In a hypersexualized society, pre-marital sexual abstinence may seem like a very unpopular or unfavorable choice. However, I believe there are numerous benefits to pre-marital sexual abstinence, especially when both partners are virgins before marriage.
1. You Will Have No Other Comparison
Men are often anxious about their penis size and whether they can still please their women with the penis. This assumes that the women already have experience with bigger or smaller penises and already have their own preferences. However, virgin women have no sexual experience whatsoever, so they won't be able to tell whether it's too big/small. Although they can certainly read about average penis size measurements, they are less likely to be judgmental when a man comes with a 3-inch penis or a 7-inch penis. They may just assume that that's how sex is.
Virgin men may not be able to ascertain whether their women are "good at sex", and the virgin women may not be able to ascertain whether their men are "good at sex". This is a good thing. It means they both start at a novice level and improve their sexual skills together, tailoring their skills to fit each other's needs and wants. If something works, then it is kept. If something does not work, then it is rejected.
2. Virginity Is Never Something To Be Ashamed Of.
No one, male or female, should be ashamed for being a virgin on the wedding day. Instead, virginity on the wedding day means that both partners are ready to commit to each other, and marriage will be consummated. Sex is just an act of consummation of marriage. Therefore, to have sex within marriage is something to be proud of, because pre-marital abstinence is an indication that a person has taken control of his or her life instead of being led by the whims of human behavior.
3. Having Sex With Only One Partner For Life Means That You Treat That Partner More Importantly Than Anyone Else
Casual sex has no commitment. Relationship sex has more commitment. Marriage sex is the highest level of commitment. Having sex with only one partner for life means that you treat that partner more importantly than anyone else. That one partner is beyond compare, your one true love, your significant other, your other half, etc.
4. You Adapt To Each Other's Sexual Needs
By being virgin on the wedding day, you start with an empty slate. School does teach sex ed, but how Tab A is inserted into Slot B is not important and not mentioned. And you do not consume pornography or sexual services, because they are not respectful of women. Thus, you have no knowledge or expectations about sex. This is a good thing. It just means you and your partner can learn from each other. Just turn off the lights, sleep in the same bed, and allow nature run its course. Somehow, the penis will find its way to the vagina; it just takes time. People come with the innate ability to be sexually aroused when they are touched intimately, and the process will escalate to full-blown intercourse.
5. You Are Setting Up A Proper Example For Your Children And Grandchildren
You are showing to your children and grandchildren that it is definitely possible to be abstinent until marriage, and that pre-marital sexual abstinence is worth the wait.
I agree, i'm still a virgin and thats not gonna change until marriage
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I'm considering it but here's the thing I feel like I'd wonder what it's like to be with other guys because I'm the type to always look for what's better out there. Also I get bored doing the same thing after awhile so I don't know if I even wanna be married
Then I wonder if we can even have kids like what if he's sterile?
And my last or most dilemma is FINDING a guy who's a Virgin and attractive and a Christian etc.
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I'm waiting for marraige but for other reasons. these ones aren't very good. Lol
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"I would not buy a car and not test drive it first." Priceless The best solution I see is someone combining a computer and a sex doll. Maybe a sex -bot and program your sexual needs into it too. It should be smart enough to marry.
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NO other comparison will always end badly. You and/or your partner will wonder what it might be like otherwise.
Being ashamed of virginity has nothing to do with why pre-marital matters.
If you think premarital sex makes you treat your partner better... look up josh dugger. As I stated in the first sentence... after you finally have sex, the wonder of what else there is will inevitably take over. (especially for the male)
Who says premarital sex is a proper example for children? Religion? You can teach kids to have self respect and dignity without abstinence. There is a major difference between having sex before marriage and being a sexual deviant.
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I'm never getting married, so this is practically meaningless for anyone who isn't planning on marriage
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Butbutbut!!! I'm never going to get married! :(
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Then you should stay a virgin... forever. Legend says that if you're 30 and still a virgin, you'll become a wizard. But in your case you'd become the wizard of the universe. :O
JuicyBrain
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Hi ! I just wanted to become your friend just in case you become the wizard of the universe... I think you're cool man ! ;-P @crazy_eyes
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@crazy_eyes I still plan on having a partner. -_- I just don't like the whole marriage thing AT ALL.
