things that are outside of social norms they can't expect to be fully accepted, with sluts its a pretty big deal, hard to use one for building a family, people discuss about this so everybody knows not to take the bait. Like eating a positioned mushroom, we document the fact so less people dye trying to eat that, its just survival of the society in the end. My point was that its hard to build a family with these women, not about dominating them ( which seem to be what you understood), they can do whatever they want. However you say this line of thinking is wrong, prove me wrong with actions, marry a slut have children with her and show me how wrong I was in the end.
@openwide You will always be wrong if you continue to think like that. Fear will not save you. Do not trust corrupted memories. A Spirit cannot be engineered. We are more than our vessels. Truth is never lost.
You're absolutely wrong