Why is my friends with benefits always to busy to hook up?

[Anonymous]

OK I have been friends with benefits with this Guy for a year...in the last 6 months he. Flacked a lot on me I was thinking about cutting all ties if he flaked this last time...he didn't...anyways, I'm sick of the excuses as "I'm busy with work" etc...I'm always available to him but when I need my needs met never available ...I have tried talking to him about it and he always says the same o things busy with work but always has time to party watch the game with the boys...I myself need my sexual needs met more than once a month...idk what to do or how to handle the situation...I have found myself always asking but once a month receiving and I Think that ain't cool...can I please get some feedback...

[RedStiletto]

Wow...I thought I might have been the only one in that situation a while back. Well, I stopped calling him to hook up. That's all it was and all it was ever going to be, and that was fine with me because he was like talking to a dry piece of toast.:) Anyway...I just stopped. As horny as I was I couldn't bring myself to ask yet another time only to be told that he had so finish a paper, or would have to "call me later" after he had a night out with the boys. I felt like a douch so I just stopped. And guess what...about a month went by and the guy called me. If you get sick of it always being on his terms, then one day you'll decide to stop it too. I kept thinking "this dumbass has me all ready and waiting to do WHATEVER he wants because I enjoy it, and he's too busy!" F*** him. Let it be on your terms or simply get another FWB...they're certainly NOT hard to find. Good luck and have some fun :)

[Asker]

Yes girl that's how I feel when I told him this last time that I was thinking of finding someone else..he told me to let him know if I do...like it bothered him then he did a 360 like he didn't care if I did...I'm just going to stop asking and texting...not be so available to him all the time ...everytime I ask I feel stupid...

[pearl1979]

Possibilty he is hookin up with someone else

[Asker]

I think so too thinking of letting him go...

[pearl1979]

u should! meanwhile get a vibrator..