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There's no basis for the assumption that you will adapt to each other's needs, or that you will have no expectations.
Virgins still show up with a certain sex drive and certain acts that appeal to them. You're not magically compatible. Unless you think you are fine with whatever your partner wants, whether that's no sex or 3 times a day no matter what, and are down for any fetish imaginable.
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Having a certain sex drive is inevitable. But knowing certain acts is definitely learned. I'd say that maybe 50% of my knowledge of sex positions comes from Wikipedia's sexuality portal, and 50% comes from watching porn. I am aware that Wikipedia covers a lot of sex positions, even more so than the wealth of porn that is out there. Wikipedia and Online Pornography are 2 ways that people can learn about sex positions. Knowledge of existing sex positions is definitely learned, not innate.
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Positions are not that big a deal. It's more acts and frequency and style. People don't need porn to think of stuff. I figured out 69 was possible without anyone telling me about it. Anyone disagreements around sex is one of the two leading causes of divorce. You don't need to have prior experience to know if you're unhappy havong it 1/5th as much as you want or never the sex acts you want Or vice versa.
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I guess you read mytake didn't you😂
If so then you know everything I have to say about you prude ass virgins out there. If not click here
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What part of I don't care if it's promoted did you miss?
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Well looks like no one agreed with you. Jus saying, I find that kinda funny😄
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For example, I really do believe that pre-marital sexual intercourse in a relationship is detrimental to the development of that relationship. This is not just whimsical belief; it is empirical knowledge. I believe that the belief that "you need to experiment sexually with someone before a relationship/commitment/marriage" is unfounded and harmful. People may believe that all they want; it just isn't true. The liberal side of me believes that gays and lesbians should have equal rights and equal opportunity in life. They have been discriminated enough; it's now time to treat them as normal people. Like their heterosexual counterparts, I believe that they should be abstinent until marriage, and I believe that LGBT marriage should legalized and accepted by society.
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Correction: ... and I believe that LGBT marriage should BE legalized and accepted by society.
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So as long as gay people aren't "sluts" in your eyes they're fine? Right😒 Your skills as a writer? Are you published? You write mytakes for GaG. if you step up your game from bullshit mytakes to bullshit huffington post articles then I guess technically you could call yourself a "writer" but I think you're just a faceless person with an opinion same as anyone else here.
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24 27I agree, i'm still a virgin and thats not gonna change until marriage
I'm considering it but here's the thing I feel like I'd wonder what it's like to be with other guys because I'm the type to always look for what's better out there. Also I get bored doing the same thing after awhile so I don't know if I even wanna be married
Then I wonder if we can even have kids like what if he's sterile?
And my last or most dilemma is FINDING a guy who's a Virgin and attractive and a Christian etc.
I'm waiting for marraige but for other reasons. these ones aren't very good. Lol
"I would not buy a car and not test drive it first."
Priceless
The best solution I see is someone combining a computer and a sex doll. Maybe a sex -bot and program your sexual needs into it too. It should be smart enough to marry.
NO other comparison will always end badly. You and/or your partner will wonder what it might be like otherwise.
Being ashamed of virginity has nothing to do with why pre-marital matters.
If you think premarital sex makes you treat your partner better... look up josh dugger. As I stated in the first sentence... after you finally have sex, the wonder of what else there is will inevitably take over. (especially for the male)
Who says premarital sex is a proper example for children? Religion?
You can teach kids to have self respect and dignity without abstinence.
There is a major difference between having sex before marriage and being a sexual deviant.
I'm never getting married, so this is practically meaningless for anyone who isn't planning on marriage
Butbutbut!!! I'm never going to get married! :(
Then you should stay a virgin... forever. Legend says that if you're 30 and still a virgin, you'll become a wizard. But in your case you'd become the wizard of the universe. :O
Hi ! I just wanted to become your friend just in case you become the wizard of the universe... I think you're cool man ! ;-P @crazy_eyes
@crazy_eyes I still plan on having a partner. -_- I just don't like the whole marriage thing AT ALL.
