Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
The Problem
Our younger generation doesn't seem to have a lot of sex. This seems weird considering that we live in a generation that is more sexually covert than ever, and in a generation that frequently uses apps like Tinder & Bumble. You would think we would be swimming in sex, but the statistics show otherwise. What is holding us back?
Various Explanations
Lets start with the effect of social media/smartphones on our generation. In communication theory, we generally want to reduce conflict and uncertainty as quickly as possible in a conversation. Smartphones also give us the option of 'avoiding' conflict. When you're not entirely comfortable with a conversation in real life you might opt for another one digitally on the spot. Perhaps this has made our generation less capable of dealing with conflict, and thus when talking to a potential partner, our discomfort makes us more likely to avoid conversing with them and visit the comfort of our smartphone instead.
Okay, but what about Tinder? People who study Behavioural Economics seem to love talking about the logistics of online dating (Look at Dan Ariely for example). Most of these people seem to conclude that women become much pickier when given more dating options. Women on Tinder are more likely to stop dating and go back to considering their other options. As a result, many women stay single because they seem incapable of picking the 'one' given the illusion of choice.
Many women also wonder why men rarely approach. Why would you when there is online dating? Given these logistics its a vicious circle of failure. You can avoid conflict by dating online, but being given more choices makes it hard to find the right person.
This explains why the percentage of people dating has gone to 62% (down from 86%), but what about casual sex? Isn't that why people use Tinder to begin with? Well, when millennials do end up having sex, it is now more common for it to be done casually (like friends with benefits, one night stands, etc). These don't seem to last though, and that might be whats accounting for less sex in general.
there's also the idea that our new environment (with tech) has made parents more child-centric which is different from solely expecting children to be 'home on time for dinner'. This, according to Yamallis Diaz, a clinical assistant professor child and adolescent psychiatry at NYU Langone Medical Center, might make it harder for children to go through relationships and deal with problems on their own.
Conclusion
Smartphones are cool, but we might want to use them a bit less. When you're in a work environment, turn off notifications and sounds that might pull you away from your environment. Don't be afraid of interacting with everything around you. Also, Tinder is a waste of time.
Also, let me know if you disagree with anything or what you thought of this MyTake 😉
What Girls & Guys Said
35 53Because of porn and the fleshlight.
I laughed for 20 minutes straight after reading your title
It isn't my research hahah. Just me trying to explain potential causes
Millenials on average are having less sex. What is shown is that some men and most women are actually have MORE sex than ever before. But the ones who aren't having sex are really driving down the average.
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Interesting thread
I agree a 100%. As a millenial I learned the hard way that not all what online connection offers you is practical and that is actually more risky to have a romantic relationship online, than offline, therefore I rather the old school method of finding someone, since is a 0 waste of time because there is no idealistic ideas going on about your partner.
Yeah yeah I'm totally with you on "smart phones are bad," and all that, but... "Our younger generation doesn't seem to have a lot of sex. "
How do you actually know that? Is there a study you read that led you to conclude that or something?
Actually there is. I have checked it out personally.
@es20490446e Interesting.
My guess is that in old times people hadn't easy access to porn, so the urgency was higher. As simple as that.
We have more weirdos now than we ever had. Less human interaction due to smartphones and online communication. And all the feminism and anti-rape stuff floating around makes men either very careful about how they approach girls, or stop initiating completely and just friend zoning everyone or not committing in general. The fact that more girls are on medication is also a concern because mentally they can be unstable when you least expect it.
Put yourself in a guys shoes. Imagine you know a girl in a friendly way and she shows all the right signs that she likes you and hints at sex. You ask her if she consents, she says yes, and you do it. The next day, for whatever reason, she doesn't like you and files a rape case against you.
OR
your in a relationship but not for much longer. You need to break up, for whatever reason, and she doesn't like that and files a rape case against you.
I've heard a handful of stories like these, and as a guy it kills my motivation to commit to girls. I've friend zoned and ghosted so many because this stuff which is always in the back of my mind.
I wouldn't be surprised if some or any of this is true. With that in mind, I think the key is whether or not a person (regardless of generation) is willing and able to break the social norm and do what's necessary in life - whether it's to put the smartphone down and actually talk to people or to confront conflict and solve it. Yes, parents haven't seem to have done a good enough job with their kids the last several years. But the kids themselves need to take some accountability, as they have ignored and rebelled against their parents. There's many different factors as to why one person (or era of people) have sex less often. Each person must assess their personal life honestly and conclude on their own, if it's even necessary to assess. Not everyone wants to or should get married and have kids. We must stop pressuring ALL of our young people into our own agenda. Agendas aren't always good.
women are cock blocking like they are Heimdall from Asgard.
Yes.
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I think the online dating theory hurting real dating/sexual encounters among young people to be really fascinating. I would say in general it's that young women feel more empowered to say no. youth culture is more feminist than ever before even if no one wants to admit it. "the cool group" is any given youth social scene is less of a boys club and so women don't have to sleep their way in to be a part of it and can even determine some of the rules. women have a lot less biological incentive to have multiple partners.
Maybe because people don't meet up in person anymore.
I mean great and all but there’s more to it than technology. What about divorce fears? Etc. And I mean a phone isn’t realistically stopping you just put it down and there you go. Pick it up later. Also have you tried online dating? If not go on tinder and make a profile and tell me how successful you are or if you get a reply.
Good question... i need to know the answer myself too.
Good take
What? We are probably having more. Especially with this crappy hookup culture that’s popular right now.
Cool take bud
Porn man, that damn porn. That shit needs to be banned
The main reason is porn.
Millennials are the most stupid.
We’re not as bad as your tide pod eating generation tho.
@Angie221994 that's what I talk about , you are 24 yet too stupid.