Why its imposible to be friends with some men?

With some its this feeling of sexual tension... i guess

Or some type of non stop sex joke that every joke or comment ends in sex related topic

Why this happens?

(My actual boyfriend started this way with me)

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  • Men and women are DIFFERENT. Similar in many ways, but also different. Let's look at how men and women divide and sort the people they meet.

    Why its imposible to be friends with some men?

    Women have "relationship attraction" with roughly 3-5% of the (age-appropriate, single) men they meet, want to be "just friends" with maybe 45% of the guys they meet, and have no interest at all in about half the men they meet. Now, let's look at the guys:

    Why its imposible to be friends with some men?

    You'll notice that men break women down into just about the same percentages, and similarly, they have "relationship attraction" to about 3-5% of the women they meet, and they also have no interest in all with about 50% of the women they meet. But that middle 45% or so is NOT marked "just friends", is it? No, it isn't - because men DO NOT WANT TO BE "JUST FRIENDS" WITH WOMEN. And, in fact, that 45% for men is the "women I don't have any interest in being in a relationship with, but still find physically attractive enough to bang" group.

    Just as women put guys in the "friend zone", men put girls in the "bang zone." There is no category for "just friends" for men, because there is zero benefit for a guy to be "just friends" with a girl. We can be acquaintances or colleagues, but not FRIENDS. We just aren't built that way. And you can take this to the bank: if you have "friend zoned" a guy and he's still your "friend", there's a 90+% chance that he's just being your "friend" because he's hoping to be there when you break up with your current man, or when he cheats on you or kicks your dog or whatever, and you are looking for someone to comfort you. He's looking for a way in, and some guys will stick around for YEARS, looking, searching, hoping for a way in. Don't believe me? Tell these "friends" that they need to know that, no matter what, you will never, ever have sex with them, ever. Once you've killed all hope, you'll find that nearly all of these "friends" will fade out of your life - because the hope of sex (or, sometimes, the hope of a relationship) is the only reason they accepted the TERRIBLE position of being "just friends" with a woman they found attractive. And, yes, for a guy, the Friend Zone a terrible, awful place to be.

    Yes, you can be "just friends" with a man who already has a successful relationship, or one who doesn't find you attractive, or one who is gay, or if you dated his close friend, etc., but if we're talking about men who are straight and single and even remotely age-appropriate, then forget about it. You can't be "just friends" with them and you shouldn't even try.

    • Wow Interesting I thught of my current boyfriend as friend since he shared his love failures and i gave advices

    • While women can be "just friends" with guys, most guys can't be "just friends" with girls. Clearly he didn't think of you as "just friends" or you wouldn't be in a relationship...

    • Before that

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  • Because the main reason guys look for women is for a special level of intimacy which more than often results in sex. Guys can find a buddy, a trustworthy person, a loyal partner also in a guy but there is a level of intimacy he can´t find in a guy (excluding gay guys), so he starts looking for a female.
    My theory is that guys that are friends with women either are not/ not anymore attracted enough to the women they´re friends with to see them as a partner for a relationship, or they have a lower sex drive than other guys and are therefore more able to control who they want to sleep with or they´ve known their female friend for so many years that they´ve started as childhood friends and are still friends as adults.

    • He cried yesterday Saying he felt depressed Also he felt bad in health

    • Its good or bad a guy cries with me? I hugged and kissed him amd wiped his tears

    • It´s a different form of intimacy because it´s a more special and unique form a guy doesn´t trust every woman he meets with. It´s therefore a positive sign of your relationship because he feels comfortable enough being super vulnerable around you and the way you handled the situation was also good.

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Most Helpful Girl

  • It’s just the way guys are! I think that with guys, they always see sex as one possible benefit that can come out of the friendship with us. (Especially if we are even remotely attractive) Whereas we tend to be friends with guys whom we absolutely KNOW that we have no romantic or sexual feelings for! Once again I believe it comes down to a fundamental difference between men and women. They always hope that someday we’ll have sex with our friend, whereas we only befriend men we know that we will NEVER have those kinds of feelings for, as I just said! That’s why all of my male friends are gay!

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  • Guys and girls can be just friends, but we typically view the friendship differently.

    Men are more likely than women to see their friend as a potential partner. That does not mean that friendship is necessarily just a ruse to get into your pants, but that sex is one potential (potentially desirable) outcome.

    I can't post clickable links at my current Xper level, but here's the URL for a SciAm article about the subject. It includes a PDF of the original study of you want to read it. Replace the "(dot)" with an actual dot.

    www. scientificamerican (dot) com/article/men-and-women-cant-be-just-friends

  • We’re not designed to be friends. We are designed for mutual attraction, baby making, spreading, and taking dominion over the earth.

    • Oh Well

    • Hopefully you can find one who consumes your heart and inclines you towards the above activity

    • I dont know

  • It's a near constant battle between brain and penis. If you're attractive then keeping you around only serves one purpose, and that's sleeping with you at some point.

    Every girl I've ever been friends with who says things like "I just find it easier to hang out with guys, it's less complicated", I've definitely slept with her. We might start friends after, but we've slept together.

    • Omg you got Nathan as avatar🥰🥰🥰🥰 Is penis really THAT important I mean... how can a penis control your brain How? explain? When penis is stronger?

  • Because one of you are going to fall in love, and it's likely the other one (usually the woman) isn't going to want to take things to the next level, and leave the other one heartbroken and it'll eventually end the friendship. Happens most of the time.

    Men and women CAN be friends, if one or both of them are gay. Other than that, forget about it! Even if one of them is married/with someone, the other will still eventually catch feelings.

  • Eh, because I have so many other male friends? Why should I want to be friends with a woman? What more can you offer that my friends don't?

    • Because she is good person

  • Guys always try to do it

  • Because if you’re attractive we are always going to be thinking about it.

    • Why? I see atteactive guys but i dont think about fuck them

    • Men are different in that we are programmed to want to procreate with attractive women. It’s just the way we’re made.

  • because they want to fuck you, simple as that

    • Some dont know me ir see the 1st time How can you want to fuck someone you dont know

    • "you female, you have cunt, i'm male, i have penis. me need insiter penis in cunt" stupidity

    • Oh, how much I love people who get it!!!

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  • Not necessarily but makes for asking a guy friend what your guy is thinking or who you date

  • SEX is the thing here

  • It's impossible to be friends with some women too

  • Legs open far too easily. I have been a beneficiary of said awesomeness, but also a victim of a fake pregnancy and virus.

  • I think they might end up wanting sex. When you're close friends with the opposite sex people think you're dating.

  • Men and women can't be friends.

    • Yeah

  • A lot of times we think you wanna fuck us

  • I don't think there's anything wrong with sexual jokes between friends.

  • Because there are so many assholes out there

  • "My actual boyfriend started this way with me"

    Lol, this is telling.

    • He did Im in love😂 didn't lie when said got german shepherd tongue😏🤣😂💦💦

    • @ItsMykolaJenkins You saying that line proves exactly WHY things can never just stay "as friends." If he wanted to move things to the next level and you didn't see him in that way, the two of you wouldn't be speaking to each other anymore.