There's no basis for the assumption that you will adapt to each other's needs, or that you will have no expectations.
Virgins still show up with a certain sex drive and certain acts that appeal to them. You're not magically compatible. Unless you think you are fine with whatever your partner wants, whether that's no sex or 3 times a day no matter what, and are down for any fetish imaginable.
Having a certain sex drive is inevitable. But knowing certain acts is definitely learned. I'd say that maybe 50% of my knowledge of sex positions comes from Wikipedia's sexuality portal, and 50% comes from watching porn. I am aware that Wikipedia covers a lot of sex positions, even more so than the wealth of porn that is out there. Wikipedia and Online Pornography are 2 ways that people can learn about sex positions. Knowledge of existing sex positions is definitely learned, not innate.
Positions are not that big a deal. It's more acts and frequency and style. People don't need porn to think of stuff. I figured out 69 was possible without anyone telling me about it. Anyone disagreements around sex is one of the two leading causes of divorce. You don't need to have prior experience to know if you're unhappy havong it 1/5th as much as you want or never the sex acts you want Or vice versa.
I guess you read mytake didn't you😂
If so then you know everything I have to say about you prude ass virgins out there. If not click here
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a29669-prudes-regular-people-why-we-ll-always-hate-each-other
Your myTake is not promoted/featured. Unpromoted myTakes usually do not have many views. A few tips to you: you may want to clean up your language a bit. Proper spelling, grammar, and punctuation can make your writing go a long way and make you seem like a very intelligent person, even if people disagree with you.
Well there's two problems with that. 1) I don't give a fuck 2) I don't give a fuck I don't care if anyone likes mytake, I say what I say because it's what I think. And if people came to the Internet not wanting to read fuck and shit, then they should just go back to using encyclopedia britannica instead.
Writing well is not really about what opinion you hold, but how convincing you make your Takes. You can be conservative or liberal, and the Content Manager will approve either liberal-oriented one or the conservative-oriented one, as long as it is well-written. Trust me, I know. I have written pieces with a conservative bent as well as pieces with a liberal bent.
What part of I don't care if it's promoted did you miss?
Well looks like no one agreed with you. Jus saying, I find that kinda funny😄
I have experience with writing 91 myTakes, this one included. In my experience, whether a myTake gets selected for Featured myTake is not dependent on popularity or favorability by the masses, but on corporate necessity and variety. GirlsAskTeam is always looking for various myTakes from various authors. It is possible for an author to write in different writing tones to boost variation. Higher-quality myTakes also get Featured twice a day. I know this, because I talked to the Content Manager. The real reason why I'm writing myTakes is that I find writing myTakes as a good experience for me as a writer, and it can provide me Xper points, which can be used to purchase Amazon gift cards ($20 in face value). However, I don't want to sacrifice my writer's integrity. So, I tend to write about topics I care about.
For example, I really do believe that pre-marital sexual intercourse in a relationship is detrimental to the development of that relationship. This is not just whimsical belief; it is empirical knowledge. I believe that the belief that "you need to experiment sexually with someone before a relationship/commitment/marriage" is unfounded and harmful. People may believe that all they want; it just isn't true. The liberal side of me believes that gays and lesbians should have equal rights and equal opportunity in life. They have been discriminated enough; it's now time to treat them as normal people. Like their heterosexual counterparts, I believe that they should be abstinent until marriage, and I believe that LGBT marriage should legalized and accepted by society.
Correction: ... and I believe that LGBT marriage should BE legalized and accepted by society.
So as long as gay people aren't "sluts" in your eyes they're fine? Right😒 Your skills as a writer? Are you published? You write mytakes for GaG. if you step up your game from bullshit mytakes to bullshit huffington post articles then I guess technically you could call yourself a "writer" but I think you're just a faceless person with an opinion same as anyone else here.